pteromom Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 It depends on so many factors... age, facial shape, hair thickness, hair health, hair color, how well the hair is cared for... I've seen adorable pixie cuts and long flowing manes that looked great, and I've seen harsh butch cuts and frizzy dry messes that looked horrible. The most important thing is to have hair that you love. It may be a bonus if men love it too, but it should be FOR YOU. And - life is too short not to experiment with hair. Length, color, cut, shape... have FUN with your hair. It's just hair. It WILL grow back. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 It's just hair. It WILL grow back. Yeah but not for a while. =/ Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 Yeah but not for a while. =/ Meh. Got other stuff to do while I am waiting. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 Long hair on women as they get older makes me think they're trying to reclaim their youth, imo. I've never understood where people get this idea from. Since when did length of hair equate to age? Long hair feels great and looks feminine. Just because we get older doesn't mean we're any less female. I would no more cut my hair because of my age than I would stop wearing skirts, dresses and jewellery! I'm guessing you're quite young and don't yet realise that life really does begin at 40! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 I've never understood where people get this idea from. Since when did length of hair equate to age? Long hair feels great and looks feminine. Just because we get older doesn't mean we're any less female. I would no more cut my hair because of my age than I would stop wearing skirts, dresses and jewellery! I'm guessing you're quite young and don't yet realise that life really does begin at 40! Just some observations. Partly that as women get older, they cut their hair shorter because they realize it's such a pita to manage the longer it is. Whatever. Life better fn begin at 40!! I have a few years to wait. Not many. I'm still a fan of short hair on the ladies. Always have been. Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 I've never understood where people get this idea from. Since when did length of hair equate to age? Long hair feels great and looks feminine. Just because we get older doesn't mean we're any less female. I would no more cut my hair because of my age than I would stop wearing skirts, dresses and jewellery! I'm guessing you're quite young and don't yet realise that life really does begin at 40! Hair gets thinner with age, and keeping it longs starts to look really drab on some older women. It varies by race. White anglo women with already thin hair to begin with, it gets stringy and unimpressive. Cutting it shorter gives it more volume and bounce. Indian women, Mexican women, they don't have this problem. Lucky. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Just some observations. Partly that as women get older, they cut their hair shorter because they realize it's such a pita to manage the longer it is. Whatever. That's a reason why women cut their hair shorter. Which makes perfect sense. Your previous post came from an entirely different angle and was an assumption about the motivations of women who keep their hair long. You can't observe someone else's motivations without talking to them. If somebody, male or female, can't be bothered with the high maintenance of a particular aspect of their appearance, that's fair enough...but how does it follow that those who can be bothered must therefore be trying to reclaim their youth? It's a nonsensical argument. My brother is 46 and he recently decided to grow a beard after being clean shaven all his life because he's fed up with shaving. If he suddenly wakes up one morning and decides to start shaving again (maybe because his wife tells him she prefers it when his face is smooth) is he also trying to reclaim his youth? Hair gets thinner with age, and keeping it longs starts to look really drab on some older women. It varies by race. White anglo women with already thin hair to begin with, it gets stringy and unimpressive. Cutting it shorter gives it more volume and bounce. Indian women, Mexican women, they don't have this problem. Lucky. I agree. Some type of hair doesn't look good long and, if your hair is unhealthy, it needs to be kept short until it's in good condition again - but that applies to women of all ages. All of my friends are over 40 and a couple are over 50. Most of us still have great looking hair - thick, strong, healthy and shiny. Half of us wear it long or at least shoulder length. Those that don't have kept it short most of their lives. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 Most heavy women dont look good with short hair.. .02 TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted June 4, 2014 Share Posted June 4, 2014 My brother is 46 and he recently decided to grow a beard after being clean shaven all his life because he's fed up with shaving. If he suddenly wakes up one morning and decides to start shaving again (maybe because his wife tells him she prefers it when his face is smooth) is he also trying to reclaim his youth? Maybe. My H eventually shaved his beard after several years because it was going grey (before his hair) and making him look older. Anyway, I agree - long hair isn't just for the young. But I also agree with Eggplant - a lot depends on the hair itself, and if it's thinning, then maybe keeping it long isn't the most flattering thing. People in general should go with what's most flattering for their hair type, face shape, etc - shouldn't be about age. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eggplant Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Most heavy women dont look good with short hair.. .02 TFY If you have a big body, you need a lot of hair. For one, it balances you out, and secondly, the large body size detracts from overall daintiness and femininity, so the softening effect of long hair counterbalances that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author snappytomcat Posted June 7, 2014 Author Share Posted June 7, 2014 Hair gets thinner with age, and keeping it longs starts to look really drab on some older women. It varies by race. White anglo women with already thin hair to begin with, it gets stringy and unimpressive. Cutting it shorter gives it more volume and bounce. Indian women, Mexican women, they don't have this problem. Lucky. iam Mexican my hair is very thick,and wavy,i wish it was straight though I did get some cut last night its to the middle of my back now,feels a lot lighter,but it looks so short to me now,i just have to get used to it,the girl that cut it said she was going to see if its long enough for locks of love Link to post Share on other sites
