What is up with his jealousy? Can someone enlighten me?

[Keke1]

No I believe he can control his mouth, it's just I don't think he knows the severity of his words. I don't think he realizes that what he says isn't right. Nobody clearly normal would say any of that. I know douchebag guys and they still don't talk like how the way he talks. It's weird cause he is cool with me, but anytime when I say I am hanging with a friend or a guy he acts super jealous to the point where it's ridiculous. I am not going to date him just because of his behavior, it's putting me off. Thanks.

 

Try to hang out with a guy friend if you end up with him and see what happens. The guy is trouble. He showed you a glimpse of him being unstable.

[Kelly M]

Try to hang out with a guy friend if you end up with him and see what happens. The guy is trouble. He showed you a glimpse of him being unstable.

 

I agree with you! Weather he likes me alot or a little, I need to distance myself, cause it isn't normal how the way he acts. He literally will act like he's my boyfriend, and that is just not normal considering we are platonic friends, it's definitely not normal. I am just going to talk to him here and there, but I don't think I will be hanging out with him and such. I see what you mean though! I bet you any money if I were to say I am with a guy or I am hanging out with a guy, he would go full on ballistic on me! He would probably rip me to shreds somehow. I don't know, he might do something vindictive or something. He does seem a little dangerous and I am realizing that. Weather it's stalking, insulting, jealousy etc. It's dangerous! So I am just going to keep my distance, and be a distant friend and talk to him here and there, cause I can't be around someone like that. People on this forum including you, have made really good valid points that really opened my eyes to the severity of this situation. Before I even posted on here, I was just thinking he has a crush on me and it was kinda harmless etc. But everyone gave me their opinion and it seems to make sense, and it really opened my eyes up to how this isn't right what he did and what he is doing anyways. So I thank you and everyone for that. Lol, not trying to sound corny haha.

[revelations]

Kelly M,

 

Okay reading a little more about what you have posted gives me a better understanding of what is going on. You like this guy, however your not sure if you can trust him because he is trying to get with you while he is in another relationship. He is also very territorial and jealous when it comes to you being around other guys or even friends. Now you have probably been wondering if you are making a mistake by not getting into a relationship with this guy. Now I have read what other people wrote on here and I feel that they are pretty close to dead on. However as a young woman you need to learn how to see these signs and figure this out yourself. Okay that may sound wrong. Normally myself I will come to a conclusion and then I will double check with close friends. The reason for this is because it never hurts to get a second opinion on something.

 

Your first post that you wrote, you had stated that he was jealous. Now this can be a red flag, however not always especially when you consider age. Later on when you replied to me is when you stated that he was seeing someone else while trying to get with you. Whoa, big red flag their. He is banging another girl, while trying to bang you and jealous of who your hanging around. Do you not see why you don't trust him? You know he cheats because well he was trying to cheat with you. The fact that he is so jealous and territorial in this case shows that he will continue to cheat. Understand this, most people only view other people from their perspective. So since he cheats, he assumes that not only the woman he is with is cheating, but any other woman he is with is going to cheat as well.

 

So with this, you can now see why your gut was telling you not to trust this guy. I would actually go as far to say that since he acts the way he does around you, he may not even be good to keep as a friend. Their is a big difference between being a little immature and being a predator. To me this guy sounds like a predator. Now I have no idea why you are attracted to this guy, is it looks? Is it because of his attitude? Is it because he is a hard luck case and your trying to rescue him? Is it a combination of all of these things and maybe more? I have no clue myself, however you probably do. So you may want to figure out why you were feeling attracted to a guy like this. This will help you later on from making much worse mistakes.

 

Okay you may consider me to be an old man, heck I am in my early 40's. However I have been around the block a few times. I will tell you that I have turned down some very good looking women based on one thing. That one thing was that I had known them to cheat on their husbands and or boyfriends. Now a ONS would have been one thing, however a relationship with them was out of the question for me. The reason I felt this way at the time and still do is because I deserve to be treated better than that. Remember if you are dating someone monogamously that is because you plan to be with them long term, as in either living with them or married. So in that case you want to be with someone who will benefit you, that will inspire the best in you, that will be their for you. Now yes at your age both you and any other men you see may have some growing up to do, this is to be expected. However you should never be viewing your boyfriend as a work in progress that you need to try and mold. You should be viewing that boyfriend as someone you mature with and grow old with.

 

You are young and eventually you will find a guy that fits the bill for you. However I would advise to figure out why you were attracted to a guy like this and correct that. Another thing to remember is that choosing a guy based on looks mainly is okay for a ONS. Hell I have done this with women that I have had a ONS with myself. When choosing a guy that you are thinking long term about, you really need to look at his character. I kind of follow by the old saying of "never judge a book by it's cover". Almost every time I have ignored that resulted in me buying a horror movie that ended up getting chucked out the window of my truck and me wondering why I wasted the last hour of my life trying to watch that movie. Anyhow just my advice is to stay at least arm's length from this guy if not farther. Others are right when they say that he will chase off a nice guy that you may want to be with.

