Gagirl Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 Two days ago my special needs child told me that his cousins were calling him names and bullying him. When he scratched one of them in retaliation he was disciplined and his cousins were not. I confronted my husband about this. My husband aggressively yelled for my son to come upstairs and tell him what happened. My son was scared to death. He told my son this is what happens when you tell your mom about my family. Don't tell her anything else or she will never let you see them again. He also told my son that I was the bully instead. After the incident my son said he was confused and not sure what he should do now. When I confronted my husband about this the next day, he denied saying any of this but both my son and I heard him say these things. How should I handle this situation? I'm afraid he's going to turn my kids against me. Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted May 23, 2014 Share Posted May 23, 2014 (edited) Disciplined him how? We need more info/backstory; how long ago did your families merge, what is the relationship like between stepfather and stepson, does your husband view you as an overprotective mom etc.? Edited May 23, 2014 by TAV Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 You heard him say these things and waited until the next day to confront him about this? I am confused. Cousins or stepsons? He said this to all of the kids? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 Two days ago my special needs child told me that his cousins were calling him names and bullying him. When he scratched one of them in retaliation he was disciplined and his cousins were not. I confronted my husband about this. My husband aggressively yelled for my son to come upstairs and tell him what happened. My son was scared to death. He told my son this is what happens when you tell your mom about my family. Don't tell her anything else or she will never let you see them again. He also told my son that I was the bully instead. After the incident my son said he was confused and not sure what he should do now. When I confronted my husband about this the next day, he denied saying any of this but both my son and I heard him say these things. How should I handle this situation? I'm afraid he's going to turn my kids against me. Is your husband the father? if not, then obviously your H doesn't have your child's best interest at heart! Bullying is wrong and those cousins should be ashamed of themselves, picking on a kid, let alone one with special needs! Your son must know you love him and are protective of him. Those cousins should not be allowed around anymore until they learn to be nicer and considerate. As for your husband, you two need to sit and talk this out, the lies and denial are not good at all, it just makes your marriage rocky and as time goes along you're gonna trust him less. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 Are you married to this jerk? Divorced? What? If divorced, take him to court for trying to turn your kid against you. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted May 24, 2014 Share Posted May 24, 2014 Is he the father of these children or step dad? Why didn't you go to the party? Link to post Share on other sites
Amy74 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Yikes...lots of questions here. Definitely another sit down with the Dad...he doesn't know that you heard him say those things to your son? Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 We need more details. Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh1967 Posted June 6, 2014 Share Posted June 6, 2014 Oh HELL no! My child would NEVER see those people again and I would seriously be reconsidering marriage to a so-called man who punishes his special needs child for defending himself against bullies. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Ok, your child is special needs, that's not saying alot - were they even making fun of him and bullying him for being special needs?? How old are these kids? Just way to little info here to pass judgement which some people do WAY to quickly here at times. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 In addition - very confusing to follow, first it's your son, then at the end you say he's turning your KIDS against you???? Link to post Share on other sites
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