Economist70 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 I'm 22 and have only had one girlfriend to date. She dumped me because she was leaving the state to study at University. When we began to see each other, she amalgamated into my friendship group and began texting my friends (Something I didn't have a problem with because I have similar contact with my friend's partners too). When we broke up, she essentially stopped texting me but continued to text my friends. This annoyed me because when she dumped me she said she'd like to remain friends (Something I was gullible enough to fall for). Anyway, a couple of months later I saw her change her profile picture to one of her and one of my best mates. Turns out they'd began to see each other in the state that she'd moved to. They'd done it in secret because they didn't know how to break the news and it took a message from me to my mate for him to confirm what had happened. Then she texted me saying sorry if they'd hurt me and best wishes for the future. I've cut both people from my life and haven't heard anything since. As trivial as it sounds, I feel inferior because she's all public with their relationship but when we dated it had to be kept some kind of secret. Since this experience, I've felt different emotions from lying to myself I'm above this and okay with it to borderline depression. I've become cynical and pessimistic. All my friends are getting engaged and entering into relationships and I'm just standing on the sidelines watching. Not to sound arrogant but I don't think there's anything overly wrong with me; I'm popular, smart, funny, involved and caring, yet I can't seem to attract anyone. How long do I have to wait to find someone because I'm beginning to think I never will? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 I'm in an identical position OP. :/ All my friends are either engaged or in relationships, whereas I have been actively dating for the past 2.5 years since being dumped and no new relationship materialises despite the amount of effort which I put into it. I'm also 22 and don't believe there to be anything 'overly wrong' with me either. :S Link to post Share on other sites
DitzyPanda Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 I empathize with you and I have a friend in Ohio who was in a similar situation. I told her, don't stress too much over it. After all that's happened, do you believe that romantic relationships are for you? I say, don't make it priority and just let love happen when it feels like it. Live your life without actively pursuing a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Take a break of dating, find new passion and work on yourself . You cant attract a girl with that mindset . Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 You may not believe this yet, but at 22, you still have a LOT of growing to do before you are ready for a full relationship. I know it doesn't feel like it and that there is the mindset that there is "no one," but the world and then-some is going to change DRASTICALLY in the next decade - and it will get better. Our society makes everyone believe that all of a sudden, between the ages of 18 and 20, we should all immediately be grown up and full of adult experiences. For many, many people, it doesn't happen until their mid- to late-20s. Don't despair. It will happen. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
R3d Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 You may not believe this yet, but at 22, you still have a LOT of growing to do before you are ready for a full relationship. And here I am/was sitting at 16 expecting one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheBladeRunner Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 I'm 22 and have only had one girlfriend to date. God!!!!! I remember this feeling at your age OP.......l..trust me when I say this that there will be more woman that come and go that you can imagine! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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