Elle1975 Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Yeah i was upset the night she left (she left because i was pissy about wanting her to clean the house once a week so i could rent rooms in my house) but totally releived the next morning upon the realization that if i cleaned the house it would actually stay clean. My cousin came over not long ago. The first words out of her mouth were, "oh my god kris, this place looks so much better now that _____ isnt living here." She can be on a budget, but there's no reason to be dirty, indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Bloody hell Kyta. That sounds like Dantes 9th circle of hell. Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 It was. I was absolutely miserable by the end of it. She was getting upset because I was angry, and I from time to time tried to explain to her that now that all of her health problems were fixed (teeth, back, pain, counselling) I expected life to start coming to normal and for her to read the damned job description of "stay at home mom" and get on with things. I managed to keep it together when I was working from home 4 days a week but when that flipped to in the office 4 days a week I needed her to get on top of it. At times I felt like I was living with a teenage girl obsessed with vampire movies (which she was). No amount of coaxing her to actually sleep at night and stay awake during the day ever managed to work. Of course she could make a mess at night and claim that she didn't want to wake anyone the house by cleaning, then she was sleeping all day. She would even keep the kid home from school because she slept in which I found infuriating. She was incredibly persistent in claiming that I was a messy person too and it wasnt just her. Go figure. Since she's been gone the messiest my house has gotten is cleaner than the cleanest it ever was since she was here. No fruit flies anymore. Even the ashtrays get washed on a regular basis. The oven is pristine clean, I washed the windows and the blue window cleaner ran off the windows green. I did all the windows just a year prior. On the utilities, I both laughed and groaned in horror. The electric bill was 40% of what it was the same month the prior year she was here. I slashed her gad damned $360/mo TV and internet service down to $130/mo. Dante's hell isnt over. She left me with $3000 in unpaid utility debts and my garage looks like something off the show Hoarders - and I've gotten rid of 40% of it now. Every box contains an odd collection of things including but not limited to: used AA batteries, a dirty pair of womens underwear, a few mismatched kids socks, a couple barbie dolls, some broken peices of kids toys, some old mail, an unwrapped magazine, some damaged sentimental pictures (one of them had BBQ sauce on it but there was no BBQ sauce in the box), some odd papers, a few craft supplies and a few kitchen utensils. It's a nightmare I'm still dealing with 7 months later. Link to post Share on other sites
TheCanadianGuy Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Day 1 Thing I DON'T miss: > When you'd always be too busy to see me, we had to work around your schedule all the time. > You'd lie about things you didn't need to lie about. > When you'd blow off our plans to hangout with friends, despite not seeing me for several days. How I feel now: > I'm motivated to make changes in my life for the better, chase my dream career and work on becoming healthier. How I'll feel eventually: > Successful, better looking, more confident. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheCanadianGuy Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Day 2 Thing I DON'T miss: > How close guarded you were about your past. You never let me in. > How you kept us a secret from most people. > You lied about your feelings. How I feel now: > Lucky to remove a negative person like you from my life. How I'll feel eventually: > Grateful when I meet the right person. Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Another thing I dont miss: Having someone who stays up all night watching TV and sleeps all day who doesn't work, have any friends or a babysitter, who doesn't clean up after themselves, and is always asking for money bitch at me about being irresponsible when I come home from work after I ran the dishwasher back to back twice because I want to get drunk. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Sorry, I can't post here. It would be a novel. Link to post Share on other sites
gj13 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 What i don't miss- -Feeling torn between what he wanted, what i wanted and what we actually were able to do... no compromise -Feeling like a freaking sandwich between him and my family (no sympathy on his end towards our last months together, he just made nasty comments) -Waiting, all the time. It still baffles me how late he always was to everything. Granted, he lived VERY far away, but i can seldom recall ONE time he was on time. I always got stressed because of this. -He was always so busy and we needed to work around HIS schedule, yet when I COULDN'T hang out or whatever, it would be wrong, immature and selfish of me. -If I cancelled out a saturday to do something with family or friends, he would get all sentimental and go on about how little i cared about him -He played football, if i didn't/couldn't go to ALL his games, he got pissed. In his mind i had to be there in every game, all the time. Otherwise he'd be "bullied" as the guy who never had someone at his games. He actually broke up with me partly because of this. I told him we had to compromise and go halfway through, but he refused. -Hated ALWAYS doing the same stuff during the weekend, always movies and dinner. Same places, every damn week. Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyIsland Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) -I don't miss emotionless, dry sex -I don't miss him sitting in front of the computer all day playing computer game and ignoring me -I don't miss his little random tantrums -I don't miss him being butt hurt because his friends don't invite him out or cancel plans on him - I don't miss his refusal to communicate effectively with me about his feelings Edited June 12, 2014 by LonelyIsland edited to add Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 while were at it, one thing I really dont miss about one of my previous exes from a long time ago... Having the only things that qualified as "spending time together" be the stuff she wanted to do and having nothing else count for jack Link to post Share on other sites
TheCanadianGuy Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 while were at it, one thing I really dont miss about one of my previous exes from a long time ago... Having the only things that qualified as "spending time together" be the stuff she wanted to do and having nothing else count for jack I only ever really went on a true date with my ex once. She called me up one time to go to mini put with her and her friends, when I told her I'd need like 10 minutes to get ready, she told me we can another time because she wanted to go now. We rarely hung out for more than 2 hours because she was so "busy". And when we did, it was stuff she wanted to do. She said she wanted to do things with me that I enjoyed, but never made any initiative. Well, she never really gave me the chance. Ran at the first true argument we had and into the arms of another guy. Can't wait till I'm a bit older and the girls are more mature. Link to post Share on other sites
Mondmellonw Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 1. Feeling left out over his female "friends". 2. Wondering what the heck really happened between him and his ex. 3. Questioning myself about whether or not he was being honest about "not drinking too much" (Never saw him drunk, but knew that his mom wanted him to go to therapy). 4. Trying to find the balance in the relationship with someone who seems to only want what he cannot have. 5. Having to hear him how I was only looking for attention (when I never did such a thing, and since we broke up, he has been with at least 7 different girls.... Including the ex I mentioned in the point #2, lol) Link to post Share on other sites
Familia Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Don't miss being broken up with over being 10 minutes late home from work, or not answering my phone during work, or hell an argument if I saw my parents. Just to name a few Link to post Share on other sites
orangetree Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 I like this post. So here the things I don't miss: 1. Him getting pissed about the smallest things ever 2. Him never talking about his problems 3. Him texting with several of his ex girlfriends 4. Him never giving me massages, even if I'm really sore 5. Him never going down on me, although I always went down on him 6. Him never apologising for anything Link to post Share on other sites
JoeFallkon Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 i dont miss buying her sht she doesnt need everytime we went to the store. i dont miss buying her ciggs.. i dont smoke. i dont miss chasing after her in the middle of the night. i dont miss her putting me down. i dont miss worrying about her if i left the house. i do miss the sex.. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
sooshi Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) I don't miss having to spend so much energy into constantly trying to cheer him up. I don't miss the way he lashed out at me for deactivating my FB account and saying it was an insult to our relationship. He said he'd tell the next person who asked him about why I deactivated it that I was having a tantrum and that at least my idea of having a tantrum wasn't throwing things across the room. He didn't ask why I'd done it; I just wanted a break! I don't miss the way he had so much inner chaos. I don't miss the way he pursued my best friend shortly after ending our engagement. Someone he'd never met and hardly ever communicated with. I don't miss the way he wrote her a love song and sent it to me. I don't miss the way he told me in the final days of our relationship that he didn't see the point in monogamy or marriage, and wanted an open relationship, only to tell my best friend that he wanted to be with only her and tried to convince her that he was monogamous. I don't miss the way he told her that I didn't fulfill him. I don't miss the way he told me he was never in love with me, or that it was a mistake to be romantically involved with me. Edited June 14, 2014 by sooshi Link to post Share on other sites
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