somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Despite having threads that grow to massive proportions on this forum, I know that I'm not that interesting in real life. I want to change that. I believe that one of the first things to get women attracted to me, and consider dating me, is to get them interested in something about me. How do I do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Hobbies, accomplishments, status labels. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Despite having threads that grow to massive proportions on this forum, I know that I'm not that interesting in real life. I want to change that. I believe that one of the first things to get women attracted to me, and consider dating me, is to get them interested in something about me. How do I do that? Do something interesting or be interesting. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 Both of those posts are extremely vague. One guy on this forum who claims to date a lot of women, says that he became more interesting by traveling the world. That's something I can recognize that would make a guy more interesting and attractive to a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Well then, travel the world! If you can't do that, make a list of the things you enjoy doing, things that tickle your fancy. Do MORE of those things, read up on books, newspapers, maybe take a class or join a club. How about volunteering somewhere? There are OODLES of ways in which you can be more interesting to women but at the core of it all, you need to be authentic about it. Choose those things that FIT who you are and what interests you otherwise it just looks contrived and forced. And THAT is not attractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Despite having threads that grow to massive proportions on this forum, I know that I'm not that interesting in real life. I want to change that. I believe that one of the first things to get women attracted to me, and consider dating me, is to get them interested in something about me. How do I do that? You have to forget about doing interesting things with the GOAL of being interesting to women. You have to do things that are interesting to YOU, and the side effect of that will be that you attract women who find that thing interesting as well. Follow your passions. People are attracted to passionate people. 13 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 I can only provide tips that I've seen work for me in person. I can't help with OLD because I'm just as bad at it. Be vague. Don't get too specific when describing things that you like or what you do in your own time. You have to shoe them that you know how to gm have a good time, but make them find out the details for themselves when they are with you. Be witty. This might not be for everyone, but a snappy zinger can shoe your brain works fast. Be playful. This can be a rubber band across the office or just light teasing about how harry potter is terrible or something. End a high note. Don't keep basic day to day interactions too long by lingering. If you make her laugh, act like you have to go take care of something else. This is a technique used in show businesses to create a desire for more, and it works on an individual basis as well. If you have things that might be considered less than popular (, for example, I'm a gamer that loves computers, science, technology, movies, and other various not so exciting things ) don't worry about your hobbies or interesting sounding dorky. Wear them with pride. " you're damn right I'm a nerd, and I'm the coolest nerd in this place " Be proud of who you are. Own it. That's all I got off of the top of my head, man. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 Well then, travel the world! I'd love to, but I'm broke If you can't do that, make a list of the things you enjoy doing, things that tickle your fancy. Do MORE of those things, read up on books, newspapers, maybe take a class or join a club. How about volunteering somewhere? There are OODLES of ways in which you can be more interesting to women but at the core of it all, you need to be authentic about it. Choose those things that FIT who you are and what interests you otherwise it just looks contrived and forced. And THAT is not attractive. Well that's the problem with your and pteromom's suggestion. The things that are interesting to me, aren't interesting to women. Very few women care about, computers, video games and Japanese anime. Even less women care about how to pick up women. I realize that I need to be authentic about my interests, but that doesn't mean I can't learn a new thing. I'm basically asking what I can do from a blank slate to be more interesting an attractive to women. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 I'd love to, but I'm broke Well that's the problem with your and pteromom's suggestion. The things that are interesting to me, aren't interesting to women. Very few women care about, computers, video games and Japanese anime. Even less women care about how to pick up women. I realize that I need to be authentic about my interests, but that doesn't mean I can't learn a new thing. I'm basically asking what I can do from a blank slate to be more interesting an attractive to women. Move to where I live. Every chick and their mom here loves anime. Learn an instrument. Quite the investment though. Took me a decade. Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Pick up a sport. It'll get you fit, you'll meet people and you'll be more interesting. Both of those posts are extremely vague. One guy on this forum who claims to date a lot of women, says that he became more interesting by traveling the world. That's something I can recognize that would make a guy more interesting and attractive to a woman. They like to date guys they can brag about. Like a "triathlete" or "business owner." Listen to what pteromom has to say. You can't fake it. Follow your passions or people will see right through it. