How to handle rejection/depression

[todreaminblue]

if you want a lasting relationship i suggest dotn go clubbing and pick up soemone who is enebriated......

 

be yourself, always be comfortable in who you are .....if you are a strong man project that out....if you are more sensitive man show that side of you........whatever you are whoever you are there are women who will date you....dotn give up with rejection....find the personalities that appreciate you as you......thats who will date you ....and there are always more than one man or woman who would date each other....if you give up you fail...if you keep trying you will have dates........thats how you stop depression...you keep trying.......when you say goodbye to anything.......or something......you dont have a chance do you.....equals....depression.....deb

[topaMAXX]

if you want a lasting relationship i suggest dotn go clubbing and pick up soemone who is enebriated......

 

be yourself, always be comfortable in who you are .....if you are a strong man project that out....if you are more sensitive man show that side of you........whatever you are whoever you are there are women who will date you....dotn give up with rejection....find the personalities that appreciate you as you......thats who will date you ....and there are always more than one man or woman who would date each other....if you give up you fail...if you keep trying you will have dates........thats how you stop depression...you keep trying.......when you say goodbye to anything.......or something......you dont have a chance do you.....equals....depression.....deb

 

This is one of the better places to meet girls since there are a ton there. I've met as many nice girls at clubs as I've met in school and work. Just saying...

 

And to this poster, for the love of God, please fix your spelling and sentence structure! My brain hurts when I read that.

[todreaminblue]

This is one of the better places to meet girls since there are a ton there. I've met as many nice girls at clubs as I've met in school and work. Just saying...

 

And to this poster, for the love of God, please fix your spelling and sentence structure! My brain hurts when I read that.

 

 

 

how many of these tons of girls have you had a lasting relationship with....just sayin.....

 

 

 

.i dont need the love of god to spell......just sayin........maybe with my dyslexic typing skills........dont read my posts save yourself a headache...god bless....have some bunnies.........:bunny::bunny:....hugs..deb

[shet]

I don't "do" clubs as a habit no, I go when friends get together. I've met women there. They were even less interested after they sober up than the usual. I think some people aren't grasping the cycle here. I meet women. I have more sack than anyone I know or ever have known at doing this. My "game" is sound. I get numbers, or facebooks, or bloody, snapchats or whatever the kids are doing these days. Sometimes I get dates out of that. Not many. Then after a short time, a week to a few months, regardless of sexual contact or what I pull out the bag to impress or change things up, they melt away or write themselves out the picture.

 

For reference; in the last year, I have hit on I think 11 women, appropriately, organically. A further 2 hit on me (and another who had a boyfriend, at whos birthday party I was at). 7 gave me contact details. All of those ****ed around teasing. 3 actually committed to dates, although 2 more are ongoing concerns as we speak. Of the three, one just disappeared after 1 date and faded out because she's "not interested in men right now" (we had been co-volunteers), one is still in contact but insists we're friends (who go months without speaking apparently, she's autistic spectrum), and the third turned out to have a boyfriend (!) and a controlling mother that just turned being involved with her into a ****show. Of the two pending, I can already see that one is too young and busy and will fade out over summer even if things go well, and the other is religious and clearly hasn't recovered from her failed marriage nearly ten years ago, so, will be hard going. I just got someones number today, but I'm not clear what she expects me to do with it yet (in my life I have to ask these questions) and will probably find out tomorrow when I meet her at college.

 

So, I put myself out there. And I get occasional "results". But it doesn't last or go anywhere. One way or another, I get left to eat ****. I want a girlfriend. Someone who calls me to pick up milk, who knows where I keep my good socks, who will get drunk with me in their or my house and play boardgames. Someone I have months and years to get to know instead of a few hours. None of them are easy and breezy, navigating the whole shebang around them is like a goddamn regatta. They make it difficult to even tell if they're interested, and ultimately, they never are. Not once ever have I felt secure in even dealing with them. Just calling, you're not sure they'll answer. Parked outside their house to pick them up as arranged, you're not sure they're coming out. Sometimes they don't.

