bulldogz Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Hello, I seem to have a problem dating. I mostly go on one date with someone, and within five minutes I won't go out again. Sometimes I go on a second date with some people, out of indifference. But the people I've felt a "spark" for... I knew on the first date I would want to potentially go out with them permanently. And luckily, as it were, some of those turned into relationships. My oh my, this must sound bad. Can anyone relate? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Eh? This seems normal. You can't expect to get a spark with everyone you meet. That is what a first date is for -- to see fi you want any more. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 You won't make a connection with everybody. Rejecting somebody 5 minutes into a date seems a bit fast but sometimes you just know. When you do find people with whom you have a spark do you find they reciprocate? If so you are probably fine even if you haven't found The One yet Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulldogz Posted May 30, 2014 Author Share Posted May 30, 2014 Sure, sometimes they reciprocate. So that person who reciprocated the feelings was my ex girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 OK. Having an EX GF shows that you have the ability to make a connection. It's OK to be picky. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Totally know what you mean but for me it isn't five mins. I usually give them at least two dates but have been known to go longer. I am not on some mad quest for TheOne so even if I am not gaga over a particular lady - I will still date her casually. Link to post Share on other sites
J21 Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 If you're making judgements on every single person within 5 minutes, I think that might be jumping to conclusion. But sometimes you just know it's not gonna work. So don't beat yourself about that. Timing is everything when it comes to dating. You can meet the perfect, most compatible person ever, but if the timing is wrong, you'd never connect. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Hello, I seem to have a problem dating. I mostly go on one date with someone, and within five minutes I won't go out again. Sometimes I go on a second date with some people, out of indifference. But the people I've felt a "spark" for... I knew on the first date I would want to potentially go out with them permanently. And luckily, as it were, some of those turned into relationships. My oh my, this must sound bad. Can anyone relate? I used to be just the same & most failed as it was just based on their looks really x now I give a couple of dates as I know from my ex it can def grow x Link to post Share on other sites
Author bulldogz Posted May 30, 2014 Author Share Posted May 30, 2014 Well, after a breakup my timing is in the ****er. However, before that, it was still a problem. Not trying to sound shallow, but I do online dating (here abbreviated OLD), and a lot of time ladies with nice faces just show a face shot. Then they come on the date and are obese. Nothing against obese people, but I'm not, and I don't want to date someone who is. Other times, I know that there's just nothing in common. Yet other times, I know the person is out of my league. It is beyond "sparks," and it just wouldn't work between us. I dunno.... my two best friends from college... neither one of them I "connected" with until i knew them for a year. Then again, when you're at the dining hall with another dude, an "awkward silence" is no big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
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