Emilia Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Tbh it puts me off marrying into the family. They whinge if they don't see FI every week. That's too often for me. I'm marrying FI, not them. Getting on with the inlaws is a bonus to me, not a necessity. Yuck. The only solution is that if you don't mind his visiting them on his own, maybe he would be happy with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxmusical Posted June 13, 2014 Author Share Posted June 13, 2014 (edited) This depends in how needy and inconsiderate their family is, or how much power they feel entitled over your SO. My in-laws are super needy, where as my parents are not, they can fend for themselves when there is an issue and only ask for help if it's literally life and death and there is no other solution, my in-laws on the other hand ask for help every other day like its their right, without caring or thinking about me and my husband's own responsibilities and financial goals. How do you (and your SO) deal with your in-laws' neediness then? Does your SO say "no" some times? What I'm trying to figure out is, how much "boundary" should one put between in-laws? And what about the SO's own boundary with his own parents? Is it even acceptable to ask SO to set boundaries with his own parents/family? Edited June 13, 2014 by xxmusical Link to post Share on other sites
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