Targetlock Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 depends on the girl, some women look great with short hair some with long i prefer long but like all kinds. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I agree that most men prefer long hair on a woman. Anytime I'm looking for a man or with a man, I feel the instinct to let my hair grow out longer. Then I start getting compliments from men on my hair. I met a guy while out last night, and he said, "I love your long, pretty hair. It's so girly." 3 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 These days you don't have to commit to long or short hair. There are wigs and hair extensions and hair pieces so you can try out a new look. Black women have been doing this for decades. Wearing the same hair style can look dated and aging. I personally find it boring to look the same everyday. You don't wear the same clothes everyday (unless you are Cameron Diaz or Orlando Bloom). Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I love and keep chin length hair. I also love men with peculiar/unusual taste, because they are a lot more interesting for me. So it's win-win for me to keep my hair that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 The only man that counts in your case should be your husband. My wife has hair to her lower back, strong and healthy. She just puts it in a ponytail when hot or working out. I can't imagine her cutting it as she knows how much it heightens my physical attraction. With that said, I'm sure there are men who like short hair better, never met one, but I'm sure they are out there somewhere. G 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I see plenty of women with short hair who are in relationships with men so I don't think it is that big a deal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 With that said, I'm sure there are men who like short hair better, never met one, but I'm sure they are out there somewhere. G Oh yes, they are out there. From what I've observed, they are usually attracted by individuality, and perceive this kind of details differently than most - which I personally find a highly erotic trait. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Oh yes, they are out there. From what I've observed, they are usually attracted by individuality, and perceive this kind of details differently than most - which I personally find a highly erotic trait. Individuality is a highly sought after trait, and I have found it has little to do with hair. I have dated women and married a woman who aren't like anyone else in the world, and a few of them had shorter hair, but as far as attraction and what I prefer, long hair is always preferable for me. To say that men who like long hair are conformists and they don't appreciate details about women isn't really a fair assessment. I know there are men who like short hair. I'm just saying I have never personally met any that say that. I have met many who say they prefer long but will date both. G 2 Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Individuality is a highly sought after trait, and I have found it has little to do with hair. I have dated women and married a woman who aren't like anyone else in the world, and a few of them had shorter hair, but as far as attraction and what I prefer, long hair is always preferable for me. To say that men who like long hair are conformists and they don't appreciate details about women isn't really a fair assessment. I know there are men who like short hair. I'm just saying I have never personally met any that say that. I have met many who say they prefer long but will date both. G Of course it would be very superficial of me to say that individuality is only about hair. I assure you I didn't mean that. I only meant individuality as in some particularity in external appearance that is not considered the most "feminine" or "attractive" in first glance, by most men. Such as short hair. Of course it applies for other aspects of a person's appearance, such as clothing (eg. someone may prefer doc martens on a woman instead of high heels). And of course I didn't imply that men who prefer long hair are not erotic at all or are conformists. I only said what is more erotic and attractive to me. Because many times the explanation of why someone has a "different" preference can be very interesting, and sexy (to me). Sure, most men like and appreciate details on women, but what I really find interesting is the difference in perception. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Individuality is a highly sought after trait, and I have found it has little to do with hair. I have dated women and married a woman who aren't like anyone else in the world, and a few of them had shorter hair, but as far as attraction and what I prefer, long hair is always preferable for me. To say that men who like long hair are conformists and they don't appreciate details about women isn't really a fair assessment. I know there are men who like short hair. I'm just saying I have never personally met any that say that. I have met many who say they prefer long but will date both. G I resisted commenting until now because the long-short hair reminded me of an annoying ex and I generally prefer not to dwell on annoying people but I have to agree with you. My ex preferred short hair over long because he had a thing about necks. So he wanted me to cut my long hair short I told him putting hair up in fact resulted in the same thing without me changing my looks completely for his preferences. He was quite controlling, didn't care all that much about individuality and I dumped him when it got annoying. