Help Me Please!!!!

[sportsnut1978]

I've been majorly confused with the situation that's going on between me and this girl and i was hoping you guys could help me out. Here's the story:

 

So last June i started my medical school rotations where students work 6 weeks at a time at a hospital. I immediately started to click with this girl while we were working with each other. At first we were friendly, but then we'd start flirting with each other a lot. The only problem was that she had a bf. However i thought i had a chance with her because she would always tell me about the problems she was having with her bf. So anyway...i decided to tell her how much i felt about her on the last day of work together...which i eventually did. She said she was flattered but that she wasn't going to break up with her bf for me....something i realized she would say but i was still disappointed.

 

Thereafter...we became good friends. We would always go to dinner or the movies together just as friends since I eventually got over the fact that she was taken. we'd also talk to each other on the phone all the time and chat online. Anyway...fast forward to this January when she told me that she broke up with her bf 2 weeks earlier and that she was interested in going out with me. I was happy but i felt like i was being used as a backup. I told her i would think about it because now i was concerned that our friendship might be ruined because of this. I eventually agreed to go out with her thinking this would be my chance to be her bf. Here's where all the problems begin: whenever i would ask her to go out, she would say yes and then she'd back out in the last minute. She did this about 3 times which got me really angry. I confronted her about this and she would always come up with some stupid excuse. So i asked her if she really wants to go out with me or not....she then says that she has a lot of stuff going on in her life right now and it would be best to go out at a later time. I had a feeling she was starting to play games with me so i didn't know if she was being honest or not. So i got angry with her and decided to also play games. I started ignoring her and talking to her less and less. Also, she asked me to move in with her about a month ago. I didn't know what that meant (because i wasn't sure about her intentions) but i told her that i wasn't going to move in. She was upset by that...which in a bad kind of way made me feel good. Anyway, I've been trying to ignore her for the last 2 weeks and i've noticed getting more attention from her lately.

 

About 2 days ago we went out for drinks and she started flirting with me. she would smile...lick her lips....touch me with her hand. But i didn't do anything. Just last night she and I, along with 2 other friends, went out for a casual dinner after work where she was starting to flirt with me again. This has started to confuse the hell out of me because i don't know if she really likes me or if she's just likes teasing me. I had this idea about sending her something on Valentine's day. I figure that would finally give me an answer. If she likes the gift and agrees to what it says...then we'd go out for sure. If she says no...then i figure i can't really talk to her anymore because of all the crap she's been giving me......WHAT DO I DO?

[bluechocolate]

Run away - run far away - and don't look back.

 

She's got you over a barrel & had you there since you

 

...decided to tell her how much i (you) felt about her on the last day of work together.

 

Even though you knew she had a boyfriend?! Not a wise move - thing is, she knew you liked her anyway so there wasn't any need to actually verbalise it.

 

she told me that she broke up with her bf 2 weeks earlier and that she was interested in going out with me. I was happy but i felt like i was being used as a backup.

 

chances are you most certainly were

 

I told her i would think about it

 

How long did you think about if for?

 

....she then says that she has a lot of stuff going on in her life right now and it would be best to go out at a later time

 

Believe her.

 

I suppose if you really like her you could do this Valentine's thing & see what happens but I 'reckon she'll string you along & spit you out or you'll have to dump her cause she'll be like this

 

At first we were friendly, but then we'd start flirting with each other a lot

 

with some other guy while she's going out with you.

[Magus]

Don't do it man. She's playing you like a skinflute.

Notch it up as a learning experience n move on.

I wouldn't even reccomend being friends with her.

Your gonna get used man. Course, I'm in a bad mood, so my advice is coming from a negative place. You should reread what you wrote though. Keep an open mind, and realize what you yourself see going on.