[Keke1]

I agree with you! Weather he likes me alot or a little, I need to distance myself, cause it isn't normal how the way he acts. He literally will act like he's my boyfriend, and that is just not normal considering we are platonic friends, it's definitely not normal. I am just going to talk to him here and there, but I don't think I will be hanging out with him and such. I see what you mean though! I bet you any money if I were to say I am with a guy or I am hanging out with a guy, he would go full on ballistic on me! He would probably rip me to shreds somehow. I don't know, he might do something vindictive or something. He does seem a little dangerous and I am realizing that. Weather it's stalking, insulting, jealousy etc. It's dangerous! So I am just going to keep my distance, and be a distant friend and talk to him here and there, cause I can't be around someone like that. People on this forum including you, have made really good valid points that really opened my eyes to the severity of this situation. Before I even posted on here, I was just thinking he has a crush on me and it was kinda harmless etc. But everyone gave me their opinion and it seems to make sense, and it really opened my eyes up to how this isn't right what he did and what he is doing anyways. So I thank you and everyone for that. Lol, not trying to sound corny haha.

Not corny at all. I wish i would have found this website way earlier than i did. Its crazy looking back at the flags i ignored. Flags that were there from the very beginning. I never would have stayed with her that long. Outside advice from strangers isnt a horrible idea. The ppl here mostly give good advice because they have been through it all. Some are overly critical or rush to judgement but overall a nice community.

[Kelly M]

Kelly M,

 

Okay reading a little more about what you have posted gives me a better understanding of what is going on. You like this guy, however your not sure if you can trust him because he is trying to get with you while he is in another relationship. He is also very territorial and jealous when it comes to you being around other guys or even friends. Now you have probably been wondering if you are making a mistake by not getting into a relationship with this guy. Now I have read what other people wrote on here and I feel that they are pretty close to dead on. However as a young woman you need to learn how to see these signs and figure this out yourself. Okay that may sound wrong. Normally myself I will come to a conclusion and then I will double check with close friends. The reason for this is because it never hurts to get a second opinion on something.

 

Your first post that you wrote, you had stated that he was jealous. Now this can be a red flag, however not always especially when you consider age. Later on when you replied to me is when you stated that he was seeing someone else while trying to get with you. Whoa, big red flag their. He is banging another girl, while trying to bang you and jealous of who your hanging around. Do you not see why you don't trust him? You know he cheats because well he was trying to cheat with you. The fact that he is so jealous and territorial in this case shows that he will continue to cheat. Understand this, most people only view other people from their perspective. So since he cheats, he assumes that not only the woman he is with is cheating, but any other woman he is with is going to cheat as well.

 

So with this, you can now see why your gut was telling you not to trust this guy. I would actually go as far to say that since he acts the way he does around you, he may not even be good to keep as a friend. Their is a big difference between being a little immature and being a predator. To me this guy sounds like a predator. Now I have no idea why you are attracted to this guy, is it looks? Is it because of his attitude? Is it because he is a hard luck case and your trying to rescue him? Is it a combination of all of these things and maybe more? I have no clue myself, however you probably do. So you may want to figure out why you were feeling attracted to a guy like this. This will help you later on from making much worse mistakes.

 

Okay you may consider me to be an old man, heck I am in my early 40's. However I have been around the block a few times. I will tell you that I have turned down some very good looking women based on one thing. That one thing was that I had known them to cheat on their husbands and or boyfriends. Now a ONS would have been one thing, however a relationship with them was out of the question for me. The reason I felt this way at the time and still do is because I deserve to be treated better than that. Remember if you are dating someone monogamously that is because you plan to be with them long term, as in either living with them or married. So in that case you want to be with someone who will benefit you, that will inspire the best in you, that will be their for you. Now yes at your age both you and any other men you see may have some growing up to do, this is to be expected. However you should never be viewing your boyfriend as a work in progress that you need to try and mold. You should be viewing that boyfriend as someone you mature with and grow old with.

 

You are young and eventually you will find a guy that fits the bill for you. However I would advise to figure out why you were attracted to a guy like this and correct that. Another thing to remember is that choosing a guy based on looks mainly is okay for a ONS. Hell I have done this with women that I have had a ONS with myself. When choosing a guy that you are thinking long term about, you really need to look at his character. I kind of follow by the old saying of "never judge a book by it's cover". Almost every time I have ignored that resulted in me buying a horror movie that ended up getting chucked out the window of my truck and me wondering why I wasted the last hour of my life trying to watch that movie. Anyhow just my advice is to stay at least arm's length from this guy if not farther. Others are right when they say that he will chase off a nice guy that you may want to be with.

