throwaway1313 Posted May 29, 2014 Share Posted May 29, 2014 My ex girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 months ago. We were both graduating university and both our futures were up in the air. She felt guilty for being unsure about our future together so she ended things. We have seen eachother a few times since and have limited contact. She tells me she still loves me and misses me but is just feeling confused. I heard from a mutual friend that she said that she dosent think she will ever find someone she loves more than me. She also told me that she regrets breaking up and that if she still feels this way in a month or so, she will want to get back together. How can I make her feelings last? Should I see her in a couple weeks when I have the opportunity? And should I follow limited contact? Or should I stop contacting first all together? Link to post Share on other sites
sumathi Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 You are both very young to know the value of true love. Since you say she is confused about her feelings, it is better to cut off the relationship for good. You will be deeply hurt if you try to contact her and she refuses you. Move ahead. Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron005 Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Continue LC and make sure she has the space she needs after uni to set her life berings. There is probably a lot of pressure on her now and the more understanding you are of that, the better off you'll be in a few months regardless of her decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author throwaway1313 Posted May 30, 2014 Author Share Posted May 30, 2014 thanks for the advice. just to clarify, its not her feelings she's confused about. Says she loves me more than ever. She is just confused about where our relationship is heading Link to post Share on other sites
rosedl Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Talk to her about what you want in your relationship and what you both want for your future. If you both truly love each other and have a good friendship, it is possible to work it out. I know many people here on this board adamantly claim that it is best to move on, but I don't believe that is the case with everyone. My mother broke up with my father for a year, and they got back together. Now, they have been married nearly 50 years. If my dad came on this board, he would have been told....'she broke your heart, and left you for no good reason'..... I know several couples who needed time to work it out. I am not saying this is or is not the right thing for you, only to follow your heart. Life and love can be complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
somegoodman Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 When a woman says she is "confused" what it really means is that she doesn't want you and had probably already betrayed you before the break up. Trust me, she doesn't love you and only says these things to keep you in the background. It's about maximizing her social assets and narcissistic supply. You have blinders on because you're emotionally invested in the situation. "Confusion" = Unspeakable betrayal Link to post Share on other sites
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