GraceLilian Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 Hi everyone, this is my first post on here and I'm jumping in the deep end lol Basically I'm very soon to be 19 and my lack of sexual experience is really worrying me. The age of consent here is 16 and I'm the last of my group of friends that is still a Virgin. I've been in a relationship but he wasn't physical at all and apart from him I've never kissed a guy when i wasn't drunk Never had sex or done anything sexual! What is wrong with me? What am i going to do? The men I do fall for don't like me, and the occasional men who fancy me, i can't reciprocate! I'm stuck in a rut and i don't know how to get out! I am quite shy and don't know how to put myself out there' I'm so scared that I'll end up a spinster. I'm not beautiful, but i'm not really ugly either. Just seem to be doing something wrong >.< The older i get, the harder i'm finding it to get close to people as well. Help! Thank you everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 You are 18. Chill out. Also, I bet half your friends are lying about their sexual endeavours. Remembering high school and asking number of partners to a friend I would probaby have to divide that number by 5 to get an accurate number. yes, it really was that bad 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GraceLilian Posted June 2, 2014 Author Share Posted June 2, 2014 Sorry I should clarify that my friends are in long term relationships haha Link to post Share on other sites
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 (edited) You're still young OP. I was also a virgin at your age. I lost it when I was 3 months shy of turning 20 to my then bf. I was also like you in HS. I didn't have a bf back then. Honestly, sex is truly overrated. If anything, there are more people that will actually see you as relationship material if you're a virgin or had a low past than if you had sex like crazy at an earlier age. Edited June 2, 2014 by dragon_fly_7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GraceLilian Posted June 2, 2014 Author Share Posted June 2, 2014 That's a relief! I feel as though guys my age would be more worried about it and maybe reject me for it /: Link to post Share on other sites
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 That's a relief! I feel as though guys my age would be more worried about it and maybe reject me for it /:Nope, if he's a quality guy himself or is even waiting for the right girl, he's going to be happy to find you. Those that get disgusted by virgins are more than likely players wanting easy sex. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dragon_fly_7 Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 Sorry I should clarify that my friends are in long term relationships hahaSome people just meet their partners earlier than other but there is really no rush into it. Yes, it has happened. One of my older female cousins met her now husband in 8th grade and they're still each other's first. Other times, we meet our partners later and might or might not marry them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GraceLilian Posted June 2, 2014 Author Share Posted June 2, 2014 As I work full time now it's so difficult to meet guys and so I'm just terrified that it will never happen! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 2, 2014 Share Posted June 2, 2014 Nothing is wrong with you. I'm more worried about 18 year olds who have sexual experience. Guard your virginity & give it to the right guy under the right circumstances because you are in love & care deeply about each other. You have your whole life ahead of you. It is very possible to meet new people while working full time. Relax. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
iiiii Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 What is wrong with me? What am i going to do? Nothing is wrong with you. What are you going to do? Concentrate on getting an education or a job you love, and having heaps of fun with your friends. You're only young once - make the most of it. There are so many things you could do with your life at your age. Go to university. Go backpacking overseas or do some volunteer work. Get a job and save for a house deposit. The world is your oyster. The right guy will come along, or he won't - worrying about it won't change a thing. Shagging the wrong guy now won't make the right guy come along any faster, it will just make you feel cheap. Link to post Share on other sites
lovehurtsme91 Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Young lady, nothing is wrong with you. Don't ever think there is something wrong with you cos of that. I'm 23 this year and I'm a virgin. Also cos that's my personal decision to but seriously do not compare yourself with your friends. Neither should you feel pressured to lose your virginity just cos your friends do. When the time is right and when the right guy comes along, everything will be go as it should. Don't give it up just cos you want to, give it up cos you feel that it is time and with the right guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Keep your virginity. Don't give it up to someone who doesn't deserve it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Keep your virginity. Don't give it up to someone who doesn't deserve it. exactly this. Link to post Share on other sites
littleplanet Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Fore heaven's sake, Ellie Mae! Granny would be scandalized! Almost 19 and no experience! According to the mass media we're all saturated with, you should have been swinging from chandeliers by now, as experienced as a French courtesan. (or barefoot in the kitchen with six screaming brats hanging off your apron strings.) Forget the peer pressure. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You happen to be picky. Good for you! That's just your own esthetics kicking in. Just don't fall asleep like a princess, waiting for Mr. Charming. You can be a little more awake than that. No need to be in such an allfired rush. You are still young. Relax. You can be different than your friends. It is not against the law. (and virginity is not a disease or disorder........thankfully.) The full measure of you goes far beyond the missing notches on your bedpost. One day the right fellow will agree with that assessment. Give him a chance to show up? (but by all means, no changes..... check back in........in six years' time.) Patience! Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 The age of consent here is 16 and I'm the last of my group of friends that is still a Virgin. Someone has to be last. That doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you or that you're some sort of failure. It's not a race or a competition. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. In another post you've said that you work full time and this makes it hard to meet guys. I don't see why that should stop you, even if there are no guys at work. I doubt that you work 24 hours a day... so in your spare time maybe you could be doing things where you might meet people. Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Keep it until you find someone who really deserves it! Who knows, maybe your partner will be a virgin too, you two will get married, and stay together until your deathbeds. I would not worry about it and I would especially not compare myself to a group of friends. I have one friend who claims things about his sexual life but I guarantee you that he lied because the stories he tells just does not fit. In all honesty, I don't care whether his stories are true so I don't understand why he needs to go out of his way to tell his friends that. I also know plenty of people who are virgins still and are older than you. You've got plenty of time so don't worry about it right now! Especially since you'll be in college soon, right? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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