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you're passionate about, girls love hearing you talk about it.... all the better if you share in a passion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 I can only provide tips that I've seen work for me in person. I can't help with OLD because I'm just as bad at it. Be vague. Don't get too specific when describing things that you like or what you do in your own time. You have to shoe them that you know how to gm have a good time, but make them find out the details for themselves when they are with you. Be witty. This might not be for everyone, but a snappy zinger can shoe your brain works fast. Be playful. This can be a rubber band across the office or just light teasing about how harry potter is terrible or something. End a high note. Don't keep basic day to day interactions too long by lingering. If you make her laugh, act like you have to go take care of something else. This is a technique used in show businesses to create a desire for more, and it works on an individual basis as well. If you have things that might be considered less than popular (, for example, I'm a gamer that loves computers, science, technology, movies, and other various not so exciting things ) don't worry about your hobbies or interesting sounding dorky. Wear them with pride. " you're damn right I'm a nerd, and I'm the coolest nerd in this place " Be proud of who you are. Own it. That's all I got off of the top of my head, man. Thanks for the tips. So you're talking about being a bit of a mystery and making a woman work to see who I am. I get teasing and I need to do more of it. Being nice and polite all the time is boring to women. Always leave them wanting more. I've heard of that before. Does being proud of being a nerd actually work with girls that aren't? Ideally I'd want a nerdy girl, but the cute ones are always taken Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Thanks for the tips. So you're talking about being a bit of a mystery and making a woman work to see who I am. I get teasing and I need to do more of it. Being nice and polite all the time is boring to women. Always leave them wanting more. I've heard of that before. Does being proud of being a nerd actually work with girls that aren't? Ideally I'd want a nerdy girl, but the cute ones are always taken Yes, it does actually work, because its passion. Chicks dig passion, even if its nerdy passion. Where do you live again? What city? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Thanks for the tips. So you're talking about being a bit of a mystery and making a woman work to see who I am. I get teasing and I need to do more of it. Being nice and polite all the time is boring to women. Always leave them wanting more. I've heard of that before. Does being proud of being a nerd actually work with girls that aren't? Ideally I'd want a nerdy girl, but the cute ones are always taken Depends on what you're nerdy about. I got a girl recently to connect with me using my film and art nerd skills. OH, that's something easy to pick up: painting.... and cooking. Even if you don't share in mutual nerdiness, being comfortable being a nerd is attractive... loving yourself and all that. Own your nerdiness and be able to joke about it. When it comes to intellectual nerdiness... I feel like most girls appreciate your smarts, but don't expect any conversation out of it. In fact, it may intimidate them. As a chemist, I go through this often. So alone hahahaha 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Depends on what you're nerdy about. I got a girl recently to connect with me using my film-nerd skills. Even if you don't share in mutual nerdiness, being comfortable being a nerd is attractive... loving yourself and all that. Own your nerdiness and be able to joke about it. When it comes to intellectual nerdiness... I feel like most girls appreciate your smarts, but don't expect any conversation out of it. In fact, it may intimidate them. As a chemist, I go through this often. So alone hahahaha They think you are Boron, and I'm all like, more like Au. Yeah... I'm lame. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 What types of things did you talk about with your ex? Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 to have interest in someone .....means to want to research them to find out more..ie a person of interest..normally there is an anomaly....a difference from the average......that requires deeper intimacy........to determine what makes them unusual...dating is like profiling someone.....profiling them for a very important place in your life or a throw away item depending.....on what begins as an anomaly that peaks interest....i had to dictionary.com it because i have been writing abnomaly......anyway..... i get interested but what keeps em interested is similarities and beliefs activities that can be shared.......the anomaly with me is something i would normally find hard to deal with.........and involves them trying to hide it.......whether that anomaly is something i can handle in a partner......if that anomaly is something i cant handle they become friends ......a partner i have to trust with my heart as they can trust me....my anomaly's arent really hidden......that is why i dont struggle getting dates or second dates...honesty s refreshing for both males and females........and its why i dont date in multiples....that could get extremely awkward if my attention gets divided................deb Link to post Share on other sites
