anika99 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I think some people are being too hard and too judgemental of the OP. Some are saying "geez it was years ago, get over it" but it wasn't years ago to the OP as he just found out. This is new to him and it's understandable that he is going to go through some mixed emotions while he comes to terms with this revelation. From my own perspective I would say it's not about being a virgin or having multiple partners so much as it's about dishonesty and it's not just a lie that was told 8 years ago, it's a lie that the wife continued to let the OP believe in for 8 years. The OP may have thought he and his wife had no secrets, that they knew everything about each other and that they had openness and honesty between them so of course he is shocked and troubled by this revelation. I'm sure it makes him wonder what else he doesn't know about his wife. OP I think what you do from here really depends on what you know about your wife and your marriage. If she has been a loyal caring and dependable partner for 8 years then I don't think this is worth getting divorced over. Perhaps get some marital or personal counselling just to help you and your wife process the stress and emotions that this revelation has stirred up. If I were you I would have some questions about that sex tape. Like why is it suddenly coming to light now and how did your wife know it was going to be released? Has she stayed in contact with the guy she made the tape with and why is he trying to hurt her? Those are some of the questions I would want to know the answers to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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