Don't know what to make of this.

[Teraskas]

Right, so this is going to be a long story, I'll summarize if possible:

 

On the 17th of May, I met someone on a privately owned Belgian datingsite and I sent her a message. Couldn't reply all of Saturday as I was out, but got back later that evening and noticed a response.

We got talking, sent a few messages back and forth before finally agreeing to add one another on Facebook in order to more easily view one another's photos and stuff.

Send messages back and forth there getting to know one another.

 

On Wednesday the 21st I gave her my number and she responded.

Her texts back then were almost always instand and contained plenty of emoticons. So, given that she had things to do that week, we agree on a date on Wednesday the 28th.

 

Flash forward to the 25th: my parents were off to a concert of "The Eagles", but I remained home as it isn't really my style.

She asked if it was possible for her to come over, and I said yup, come on over.

She drove 20 minutes and finally arrived at around 08:30pm.

We went out for a quiet evening walk in the neighbourhood and decided that given how darkness was falling and neither of us knew how long the park would remain open, that the best course of action would be to go back to the house and have a drink.

We talked all evening without pause, and eventually (because she was 19 and in her last year of secondary education.) she returned home around 10.25pm.

 

The following days, I noticed her becoming more distant and replying less instantly than had previously been the case.

Then suddenly on Tuesday, she asks me to reschedule the date we had planned on Wednesday, but fails to deliver a possible date when it'd suit her. Comes off with the excuse

So yesterday, I ask if she's mad at me (while still mixing in some humour.)

She responded with (quoted literally):

I will not ! (Call you an idiotic chicken.)

And you don't need to apologise, I just have those kind of days that I don't wanna hear from anyone and as a result frequently forget to answer my Phone.

I'm not the kind of girl who texts a lot either.

And I don't like how you act like I'm changing everything in your life.

(For the folks reading this I have NEVER mentioned that in prior texts.)

Sorry to put it bluntly, but there's nothing between us. And I'm getting the feeling that it'll never be. (Other than friendship.) I want you to be yourself, and as you've noticed now, I would like to change some things."

 

The reason why I sent that final message was in order to elicit a response as I didn't fully trust the reason why she asked to reschedule that date the day before it would take place.

For your reference, I didn't act all needy either in my texts.

I've had this mental limit where I would send two, perhaps 3 at the most and would halt all messages until I received something from her end.

I'm a little confused as to what she's implying that I'm changing in her life and the other way around.

 

So, what's the expert opinion of LS' members here ?

Feel free to spare me no critique, I can take it.

[PegNosePete]

My opinion is that she didn't fancy you and so decided not to bother wasting your and her time with the date. Then she came up with some lame excuses/reasons and tried to make out like it's your fault or something. Who knows, no point analysing the actions of a virtual stranger who is not interested in you anyway. She has told you quite plainly that she is not interested in you romantically.

 

Move on... NEXT.

[hasaquestion]

Seems straightforward. She was curious about you at some level (volunteered to meet up on the 25th), and then meeting you changed her mind (canceled on the 28th). Not a big deal. Next please.

 

As for what happened afterwards... Based on her text, she thinks you are needy and more into her than she is into you (not very much apparently).

 

I don't know if you are actually needy. But I do think texting "are you mad at me" is a bad look. Why would you ask that? She's just some random stranger with a vag you met the other day - and you're attaching her to your feelings?

 

Just saying - that's the kind of thing that can really be taken the wrong way at a subconscious level.

[D.Mc.]

Hello Teraskas,

 

Well, she's 19, 19y.o. girls DO that, all the time, no matter the level of education/career field that they are pursuing. Maturity in one area does not make them mature overall. Review the learning objectives from this lesson, this will be on the test.