Tell me, what do you think?

[yukkasukka]

Hello there, internet/forum pals. (:

 

To start from the beginning, when I was about 16, my friend introduced me to this guy, we'll call him G. When G and I met, there was instant chemistry, we just clicked. A relationship never developed, but anytime we were together a mutual friends party we would joke around with our similar humor, or sing with one another. We always made our own great times. Our friends who introduced us to one another ended up getting married (about 2 or so years after we met, I was 18). I was the maid of honor and he was the best man. Our bachelor and bachelorette parties combined at the end of the night, to one big party of ALL our friends. G had been dating another girl for a while and had recently had a beautiful baby girl with her. That night, G and I, as usual, were having so much fun with one another. Our undeniable chemistry to everyone around was thick. We ended up hooking up, and both feeling terribly guilty and awkward for the wedding. But that didn't stop us from still looking like a couple during wedding pictures, some it even looked like we were the couple to be wed.

 

Fast forward a bit, to when I was turning 21. We finally started dating for the first time ever. We after many years went with our natural and persistent chemistry. Everything was pretty good.. a few hiccups here and there, like any normal relationship. Not long into our relationship, G confronted me, telling me he got an STI somehow. He thought I cheated on him, and I thought he did on me. My next thought was my super promiscuous lover (21 and already divorced once, so much more to that..) right before we began our relationship.. he was currently in jail, and not available to ask if it was him who I received this from. He ended up getting out almost immediately after I found out. I met up with him to talk, and he had me convinced he did not give me this. I was angry and sad, crying mess. G had cheated, it was then confirmed for me. I immediately left G, and could not believe that someone I had such a connection with could betray me like that.

 

Now, just this February (22 now), I ran into G at one of our shared favorite bands concerts in our town. We said hello and did some catching up, it had been almost a year since we have seen each other. No matter what, we always have this odd little spark. While we were talking, he stopped me, and said there was something he had to tell me, that he had been wanting to say since I left him last year. With tears in his eyes, he says he needs me to know he did not cheat on me, he couldn't do that to me. Suddenly it hits me, how could I have been so naive to let a known lying promiscuous man to manipulate me into thinking it was not him who gave me that STI, how was it not obvious who I got this from and who was the person I should put more of my trust in. I apologized for leaving him so abruptly, and not trusting G.

 

We both realized we wanted to make it work this time, and that we could forgive and forget the past. It was time to move on, and truly see where G and I could go together.

 

I can't explain enough how well me and G have gotten along for 6, going on 7 years. How many good laughs, inside jokes, fun times, serious and deep talks, sharing our inner truths with one another. But we have this odd and messy history, this chemistry of many years. Am I a fool for thinking this guy may be "the one"?

[LifeGoesOnMan]

destiny has a way of catching up to you.

 

 

especially if this guy is still even willing to talk to you after you "burned" him.

[Eivuwan]

All you can do is give it a shot and try not to make the same mistakes. Rebuilding trust is tricky. What made you trust the other guy over him the first time around?

[d0nnivain]

It's a little early in the reconcilliation to be thinking about The One. However if you have addressed the issues that have driven you apart in the past, you may have a shot at an adult mature relationship here. If you find yourself falling into old patterns get out.