 

Yeah, I see what you mean! Thank you! I am attracted to his personality, cause he is really funny, and out there, lol. I love how boisterous he is, cause I am naturally shy so it brings me out of my shell a bit when he is around me. His personality is larger than life, but the only downfall is his possessive behavior and his jealousy. That is the only thing that is a red flag and is bothersome. I think I honestly clung onto to him cause I was in a deep, bad depression before I met him. Nothing in my life was going right and I had a little social life, and I didn't relate to those people. I think what I liked about him is that because he was so boisterous, and funny, it lifted my spirits in a way, and I felt like I could relate to him cause he told me about his past, and how his family was, and it was relatable. It made me think I have someone I can relate to finally! Cause the other people weren't supportive of me and were users. But then I saw his bad side, which was the whole girlfriend thing, and it turned me off. Cause I thought of him as a potential boyfriend at first cause I felt so in sync with him, but I finally felt happy and I felt ok. And I wasn't feeling that way for a long time, so to actually feel happy again was really an impeccable feeling. I think honestly I am just holding onto to him for that reason. My happiness, cause he lifted my depression somehow. Sorry I am not looking for attention, I am just telling the possible reason why I am so drawn to him, and I think that is it, but I could be wrong. Thank you! You are right though!

[Kelly M]

Not corny at all. I wish i would have found this website way earlier than i did. Its crazy looking back at the flags i ignored. Flags that were there from the very beginning. I never would have stayed with her that long. Outside advice from strangers isnt a horrible idea. The ppl here mostly give good advice because they have been through it all. Some are overly critical or rush to judgement but overall a nice community.

 

Exactly! And to me it's better to post on a forum, cause if I talk to my friends about it, I know for sure, that somehow it would get back to him. Everyone is a gossip and I don't want to talk about him to people I know cause somehow it will get back to him. Even if they don't know him there will always be someone that does and then they'll tell that person and then that person will tell him. Lol, I know I sound paranoid, but it has happened, that is why I learned to keep my mouth shut. Literally that did happen to me. I talked about a guy to my girlfriend, cause she didn't know him. Then she talks about my situation to another guy, but this other guy happen to know about the guy I was talking about and told him and it was super awkward. LOL. It was just really awkward and bad, haha. So I feel more safe on a forum, haha. But thank you for your input and for commenting! I appreciate it!

[preraph]

Yeah, I know...I just don't want to abandon him though, cause everyone else in his life has abandoned him, and I guess I am just trying to be a good friend.

 

You're a very nice person, but see now you're just enabling and reinforcing his bad behavior. It's really not in his best interests. It's best if at some point he sees that others feel he crosses boundaries and starts to work on it.

[Kelly M]

You're a very nice person, but see now you're just enabling and reinforcing his bad behavior. It's really not in his best interests. It's best if at some point he sees that others feel he crosses boundaries and starts to work on it.

 

Thank you for that kind compliment! I am just naturally that kind of person that always wants to be there for someone. Also, I was abandoned in my life, and that is why I have severe trust issues to this day. Because of that I know what it's like to be alone and to have people abandon you, and it's a horrible feeling that I want nobody else to experience, so I think that is why too, I won't let go of him, cause I don't want him to feel empty, alone, or abandoned. I understand though what you're saying, how it is enabling. I think I am just going to distance myself, even though I have some sort of weird connection to him. But he does have severe issues that need to be addressed and I can't help him with that. I love my friend alot, but like I said I don't think I will cut ties completely, I just think I will be distant and talk to him here and there. Thank you!

Edited June 9, 2014 by Kelly M

[revelations]

Yeah, I see what you mean! Thank you! I am attracted to his personality, cause he is really funny, and out there, lol. I love how boisterous he is, cause I am naturally shy so it brings me out of my shell a bit when he is around me. His personality is larger than life, but the only downfall is his possessive behavior and his jealousy. That is the only thing that is a red flag and is bothersome. I think I honestly clung onto to him cause I was in a deep, bad depression before I met him. Nothing in my life was going right and I had a little social life, and I didn't relate to those people. I think what I liked about him is that because he was so boisterous, and funny, it lifted my spirits in a way, and I felt like I could relate to him cause he told me about his past, and how his family was, and it was relatable. It made me think I have someone I can relate to finally! Cause the other people weren't supportive of me and were users. But then I saw his bad side, which was the whole girlfriend thing, and it turned me off. Cause I thought of him as a potential boyfriend at first cause I felt so in sync with him, but I finally felt happy and I felt ok. And I wasn't feeling that way for a long time, so to actually feel happy again was really an impeccable feeling. I think honestly I am just holding onto to him for that reason. My happiness, cause he lifted my depression somehow. Sorry I am not looking for attention, I am just telling the possible reason why I am so drawn to him, and I think that is it, but I could be wrong. Thank you! You are right though!