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I resisted commenting until now because the long-short hair reminded me of an annoying ex and I generally prefer not to dwell on annoying people but I have to agree with you. My ex preferred short hair over long because he had a thing about necks. So he wanted me to cut my long hair short I told him putting hair up in fact resulted in the same thing without me changing my looks completely for his preferences. He was quite controlling, didn't care all that much about individuality and I dumped him when it got annoying. Ha! My wife is the same. I can prefer something but it doesn't mean she isn't going to do what she wants. She would just find that kind of controlling attitude annoying. I like that about her. She likes her long hair too, as it is easy for her to just throw up in a ponytail or a topknot(which is very cute btw.) She loves me and will do many things to make me happy, but I don't expect her to change her look or not just because it is my preference. Which is probably why she acquiesces to my preferences most times, because I don't expect her to. She is quite the little rebel. My daughters on again/off again gf just shaved the side of her head. She had gorgeous long brown hair, and even my daughter was like..... I guess it isn't just men. Grumps 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Then I start getting compliments from men on my hair. I met a guy while out last night, and he said, "I love your long, pretty hair. It's so girly." Hmm maybe it's just me, but that's not something I'd expect a grown straight man to say as a compliment....kinda weird. ... But anyway to the OP, I think it's pretty common knowledge that men like long hair...the thing is, A LOT of women have long hair, which is still for men a positive thing. That's why even if you have long-hair it pays to take care of it, we might not notice it too much if it's nice or average but we will if it's bad or it's gone. And personally I don't like the over-the-top fabulous glam hair with a hundred different curls, highlights and off the wall hair colors that make you look like a doll with a wig, it just looks like you're trying too hard and too much for me...but if you can pull it off as a whole, then go for it..just wouldn't waste time making it a regular thing. So long hair something that enhances the overall package IF there is an attraction there...sometimes you see a woman from behind and her body-shape and hair attract you, then she finally turns around aaannnd it's like....never mind. So it's not like it mattered in that scenario to me, but it might be another mans cup of tea who is. But while short-hair won't make or break you, it definitely can hurt you. And take a look at the kind of women that have short hair who pull it off really well, they're all relatively youthful looking, beautiful, thin, and have nice jaw lines/facial features that goes with the look as the short hair accentuates the face and widens their already narrow jaw-line, or cutifies their heart-shaped/small heads, which are already nice regardless. The reality is that if you have a big round nose, puffy cheeks, a pudgy face and a double chin you're more likely to look closer to Santa Claus than Jennifer Anniston or someone your age that you think looks great in that "look" so you're trying to pull it off too. It's not an easy feat IMO for a woman to pull off short-hair, and she does she's usually already exceptionally good-looking...otherwise if you're a short person especially, and you're sporting this little boyish haircut, it can make you look like a little plump pillsbury doughboy. My preferences are hair that go down to the shoulders at least...a little more than a 1/3 of the ways down your back is perfect, and anything more than that is just bonus...but if you got really long hair that goes further IMO I'd just make sure it looks nice and suitable to you, some women have very long thin hair and it just enhances the fact that it's thinning...I believe that you should reduce the not so perfect qualities and highlight the good features that you have...and that goes with style and how you dress as well, just because you see something on TV or in magazine, doesn't mean it's going to look anywhere near the same on you...so have some self-awareness, get second opinions and go with what looks best for you depending on your skin color, features including facial and body-type and then other people will notice that, if you just do something for yourself, well you're pleasing yourself but you also accept that many of the opposite sex may not find it appealing, but that's your call just don't expect everyone to "accept" your possibly bad and selfish preferences because it doesn't work like that in the dating world...someone actually has to be attracted to you, and if you have to care about what that person thinks if you like them as well, crazy...I know. Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 I had very very short hair for 6 years or so. Never had trouble attracting, or "keeping" men. I am also in the beauty industry so I was getting $100+ haircuts every ten days. Plus doing my own color as needed, usually my natural brown with purple, blue, pink, green, teal, or platinum blonde. I'm also "alternative" looking (whatever that means) so my hair was merely an extension of my personality. Now I have it long, wavy, and my natural brown, with a purple/blue fringe of course . My H loves my hair, and I admit I'd missed it being long. I never blow it dry, so it's very low maintenance. We've discussed growing out our hair.for Locks of Love and I personally think it's a beautiful idea!! (Gotta.stop with the crazy colors sometime!!) 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Not all men. My ex prefered it short and was constantly on my case to cut it super short. I never went below bob length though Link to post Share on other sites
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