FaithInTheDark Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 Hi I'm seeking opinions from people on this subject. Hi have a friend which I've had a few issues with recently but we patched things up. I was over at her house and she brought up getting a random message from a girl she's had a big fallowing out with. Let's call this girl Sara So I was introduced to Sara by my friend and recently I've become friends with her. And I had happen to of hung out with her the night before. I wanted to be honest with my friend And her know I've been hanging out with Sara. My friend tells me she can no longer be my friend because of the fact Sara and I are friends. And tells me how she feels betrayed . I explained I never allow myself to get involved with their problems and never talk about my friend to Sara . But my friend still insists if I valued out friendship I'd never be friends with someone that treated her with cruelty . I haven't known Sara long but she's been very kind to me and I don't see why I'd have to choose sides. Am I being a bad friend? Or is my friend being immature? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 If you have a close friendship with your original friend, then yes, you are betraying her by hanging out with her enemy. I wouldn't like it, and frankly I consider it a precursor to stealing men from her if you wanted to. It's a red flag when friends don't care enough about you to make a small sacrifice to give them peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FaithInTheDark Posted June 3, 2014 Author Share Posted June 3, 2014 After time of thinking I find this childish. My relationship from my original friend and the other girl is separate. No one has rights over me and I don't feel I should "sacrifice" a friend just because she's enemy's with her. I never got involved with their business nor ever gossip. I live in a small town so of this was proper friend adequate then I'd have zero friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FaithInTheDark Posted June 3, 2014 Author Share Posted June 3, 2014 Stealing men? What the heck? Again people need to have faith and trust in good people not become paranoid and negative Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 You've told us nothing about what your new friend supposedly did to your original friend, so it's hard to judge. But if she really did something mean to her, then siding with the mean ones on principle that you're a free agent will only get you mean friends and make you lose the nice ones. If you feel this person actually did nothing, on the other hand, and that the original friend is being a nut job, then maybe you are right to stand your ground. Either way, it won't bode well for the original friendship. But you said you already had issues with her, so.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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