Are rebound relationships necessary?

[ponchsox]

To truly move on from a marriage or LTR? I just dated this girl for two months. I was 6 months removed from a 1.5 year relationship and she was months from a 9 year marriage. We had fun dates and a lot of sex but there was no substance for a relationship and I think we both knew it wouldn't last. Is this necessary or selfish?

[d0nnivain]

No they aren't necessary. Yours helped you to move forward but other people can heal without them or they can at least recognize the new person for who they are an individual rather than as a warm body substitute for the EX.

[Priv]

I never thought so. Of the 5 long(ish) term relationships I had so far I always healed at a 'normal' pace without the need of a rebound until the last one that brought me to LS.

 

 

 

 

 

 

8 months in and still hurting/disillusioned. It is nuts! But, this was my only relationship that involved emotional abuse and as it turns out cheating. The other women were all great people and break ups were all less toxic. Now I am not so sure anymore, a rebound might just be what I need to get over the hump. Just seriously don't feel like having one. But I also don't want to find myself still in this state a year from now as you sometimes read on here.

[ChooseTruth]

Rebound relationships are really hard to resist, but they aren't necessary. It's healthier to wait so you can make sure you are starting a relationship with someone for the right reasons and so you can find yourself again after the LTR ends. You need to make peace before bringing someone else into your world. It's the considerate thing to do for them and you.

[Phoe]

Rebound relationships are NOT necessary, and I always advocate that people avoid them at all costs.