Separation no contact

[Supernova31]

Hi my wife and I are currently going through a separation and it has knocked me for 6. We been together for 8 years and married for 2, it's been great until about about a year and a half ago where the intimacy stopped she would not go near me and the sex was just 1 way and very predictable, :(she has mental health issues and physical issues ocpd,hyperhydrosis,idiopathic hypersomia,crps (look it up if you don't know what it is) it's horrible conditions, she basically said I have not been there for her and I'm too controlling even though shes tells me I can't do my dream Job because I have to give up my car because I would need to take a pay cut for 2 years and she wants the car so I can make life easier when going to places, tells me what car to buy even though she don't drive, I can't have 1 crumb of food on the plate when loading up the dishwasher, I need to hide all the reptiles when our landlord comes I could go on.. Yes I do have my faults and I can agree with everything she said but the past few years has not been easy for me too, had 2 near death car accidents, mother had a cancer scare, fought off tb,almost got sent down for something I diddnt do at work, she also says she's scared of me and I emotionally abused her by getting upset when she goes late at night ect which I diddnt realise it was a problem until we spoke 2 months a go and it opened a big can of worms, iv taken everything she said and iv taken action I'm seeing someone for my anxiety and iv admitted to my mistakes but she took NO responsibility for her actions, she lied to me saying how good of a husband I was and how we have perfect life ect when even I got upset or if I asked her if she was happy with me,and she would only have sex with me because to keep me sweet. So how am I suppose to improve as a person if she doesn't communicate , so now she won't give me a chance and packed her bags and left after 2 months of this whole thing coming to light, she says she's doing a house share that a "work colleague" helped her find. And the funny thing is she hasn't rang our landlord to take her name off the contract which expires in July , she still paying for my cable even though I told her to cancel it she even told me to call her to update her on landlord visits ect. I rang her last thur to sort out some bills and I get a txt back or a call back at a rate of once every 2 days. I feel she trying to control the situation as she rung me twice within 1 min on Sunday (something she says I do that annoy her) but I ignored. it, I want to look after me now and talking to her hurts too much and I want to do things when I'm ready not when she is all the time. I feel what I'm doing now is not working ( pleading her to come back, keep calling her ect.) has anybody else used no contact and does it work as I feel much better since doing it?