johnww92 Posted May 29, 2014 Share Posted May 29, 2014 Ok long story short, I dated this girl and fell in love we eventually broke up over stupid reason, we didn't talk for months and she had another boyfriend at the time who she used to date before. Anyways she broke up with him because he ****ed her over and we recently started talking again and I told her I still had feelings for her and she said she thinks she does too. I talked to her about maybe giving it another shot but she said she wants to be friends first just for now then see what happens. She assured me I'm not being friend-zoned she just needs some time after the breakup and if something happens in the right moment it happens. So what I'm asking is how the f*ck do I go about this. How will I know when its the right time to make a move and how do I act around her or text or whatever? I'm so confused and don't want to mess this up? Whoever is gonna write something like forget her or move on don't bother because I thought about it a lot and decided its worth a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
rec88 Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Without getting too specific, continue living your life. If you notice yourself changing your habits or neglecting friends and hobbies to accommodate her... SLOW DOWN. Continue to do what makes you, you. People with their own passions in life are attractive. Don't trade those for her all at once. As far as what to do, what to text, when to make a move, etc. That's small stuff and no one bad move will screw it up for you, so don't sweat it. If you can focus on what I said above, she will see past all that. Glad to hear you're excited, though. Link to post Share on other sites
bulldogz Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Just be yourself, be cool. I implore you, DO NOT start forcing things, getting too desperate. This sounds like a situation where she will make the move and/or let you know when and if she wants it to develop into a romantic relationship. Show interest, but don't show too much interest. Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I would only be just friends with her if you can honestly say that if she chooses someone else and not you to date next, you will be fine with it and not hurt in any way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author johnww92 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 Ok so me and my ex got talking again and we decided to start hanging out as friends first so we can get to know each other more before jumping into anything again. The reason for this is because when we first met we completely rushed into a relationship and got serious too quick which messed it up and was one of the reasons for our breakup. Anyways be both admitted we still have feelings for each other but I'm worried she's under the impression that she can have me whenever she likes which might put her off, because I realized in the relationship I might have acted a little to nice to her and maybe a little needy. So does any have any advice how I should go about in my situation and act like the alpha male but at the same time respect her boundaries until she is ready to be more then friends? See its really hard for me to act like I'm hard to get if she already knows I got serious feelings for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy01 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 ... then why pretend? Link to post Share on other sites
Glinda.Good Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 The best thing to do is to NOT try to act like somebody or something you are not. Just be true to yourself, and if she is interested in being with you for who you really are, then it's good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author johnww92 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 The best thing to do is to NOT try to act like somebody or something you are not. Just be true to yourself, and if she is interested in being with you for who you really are, then it's good. Sorry I didn't mean to try and be someone else, I meant how do I be not too available if you know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
toolforgrowth Posted June 6, 2014 Share Posted June 6, 2014 Sorry I didn't mean to try and be someone else, I meant how do I be not too available if you know what I mean? By continuing to live your life. If she texts you while you're shooting pool with friends, you're not available. If she texts you while you're at the movies, you're not available. If she asks to hang out and you've got plans to go camping with friends, you're not available. See what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
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