echo123 Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Have been breaking up with my ex for over 10 months. He was my first love and I am in early 30s. I am living in a small town, where its not easy to find someone that I really like. Had a few ONS and briefly dated a guy, not much into him. Had some fun. Then I realized I want meaningful sex. But any chance finding someone or should I go back w/ my ex since I have been waiting for 30 yrs to find someone like him. Thanx for ur input. Link to post Share on other sites
littleplanet Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Small town blues? Sort of cuts down on the market size, um? Going back to your ex shouldn't be governed by how few other choices there are - unless there is something uniquely special about him. This often why people leave small towns. If you're looking for something that just isn't there, but could be elsewhere.....that's reason enough for leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 He's your ex for a reason. Keep it that way. Everyone goes through these thoughts... hell, I was just thinking the other day if I'd meet another girl I actually liked after I lost a certain girl. The next one will come around eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Unless whatever caused you to break up has been resolved, there is no going back. Yes small towns can make it tougher to meet someone but it's not impossible. Tell friends & family you are open to meeting someone. You never know who has a cousin who just happens to be in town. Make a little effort. Go to the next town over. Try old but open up your geography to the nearest bigger city. Link to post Share on other sites
Author echo123 Posted May 24, 2014 Author Share Posted May 24, 2014 Small town blues? Sort of cuts down on the market size, um? Going back to your ex shouldn't be governed by how few other choices there are - unless there is something uniquely special about him. This often why people leave small towns. If you're looking for something that just isn't there, but could be elsewhere.....that's reason enough for leaving. Yeah, he is sweet, smart, and generous. Like I said, of all the guys, over 30, I have dated, he is the best. He is the one who broke up with me when we reached the point to start a family. He s from the biggest town nearby and LDR kills him, quote his words. I have this amazing job in the town, working here for over 10 yrs. Feels like everything settled down. Tried to land a job in my ex city. Not great deal, busy but low pay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author echo123 Posted May 24, 2014 Author Share Posted May 24, 2014 Unless whatever caused you to break up has been resolved, there is no going back. Yes small towns can make it tougher to meet someone but it's not impossible. Tell friends & family you are open to meeting someone. You never know who has a cousin who just happens to be in town. Make a little effort. Go to the next town over. Try old but open up your geography to the nearest bigger city. Been there, done there, starting 4 yrs ago. Finally meet someone, then comes the problem LDR. Thanx for ur advice anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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