fiftyshades Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 I will try to make this as short as possible... We were together for 4 years and she broke up with me around 2 years ago after she met someone else. Yes this sounds bad but we have been speaking almost all of the time since and admit we still love each other, miss each other wish to be together again despite us both having partners. I still love her and think of her all of the time, same for her. It felt like it was a matter of time before we both had the courage to leave our partners and get back together again although I am glad I did not go back after she had initially finished with me and begged me to come back because she had cheated on me and left me therefore my pride wouldn't let me go back then & I also wanted to make a point that I would not accept what she done. I thought in my mind that if I left it long enough and we still both felt the same then we could get back together. We spoke about getting back together all of the time but for one reason or another we just did not do it - I think she was waiting for me to make the move and I was waiting for her to - it was always mentioned but never on the terms I will leave my partner today and be with u tomorrow 100%. It back fired. She has just told me that she is now pregnant (denied pregnancy) with her partner and says it was a mistake and that she feels trapped and lost because she loves me and wants to be with me but is now pregnant with this guys baby and he is so happy and madly in love with her! Crazy situation I know but I am looking for some advice on how to deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
Poppyolive Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 My advice, she's carrying her boyfriends baby. This has nothing to do with you. Its between her and him. You need to let her go. Fully. 100%. Move on with your life. If she genuinely still loves you she would of made choices that lead into your pathway and visa versa. Walk away and let her figure out what she wants, you are a piece on the side in case all fails in her life... If you were the leading piece she'd be with you...but she's not. She's keeping you where she wants you, expressing her love until things don't work out. She probably loves him very much..she could be telling him she's so excited to be a mother of his child and telling you something else....walk away.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Please allow This Image to show you what you the proper reaction. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Smilecharmer Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Please allow This Image to show you what you the proper reaction. awwwww 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 You've been in her pocket for years and now you're still going to be her lap dog when she's pregnant? Are you out of your mind?! And of course you still have feelings, it was her who broke up and you of course wanted to stay in touch all the time. Cease all contact, this won't end well for you and I'm pretty sure the other guy doesn't know of her pregnancy yet. She's scared, and you've so far been a very comfortable doormat. Get the hell out of there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cupic Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Dear Fiftyshades, I think the advice you are going to get in this post is going to be the same in your last post about this girl. Leave her, she is no good for you. Go no contact and move on with your life. She cheated on you, broke your heart, and then made a fool out of you by stringing you a long as plan B. How much self respect do you have to loose before you realize she is no good for you? Also, as mentioned in your other thread, i suspect she has GIGS as well. Move on bud, and this time, stick with no contact. For your own good. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 I will try to make this as short as possible... We were together for 4 years and she broke up with me around 2 years ago after she met someone else. Yes this sounds bad but we have been speaking almost all of the time since and admit we still love each other, miss each other wish to be together again despite us both having partners. I still love her and think of her all of the time, same for her. It felt like it was a matter of time before we both had the courage to leave our partners and get back together again although I am glad I did not go back after she had initially finished with me and begged me to come back because she had cheated on me and left me therefore my pride wouldn't let me go back then & I also wanted to make a point that I would not accept what she done. I thought in my mind that if I left it long enough and we still both felt the same then we could get back together. We spoke about getting back together all of the time but for one reason or another we just did not do it - I think she was waiting for me to make the move and I was waiting for her to - it was always mentioned but never on the terms I will leave my partner today and be with u tomorrow 100%. It back fired. She has just told me that she is now pregnant (denied pregnancy) with her partner and says it was a mistake and that she feels trapped and lost because she loves me and wants to be with me but is now pregnant with this guys baby and he is so happy and madly in love with her! Crazy situation I know but I am looking for some advice on how to deal with it? Hey how bout this......just suspend disbelief for a few moments, OP, for stranger things have happened You two get back together while she is pregnant with another guy's baby. You now, as condition of your reunion, get to be the one that takes her to her Dr appointments, shopping for nursery items, and all the other responsibilities that will go with fatherhood....because the other guy is simply just going to stop being happy about this and willing cede this whole thing to you without as much as a whimper....right? But wait, it's not your kid is it? Well it will be. Because generally since you will be with your soulmate I'm sure you will be at the hospital when she has that kid...right? And since many States will require the father's identification at the time of registering the birth on a Certificate, then that may or may not fall on you...because this guy is just going to cede everything to you, right? But don't worry you may or may not live in a state which will assume that you are the legal father, with all the rights and RESPONSIBILITIES of said title.... But you can work that all out later with the legal fees and the court dates, right? Sure maybe this guy will remain in this child's life and will petition the court for visitation rights, etc.......and of course you will be working your tail off because you love her...and the kid that isn't yours comes with the package...just you, her, and the baby happily ever after... Right....Right?....RIGHT? Sounds like a bad dream huh? A totally impossible scenario, correct? Not saying it will happen like that (I have no crystal ball) but you never know... ARE YOU HIGH? Young man, please perform a cranial rectal extraction procedure on yourself before you make the biggest mistake of your life..... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Move on and try to forget about her because if she wants to be with you she will but it's not the case because she's pregnant with another man's baby. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Run and don't look back. Don't let her try and turn you into some kind of father figure for this kid because she will do this to you again if you take her back. If she doesn't like this new guy that is her problem. She has a kid with him and will have to deal with him but that is their issue and not yours. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Woah man. Just get the hell outta dodge and never talk to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
soyou Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 She had the courage to leave you in the past in order to be with her lover. So if she loves you enough, i assume that she should have had the courage to leave her bf for you as well. But this never happens. How much do you imagine or dilusionally think that she is in love with you??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brokenheart94 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 I know how u feel. My ex of 2 years just told me she is pregnant with her bf of 4 months but the only difference is i have no choice but to move on even though i love her to bits. I dreamed of her being my wife, the mother of my child everything. But she fell out of love with me and she wants to have the child and so does he and i have to respect that even though i love her and even though they are 17 and young. Its hard to let go, i was told yday and im on the same boat with u! Link to post Share on other sites
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