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I'm leaving, he's not - LDR?


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I'll be migrating to another country (indefinitely) and my bf of 1 year has decided not to come along.

 

Reasons for not coming along: (1) his family is here (2) different culture and upbringing: I'm Asian and he's American (3) he is comfortable where he is now (4) his brief marriage scarred any thoughts of getting married anytime soon.

 

I would want him to come with me. I love him. He makes me laugh. I believe I make him happy. But it is not fair to have him leave everything behind just to be with me. There are too many what-ifs.

 

I don't believe in LDR: (1) I need to comfort of having my guy around, yes, dependency (2) jealousy (3) expensive

 

What are my alternatives? Please share your thoughts

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bluechocolate

What are my alternatives? Please share your thoughts

 

He's not going with you, you're leaving indefinitely & you don't like LDR - I don't see that you have many alternatives.

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Originally posted by bluechocolate

He's not going with you, you're leaving indefinitely & you don't like LDR - I don't see that you have many alternatives.

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on the head, as ever, bluechoc.

 

yang, no-one chooses or wants an LDR. they're very hard work. we suffer them because the person we want can't be with us at that time.

 

if you and this guy really wanted each other more than anything you'd make it work. clearly you don't. you've answered your own question.

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