taro Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 I'm still seeing my ex, six months since we broke up. I really love him and want to be with him and have been trying ever since. I felt that we were getting closer and actually I met his family not long ago and spent the Christmas with them. But after we came back from the holiday I could feel he is pulling up the distance again. I'm getting more and more depressed again, wondering what's happening and what to do. If after six months of trying things are falling back, things might never work ever. Now I'm always waiting, for him to see me. We still see each other once to twice a week, and we can be very close when we are together, but normally he will try to send me away, say, if we spend one day together. He'll just not contact me for a week without any problem. I'm not sure whether he just needs the space, or he has something hiding from me. I'm not sure whether there is someone else in his mind. Actually I don't know what's going on at all in his mind. He said he definitely doesn't want to stop seeing me, but he is not ready for a relationship yet. But now I'm getting too sad keep waiting in vain. And since I'm waiting for him I can't make my life move on. I don't want to give up on him, but I don't want myself to be in the current status any more. What should I do? How can I know what's the right thing to do? Is there any chance for me with him? Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 you should ask him what his expectations are and you should tell him yours! if they aren't what you want i.e. a fully commited relationship then you must let him go you will have to stop meeting him and maybe fully stop contacting him altogether he is being really nasty keeping you hanging on like this sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
Oriental Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 agree with the person above. i was in almost the exact situation so i know how you feel. being around him will not help him to get ready sooner (if the real reason is "not ready"). but i know if you feel there's hope it's impossible to keep yourself away from him, so you should confront him, tell him that you cant be friends with him now becoz you want to be a girlfriend, ask him if he's sure it's you that he will want once he's ready for a relationship, just basically have a really open talk. i think in the end you will know what you should do. best! Link to post Share on other sites
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