Potz4prez Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 They think you are Boron, and I'm all like, more like Au. Yeah... I'm lame. So a man walks into a bar and orders H20. A second man next to him says "I'll have H20 too!" The second man dies. *ba dum tssst* I have never... and will probably never... say that on a date lol. But it's my favorite 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 Pick up a sport. It'll get you fit, you'll meet people and you'll be more interesting. I actually tried sports. At my school I was on the co-ed softball team one semester, then the flag football team another semester through the intramural sports department. From my experience, the guys weren't all the sociable. They never got together after games nor did they even bother to practice. I was actually really disappointed in the experience. They like to date guys they can brag about. Like a "triathlete" or "business owner." Yeah, that makes perfect sense. It's why I made this thread, I want to give a woman something to brag about. Listen to what pteromom has to say. You can't fake it. Follow your passions or people will see right through it. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you're passionate about, girls love hearing you talk about it.... all the better if you share in a passion. Yes, it does actually work, because its passion. Chicks dig passion, even if its nerdy passion. Ah, there's that subject of passions again. It always pops up. Honestly, I don't have anything I'm passionate about. For example I really like Godzilla, I've seen many of his movies, and I even wear a Godzilla t-shirt sometimes, but I'm not passionate about Godzilla. That's what I get stuck on. How do you know when you are passionate about something? And how do you even become passionate? Where do you live again? What city? I live along the coast in LA county. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Why aren't you cosplaying..... If you make a sweet or trendy enough costume you'll have nerdy girls flocking to you at the conventions. seriously... try that. You might even have some fun with it too. Just make sure she's wearing the ears when you do it. That's hot. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Share Posted May 27, 2014 What types of things did you talk about with your ex? All kinds of nerdy things. Plus health care stuff that she was really interested in because she was in nursing school. Lots about her and her work. Dancing and ballet, fitness and sex etc. She was my perfect match Link to post Share on other sites
R3d Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 One problem I have is I feel hesitant to mention that I like to play League of Legends (but I am really bad- Bronze V). See I am not a gamer, far from it. I just like this particular game and I actually don't play LoL that much anyway. I do have other stuff I am in like playing the violin (8.5 years and considered quite a strong player), doing TaeKwonDo, and Tennis. But I just feel hesitant to mention LoL and some people on the LoL forums say to not mention it, though others there say to mention it and be confident about it. So I thought I'd ask you people. What's your stance on this? Should I mention it along with my other hobbies or refrain from doing so at least early on? Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Very few women care about, computers, video games and Japanese anime. I so disagree with this. I know so many young twentysomething girls into all these things. I realize that I need to be authentic about my interests, but that doesn't mean I can't learn a new thing. I'm basically asking what I can do from a blank slate to be more interesting an attractive to women. But it depends on the woman. Some women like guys with an edge. Some like smart nerdy guys. Some like worldly suave guys. This is why personality and interests are so important. Because if you are a nerdy white guy, you aren't going to attract the girls who are into Latin lover type guys. You have to be the best of who YOU are. Music is pretty universal. Picking up guitar or piano or singing and being willing to share that part of yourself with other people is usually attractive. But it is the passion that is attractive - just so happens music can be a public passion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 Get involved in something in the community. Volunteer in some project you care about. As a bonus, you'll meet like minded people, and it's the ideal situation to make connection. You have enough solitary interests. You should develop some social interests. Have you thought about teaching a dance class? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 For example I really like Godzilla, I've seen many of his movies, and I even wear a Godzilla t-shirt sometimes, but I'm not passionate about Godzilla. This creates quite a visual. Not sure if disturbed or intrigued. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted May 27, 2014 Share Posted May 27, 2014 One problem I have is I feel hesitant to mention that I like to play League of Legends (but I am really bad- Bronze V). See I am not a gamer, far from it. I just like this particular game and I actually don't play LoL that much anyway. I do have other stuff I am in like playing the violin (8.5 years and considered quite a strong player), doing TaeKwonDo, and Tennis. But I just feel hesitant to mention LoL and some people on the LoL forums say to not mention it, though others there say to mention it and be confident about it. So I thought I'd ask you people. What's your stance on this? Should I mention it along with my other hobbies or refrain from doing so at least early on? I've met a lot of girls that play league. One of them was really good too. I went to Intel LANfest Sacramento (72 hour LAN event ) one girl played league with her boyfriend the entire duration of the event, and she was VERY cute. If my PC wasn't in the same room as her.boyfriend, I may have tried to hit on her when he went home one night. Nah , I wouldn't have. But the point is that girls are just like us. They like random, obscure things. Some of them even like what we like. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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