darkmoon Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 (edited) I have had it with a friend of mine... known her fourteen years, over the past nine months: criticism, gossip, snapping at me = all hurtful so i blocked her mobile number, it is her birthday tomorrow, mine friday, i thought try to get to our birthdays, but finally realised yesterday that she likes to police/monitor me waaay too much, all uninvited unasked for, so i texted her saying I want no gift from here as she is broke, i meant no contact thanks, we have argued over her policing/monitoring of me, not going well, so I thought just move on and drop her, see less of her, just see her around it is only her who treats me like this, other friends do not i had planned to text her a birthday message, not to converse anymore or meet up, i wanted to create a quiet withdrawal, but having blocked her mobile, she used her son's phone to call me i guess she now knows what i am doing, i answered and she hung up immediately i did not expect her to be happy at this, but all i wanted was a graceful pain-free exit any thoughts ? Edited May 26, 2014 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Cafe au lait Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Wait, why did you want to text her happy birthday after blocking her number? If you don't want to communicate over phone anymore, you shouldn't be texting her. O.o But it's not a big deal. Anyway, it seems like her calling you and hanging up was just a trick to get you to answer and for her to "have the last say" by hanging up on you. It's petty and low. Ignore it, don't text her happy birthday or anything. Like you said, just "see her around" when you need to and that's all. I know you want a "graceful pain-free exit," but unfortunately, your ungraceful friend isn't going to allow that. She's also caused you pain in the past. I think it's best if you just try to move on from here, not contacting her unless absolutely necessary. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 26, 2014 Share Posted May 26, 2014 Pain is caused when you actually care........so a friend who shows no caring really towards you, you have no option but to let go........and move on to find people and make friends with those who do care and will care as much as you do.......deb 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 14 years of friendship and friends in common. Of course be polite and text Happy Birthday. We had argued too much already, when I objected to her heated opinions. Now it is casual. I saw her today and she had lost her mobile so she borrowed mine. No venom. No feud. Just a one minute chat. Just phasing her out. No bad moods Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 I had to end a 20 year friendship myself recently. I felt nothing anymore. I have to create a new life for myself - a whole new surrounding, that is sterile, no old dramas from the past that can touch me. No guilt that can manipulate. Dark Moon, I have accepted, for my own evolution to go forward, some relationships have to die. That is why it was so easy and natural for me. You have done the right thing. Yas 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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