ex all of a sudden wants to be friends after apologizing. want something??

[momto3boys]

My ex randomly emails me and like i said in my other post apologizes. Says he is sorry for how he has been treating me and the mean things he has said. Then tells me he plans to sell his boat and guns and give me money from it to pay off everyone i owe money to (since i have had to borrow to get by since he is paying my bills but hasnt given me much money towards gas, toilet paper, things like that). Anyways, he tells me he knows i dont want to talk to him right now, but when i do to please text him because he would like to eventually be friends and not hate each other one day.

 

I told him i was not ready to be friends. Dont know if i ever will. I can be civil because of the kids. I am now paranoid that he is being nice because he wants something from me, or talked to a lawyer and etc. Ugh. Am i overreacting about being so paranoid? Could he possibly actually be just trying to be nice? ugh i hate going through this.

[Shocked Suzie]

My ex randomly emails me and like i said in my other post apologizes. Says he is sorry for how he has been treating me and the mean things he has said. Then tells me he plans to sell his boat and guns and give me money from it to pay off everyone i owe money to (since i have had to borrow to get by since he is paying my bills but hasnt given me much money towards gas, toilet paper, things like that). Anyways, he tells me he knows i dont want to talk to him right now, but when i do to please text him because he would like to eventually be friends and not hate each other one day.

 

I told him i was not ready to be friends. Dont know if i ever will. I can be civil because of the kids. I am now paranoid that he is being nice because he wants something from me, or talked to a lawyer and etc. Ugh. Am i overreacting about being so paranoid? Could he possibly actually be just trying to be nice? ugh i hate going through this.

 

If you feel paranoid then he has given you reason to feel this way... Thinking how I would take this...

 

Stay just as you was before this contact, say what you already have said. Highlight that you are happy that things can be more civil for the children's sake.

 

Keep things at arms length!! If he owes you money take it, if he is apologising except it... Doesn't mean you need to let him back into your life.

 

If my ex did this to me, I'd be happy for the apology, the acknowledgment of s!@t behaviour and hope that he would start to step up for the kids... Doesn't mean that we change how 'we' are, just breaks the ice and helps you both to move forward...Wouldn't be meeting him for coffee n chats

 

SS x let's hope he's trying to repair any damage he may have caused ... Just get on with your own path/life as you were