I was contacted after some time of NC

[SoThatHappened]

Ouch, BC. I couldn't imagine connecting with a kid and basically being their "mother" or "father" for that long, just to lose them. Especially when they're young, fun, and impressionable like I'm sure he was.

 

Also not knowing what light your ex painted you in to the son. That would always make me wonder. At least my ex's daughter can't understand what happened. I do know that she was saying "Ryan! Popsicle!" for weeks after her mom and I broke up. I'd sneak her popsicles all the time, play with her, take her for walks, look at the deer, hide Easter eggs for her well after Easter, etc.

 

Losing a connection like you had with the son must have been, like you said, a bitter pill to swallow and just another pile of pain heaped on an already sh**y situation. I bet you were saying, "Damn, I didn't need that too."

[SoThatHappened]

I forgot about that one.

 

Wait 'til you get married and have kids. It just happens in a different order, that's all.

 

Cracked up when I read that, man

 

Yeah, I learned quickly who came first, and I'm more than fine with that. Obviously I'm not going to be #1, and that's the way it should be.

 

And I'm fine with becoming #2, #3, etc. when I have kids with someone. But I would prefer being #1 at least before that

 

I fell for a young, immature, unstable girl. She hooked me with the good qualities she had, and was really fun. Lesson learned.

 

And I know she's going to contact me again. She can't handle thinking I may hate her and how she solely screwed things up. I know by not contacting her I'm driving her crazy.

 

I also know I need to be prepared for her saying, "I know I screwed up but I will do everything in my power to get you back." I know it's coming. And I know I have the will power to not respond or tell her that there's no chance it will happen and she needs to let go.

 

I guess, selfishly on my end, I want her to want me and I'm enjoying this a little bit. I'm the victim, but at the same time I know she wants to get back together.

 

I really have accepted for a few weeks now that the relationship will never be rekindled. I've accepted the fact that we will now lead separate lives. Not just accepted, but I'm good with it. But, I have to admit that I'm enjoying this a little.

[BC1980]

Ouch, BC. I couldn't imagine connecting with a kid and basically being their "mother" or "father" for that long, just to lose them. Especially when they're young, fun, and impressionable like I'm sure he was.

 

Also not knowing what light your ex painted you in to the son. That would always make me wonder. At least my ex's daughter can't understand what happened. I do know that she was saying "Ryan! Popsicle!" for weeks after her mom and I broke up. I'd sneak her popsicles all the time, play with her, take her for walks, look at the deer, hide Easter eggs for her well after Easter, etc.

 

Losing a connection like you had with the son must have been, like you said, a bitter pill to swallow and just another pile of pain heaped on an already sh**y situation. I bet you were saying, "Damn, I didn't need that too."

 

It sucked all around, but it made him easier to get over in the end. Once I was able to step away from the situation, I realized that I could never respect someone doing that to me or their child. What's done is done. I actually thought about sending his son a birthday card this year, but everyone on LS said don't do it. I didn't send it. Better to just have no contact at all than to confuse the child even more.

 

You will never be number one when you date a parent. That is for darn sure. I understand it though. I get where he was coming from, and you can't argue with it. Once, we got into a conversation about who he would save first, me or his child. He said that was an easy one, his child. I get it, and I agree. But he could have at least acted like it pained him a little. What an Ahole. I came into a tough situation. He was a single parent for 5 years before he met me, so I was always going to be the odd one out.