hvdahc Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 My wife and I have been together for 10 years. We married a year ago today and today she is now gone. We have 2 boys, a 16 year old from another and a 7 year old together. Her son and I never have seen eye to eye and it just grew out of control. We have gone to counseling and it helped for awhile. Things started to get out of control with the the 16 year old again. Her and I are always trying to be the us, together but it seems never to last. We make chore charts for both kids to follow to try and make it easier. The 16 year old had to be told countless times to get his chores done, many time resulting in fights between us all. I usually am home before her and have to have this battle with the kids everyday. This gets me in a bad mood then stresses our relationship. I tried to explain her the strain all this is putting on us. We have had our rocky times between each other but worked through them. This however I do not know if we can. The 16 year old has asked to live with his father, who lives a long distance away. I felt we should, then maybe he would see that I am not trying to control him but get him ready for life. He is flunking school and has to go to summer school so she said no. I know if she was to stand up to him like I try I believe he would come around. Well today she came home without the kids, I told her that this doesn't look good. I asked her if she was divorcing me and she said no but a trial separation, what ever the hell that means. She is staying at her mothers, about an hour away. so now she will be taking the kids to school and working then driving back to her moms with the kids. I guess I don't understand how it is that she can think things over when she has everything, the kids , people surrounding her... I have nothing but a empty house that I built for our family. For the last 3 hours when I walk into the house I just break down. I have never felt so empty, lost and worthless in my life. Sorry for the rambling but I am just in a complete daze. Just wish this was all a bad dream.... Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 (edited) You said it man! What the heck? These kinds of scenarios are getting redictulious. I think it is high time to answer such selfishness with a big effing selfish surprise as well - this is my new go-to answer to handle this crap on LS. Monkey see, monkey do, in triplicate. Dude, this is what I think you should do. Take an emergency leave from work. But yourself a plane ticket to some exotic place overseas that you have always wanted to go, and book a nice room for two weeks - month. Visit an attorney before you leave, and perhaps file for divorce as petitioner. Leave your cell behind. Talk to no one, other than work or attorney. Tell no one. Just disappear off the map. How do you like them apples? Let her manage her punk 16 year old smart mouth by herself, when you pull a disappearing act like that. What is the problem? That is what she wanted. Trial separation is code for divorce, man. Once you are out of town, the attorney will handle everything. She abandoned the marriage, you had to get away to heal (doctor will write you a pass for that). She will be shak'in in her boots. It is the best you can do to help yourself get your head together. Was she has done is no less than criminal. That is my new solution for runaway spouses, with or without kidnapping. "Take a nice trip, also, but file before you leave! (no cell phone!)." Hope this helps. Yas Edited June 2, 2014 by Yasuandio 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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