[topaMAXX]

I don't "do" clubs as a habit no, I go when friends get together. I've met women there. They were even less interested after they sober up than the usual. I think some people aren't grasping the cycle here. I meet women. I have more sack than anyone I know or ever have known at doing this. My "game" is sound. I get numbers, or facebooks, or bloody, snapchats or whatever the kids are doing these days. Sometimes I get dates out of that. Not many. Then after a short time, a week to a few months, regardless of sexual contact or what I pull out the bag to impress or change things up, they melt away or write themselves out the picture.

 

For reference; in the last year, I have hit on I think 11 women, appropriately, organically. A further 2 hit on me (and another who had a boyfriend, at whos birthday party I was at). 7 gave me contact details. All of those ****ed around teasing. 3 actually committed to dates, although 2 more are ongoing concerns as we speak. Of the three, one just disappeared after 1 date and faded out because she's "not interested in men right now" (we had been co-volunteers), one is still in contact but insists we're friends (who go months without speaking apparently, she's autistic spectrum), and the third turned out to have a boyfriend (!) and a controlling mother that just turned being involved with her into a ****show. Of the two pending, I can already see that one is too young and busy and will fade out over summer even if things go well, and the other is religious and clearly hasn't recovered from her failed marriage nearly ten years ago, so, will be hard going. I just got someones number today, but I'm not clear what she expects me to do with it yet (in my life I have to ask these questions) and will probably find out tomorrow when I meet her at college.

 

So, I put myself out there. And I get occasional "results". But it doesn't last or go anywhere. One way or another, I get left to eat ****. I want a girlfriend. Someone who calls me to pick up milk, who knows where I keep my good socks, who will get drunk with me in their or my house and play boardgames. Someone I have months and years to get to know instead of a few hours. None of them are easy and breezy, navigating the whole shebang around them is like a goddamn regatta. They make it difficult to even tell if they're interested, and ultimately, they never are. Not once ever have I felt secure in even dealing with them. Just calling, you're not sure they'll answer. Parked outside their house to pick them up as arranged, you're not sure they're coming out. Sometimes they don't.

 

Do you not consider cold approaches "appropriate"?

 

Just fyi, 11 girls really isn't that much man. Sounds like you need to put yourself out there more and meet more.

[shet]

Thought I'd update this. Might make a habit of that, like a journal.

 

So the last fortnight there've been three new ladies. One, exchanged numbers in class after mild flirting - no dice, never responded. Another, also exchanged numbers in class, strong desire to meet up. Did meet, with two women classmates of hers, for drinks and food. Fun yes, prospect no, because she has a boyfriend. This is a consistent problem I've experienced at college, women who flirt and arrange to meet and then aren't single (I'm happy to be friends but not every time, forever, ok, hang out with your goddamn boyfriends not me). The third is one of those two friends of hers. She seemed interested, even her classmates said I was the first guy they've seen her be anything but professional with. We arranged to meet the last day of classes, but she let me down, although her excuse was solid she also didn't tell me it until 11pm that night because her phone was off, which doesn't suggest she's that interested or she'd have switched it on and said something sooner. And she left for project work in the North Sea for 3 weeks the next day. So that went nowhere fast, I don't expect she'll be bothered by the time she returns. Which is a shame because I quite liked her and there were physical sparks.

 

So now I start the summer break with no prospects. I don't know what to do next. What I do know is, college hasn't been the blessing I thought it was. I've realised that while you meet a ****load of women, they're all too young and self obsessed, too focused on The Plan in their heads, and I am too much older and chilled out on The Plan years ago. I've wasted too much time on them, the wrong sort of women for me at this time - if I'd gone to college when I should've, at their age, it would have been a blast but they're never going to take me seriously when I'm balding and my car is older than the ones their daddy bought them. Almost as old as them in fact. They're all too young, too pretty and too ambitious. It's comical to think, in hindsight, of my finding romance with any of them.

 

What I need is to meet ladies closer my own age, not in academia, with the sheen already off that glittering promise of life and career, a bit more bitter and hopeful merely to not die alone... like myself. I need women who actually want me around. I've never had that. I've just been various levels of diversion to them.

[R3d]

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