D.Mc. Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Sent a "flirt" to a man on POF. Got an email that said he added me to "Favorites". What is it? What does it mean? The site FAQ only gave instructions on how to add or remove from Favorites. He's obviously not attracted to me enough to send a message, so why bother w/this other thing? Men - aaargghh!!! I'm home on a Friday night. Nothing better to do but join a 3rd dating site. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 I basically use favorites as my shortlist. Seeing as I'm not actively dating, I window shop on POF so my favorite list is simply women I'm going to message at some point until I eventually do or they delete their profile. In this guys case, I think he's dangling enough to "keep you in the loop" - but he could also be like me and likes you enough to put you on the shortlist . Either way, I agree. I'm sure it is a pain in the ass - OLD is for me too sometimes. It is for a lot of people! Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 Sent a "flirt" to a man on POF. Got an email that said he added me to "Favorites". What is it? What does it mean? The site FAQ only gave instructions on how to add or remove from Favorites. He's obviously not attracted to me enough to send a message, so why bother w/this other thing? Men - aaargghh!!! I'm home on a Friday night. Nothing better to do but join a 3rd dating site. And... you don't seem to be attracted enough to send him a message! It's certainly not a signal that he isn't interested. It's either a signal that he might be interested or a way of 'bookmarking' your profile to have a closer look at later (eg when he has more time, or when he has a laptop screen instead of a tiny phone screen to look at your pics). 4 Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 Question: why are you wasting your time with OLD? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 He's doing it to drive you nuts so you'll make a forum about it lol girl who knows! we know as much about his thoughts as you do.... "favorites" is pretty universal now on websites and such it means you like something there isn't much more to it than that. If you like him too msg him 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 short list? sorry but if i like the look of someone, i message them right away not just save them for later. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
aprilisi Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 I pay no attention to those who favorite or want to meet me. Nor the winks or the flirts. They don't mean crap. I have messaged many men, men who later complain about not being able to meet real women. Either never hear anything back or it turns out they're looking for a FWB. Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 This is how flirts work. You send flirt he added you to his favorites signaling he is interested. You should write him at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 This is how flirts work. You send flirt he added you to his favorites signaling he is interested. You should write him at this point. Sorry, doesn't necessarily work that way. I've done the OLD thing on and off for years and many of them, including POF, have some kind of favorite list members can create. I suppose the intention of such a list is to signal interest but it seems to only work in theory and not reality. I too have found myself on countless favorite lists. Some of the men weren't necessarily MY favorites but some were. The one thing they all seemed to have in common? Not one of them messaged me or initiated any kind of contact. After a while, for those that appealed to me I took the bull by horns and messaged them and nothing. Not one responded yay or nay and YET they kept me on their favorite list for as long as I was a member Moral of the story? It all means bullsh*t. You'll be better off not to pay any attention to any of those bonus features on OLD sites because they are, at least in my humble experience, completely pointless. Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 the 'meet me' feature seems to be stupid, i get messaged that someone wants to meet me and when i message them they ignore me, annoying and makes me wonder if its fake thing done by the site. Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 so basically, OLD is just a bunch of crap. People favorite you, wink at you, like you, but never reach out? I wonder if it seems to be more women do this or men? Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Sorry, doesn't necessarily work that way. I've done the OLD thing on and off for years and many of them, including POF, have some kind of favorite list members can create. I suppose the intention of such a list is to signal interest but it seems to only work in theory and not reality. I too have found myself on countless favorite lists. Some of the men weren't necessarily MY favorites but some were. The one thing they all seemed to have in common? Not one of them messaged me or initiated any kind of contact. After a while, for those that appealed to me I took the bull by horns and messaged them and nothing. Not one responded yay or nay and YET they kept me on their favorite list for as long as I was a member Moral of the story? It all means bullsh*t. You'll be better off not to pay any attention to any of those bonus features on OLD sites because they are, at least in my humble experience, completely pointless. I do like OKCupids "Like". If I Like someone, they like me back, we both get a email message saying "It's a match" or something like that. OP, don't take this so seriously. I like OLD; it's another option, not the only option, to meet someone. I may favorite someone if I am window shopping and don't have the time or energy to send them a message. I don't Wink on match; feels cheesy to me. The ones that really catch my attention though, I WILL send them a message, even if I'm tired or don't have the umph to be witty and funny in my message. I get Favorited all the time, get my pics Liked, it's all part of the game, the fun. Enjoy it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I do like OKCupids "Like". If I Like someone, they like me back, we both get a email message saying "It's a match" or something like that. In order to even see who likes you dont you have to be a paid member? I see there are quite a few people who "like" me, but I couldnt tell you who they are because they want me to pay. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 In order to even see who likes you dont you have to be a paid member? I see there are quite a few people who "like" me, but I couldnt tell you who they are because they want me to pay. I have no Idea, I have alwasy paid for the sites I'm on. I figure they are providing me a service; I should pay for it. If I don't, then well, I'm in the same pool as all the others who do not. I guess my way of thinking about it is if you can't afford to pay then you probably have other things in your life you should be focusing on. Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 I guess my way of thinking about it is if you can't afford to pay then you probably have other things in your life you should be focusing on. Oh i can afford it just fine, just dont think its worth the money I guess. I do have better things to spend my money on like manicures and such. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) Oh i can afford it just fine, just dont think its worth the money I guess. I do have better things to spend my money on like manicures and such. If it's not worth the money, than why are you on there? Something to think about. Edited June 10, 2014 by Babolat Link to post Share on other sites
SadNLonley Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Just checking it out I guess. I pay for Match. Thats just as bad as OKC to me so pay or no pay it just doesnt seem to me it is working. Just me I guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 so basically, OLD is just a bunch of crap. People favorite you, wink at you, like you, but never reach out? I wonder if it seems to be more women do this or men? It seems like this guy reciprocated your feeble show of interest with an equally feeble response. If you want to play those stupid games then yes it's a bunch of crap (or fun depending on your outlook). If you actually want to meet people then start communicating in a meaningful way, that means sending proper messages and organizing meetings, not pressing buttons to flirt, favourite, "want to meet" blah blah. The contents of your inbox are the ONLY thing you should be concentrating on. All other features are useless. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Oh i can afford it just fine, just dont think its worth the money I guess. I do have better things to spend my money on like manicures and such. And a manicure is SOOO much more gratifying that OLD. Actually, so are a lot of more mundane things. . Like picking up the dog poop in my yard. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author D.Mc. Posted June 10, 2014 Author Share Posted June 10, 2014 Hi all, thanks for posting replies. I do use only the free OKC & POF. I guess I use the meet me/flirt instead of messaging when the man's profile lists only 1-2 things we have in common, or the match rating on OKC is below 80%? I don't know if they'll be interested due to that so I don't write a message. Maybe I should just say "hello, I see you favorited me, want to talk?" Doesn't sound pushy, right? I did message a couple of men on OKC when I got the "they rated you highly" message, but they didn't answer. It was just a Hi, thanks for rating me highly, tell me a little more about yourself message: was that too much? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 No not too much. Quite the opposite: too little. Tell you about myself? That's what my profile is for, it would make me wonder did you read it?? If I got a message "want to talk"? I would respond, "sure". And you're back where you started. I replied to your feeble attempt to start a conversation with an equally feeble reply. No... if you're interested in getting to know someone then you need to put in a bit of effort and write a proper message. Try to start a conversation about something on their profile, tell a joke, make them laugh, ask a specific question. Link to post Share on other sites
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