endgame Posted May 25, 2014 Share Posted May 25, 2014 Why is it that some guys think of women only as 'sexy' or if you are talking to them, or all they want to do is that they 'want to see your boobs' while when with other women they are nice, polite and ask none of that? I have made mistakes on first dates (BIG OOPS, I know - I've learned my lesson) but I don't want to be just the sexy friend - I want to be the stunning or very nice person. Does it lay the groundwork on first dates if one sleeps with another rather than waiting after a few dates? And what is the 'standard' on sleeping with someone if you are dating and are both into each other? Or does it depend on the person, situation, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
swhiteford01 Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Try and wait as long as humanly possible before jumping into the sack. Men are hunters. IF they've gotten their prey then they move on to bigger challenges. If you don't want to be the sexy friend, dress more conservatively and carry yourself with respect. Don't hang around waiting for them to chat with you - let them come to you. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Wait till you feel comfortable with him. Don't have sex with a guy because you think it will keep him. Don't wait an arbitratry number of days or dates to have sex. Do it when you want to. It's probably best to wait till you are in an actually exclusive relationship to have sex. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 for everybody it will be different. Sometimes especially when I knew I was going to be weak because he was so cute I'd impose a 12 date rule on myself. Yes that has some elements of game playing, but it gave me self discipline. Of course I was flexible under the right circumstances Link to post Share on other sites
Clutch9 Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Why is it that some guys think of women only as 'sexy' or if you are talking to them, or all they want to do is that they 'want to see your boobs' while when with other women they are nice, polite and ask none of that? I have made mistakes on first dates (BIG OOPS, I know - I've learned my lesson) but I don't want to be just the sexy friend - I want to be the stunning or very nice person. Does it lay the groundwork on first dates if one sleeps with another rather than waiting after a few dates? And what is the 'standard' on sleeping with someone if you are dating and are both into each other? Or does it depend on the person, situation, etc. Men only get one chance, you have to realize the power of being a girl give as supreme privileges. We decide who we want to sleep with and when. Their date location speaks volumes regarding how they will treat you after. He's calling you beautiful the best over . Just now You get one first impression and it's in about 30 seconds when he looks at you. It's horrible but men are much more visas like that. I have a long history of dating friends because I'm assured they ready know who I am Andes likely to nudge mistakes unfairly. There's trust and reliability there. In my lay opinion the sex with a friend is comfortable and usually amazing. You can be more easy going and tell then what you want. Say goodbye in the am, do t linger if you do t have to. I've worked with men my entire life at the fire house as well as grew up with 4 brothers who were such whores . Respectful though. Honestly it's situational whether you sleep together the first night. If you already know him and get hammered at a bar your both assuming something before the date. He he knows you and asked you out he's been wanting to sleep with you for sometime. As long as it's comfortable and you don't feel weird than unless he's a compete ******* First date take it slower. Women know intuitively whether or not he is interested right away. Do you want a guy who can't handle you taking care if him. I would think he'd appreciate that. And if per chance he says something rude just polietly get dressed and know that anyone who uses that as an excuse has a small one. And depending on how sexual you both are it's perfectly fine. Just don't make the mistake of sending him pics first or showing up in an outfit that is slutty. He will make assumptions before a word is said. My motto is tits or ass. Enough to excite but not overkill. My brothers are hot and they are all different. However the one major thing they say is no facebook or googling, sending pics before the date. It ruins everything. If he demands a pic don't reply and defriend. He's saying he needs to see you in a bikini to go out with you. Scum bag. But it are at a place with someone and you genuinely hit it off you'll know it's right. In that case go to your house in my opinion. You can feel it out as to how he responds and how early he leaves. My bf told me yesterday that any guy who sleeps with a girl he's interested in on the first night and uses it as an excuse not to call, is never going to stop being critical. Sounds dirty but he told me I give certain things the best and that makes men insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 Depends on each others value system on that subject. Most folks who are seeking long term, realize that the foudation needs set before that enters into the equation. For with sexual encounters comes risk of a health nature and responsible nature. I've found 6 months to be a fair average contingent on the age group. Seems age and maturity carry different time scales. Link to post Share on other sites
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