 

Well this is the thing that everyone has to learn and practice. Happiness comes from within. No boyfriend/girlfriend, car, stuff is going to actually make you happy. I will say that it is good you understand what is attractive about him. Truthfully everyone will have good and bad qualities about them. The real thing to figure out is which of those bad qualities are deal breakers. For me two major ones are cheating and lying. Those are just things that will cause me to walk and I will not even listen to an explanation. Now normally if you feel their is something wrong with a guy, you may want to trust your gut instinct. Sure this guy may have been funny and set you at ease, however his bad side, the cheating on his girlfriend and the jealousy are some real bad flaws. Truthfully some guys will do this, run hot and cold in order to try and control a woman. Well actually I have seen both men and women do this, so it is not just a guy thing. Like I have said before, figure out what qualities you like in a guy then figure out the ones you don't like and the deal breakers. Then the next step is to check two things. One does he do what he says, now I mean within reason. Next is to always watch his actions. If you find out that he had no trouble hitting his last girlfriend, chances are he will have no trouble hitting you. However make this check list for yourself. While your at it, you can also do something similar for yourself. Take an inventory of your own character traits that you like and don't like. Then set out to change the ones you don't like. I would not worry too much about physical appearance. If a guy is interested in you for a relationship he will not really care how big or small your boobs are, or if you can fit into a size 2 dress or any BS like that.

 

Work on yourself and you will find that you will have more self-confidence and it will improve your mood. You will see those red flags and listen to their warnings. The more you love and respect yourself, the more you will be able to give the same to a boyfriend. You will also find that other people will respond to that new self-confidence in a positive way. Also I know that your hear looking for answers, so don't worry about explaining yourself. Remember that is what I suggested you to do was to figure out what made this guy so alluring. Just remember that your a good person, so you should not settle for less than what you want and need. So be good to yourself and always feel free to come here and ask the people here questions or even just complain about something. Also you can feel free to PM me if you want. Just please stay away from guys like this, trust me it will be nothing but trouble for you in the long run. Don't make the same mistakes I did when I was your age and dating. Major thing is to never settle because your lonely. Hang in their girl, your worth it.

[dory]

I love how boisterous he is, cause I am naturally shy so it brings me out of my shell a bit when he is around me. His personality is larger than life, but the only downfall is his possessive behavior and his jealousy. That is the only thing that is a red flag and is bothersome. I think I honestly clung onto to him cause I was in a deep, bad depression before I met him. Nothing in my life was going right and I had a little social life, and I didn't relate to those people. I think what I liked about him is that because he was so boisterous, and funny, it lifted my spirits in a way, and I felt like I could relate to him cause he told me about his past, and how his family was, and it was relatable.

 

Aw, good for you for having the clarity of mind to see where you might've been emotionally vulnerable. These guys are often charismatic yet prone to explosive outbursts. I'm glad you decided to let someone else deal with the bulk of his drama.

 

Depression is a hard thing, and finding something that lifts your spirits can feel like an oasis. It sounds like you're doing better now with the depression, and that's really excellent news.

 

As a side note, I want to make a public service announcement, everyone: please treat your kids kindly. A good number of broken-hearted children grow up to have fractured personalities and trouble believing in themselves.

[Keke1]

Well this is the thing that everyone has to learn and practice. Happiness comes from within. No boyfriend/girlfriend, car, stuff is going to actually make you happy. I will say that it is good you understand what is attractive about him. Truthfully everyone will have good and bad qualities about them. The real thing to figure out is which of those bad qualities are deal breakers. For me two major ones are cheating and lying. Those are just things that will cause me to walk and I will not even listen to an explanation. Now normally if you feel their is something wrong with a guy, you may want to trust your gut instinct. Sure this guy may have been funny and set you at ease, however his bad side, the cheating on his girlfriend and the jealousy are some real bad flaws. Truthfully some guys will do this, run hot and cold in order to try and control a woman. Well actually I have seen both men and women do this, so it is not just a guy thing. Like I have said before, figure out what qualities you like in a guy then figure out the ones you don't like and the deal breakers. Then the next step is to check two things. One does he do what he says, now I mean within reason. Next is to always watch his actions. If you find out that he had no trouble hitting his last girlfriend, chances are he will have no trouble hitting you. However make this check list for yourself. While your at it, you can also do something similar for yourself. Take an inventory of your own character traits that you like and don't like. Then set out to change the ones you don't like. I would not worry too much about physical appearance. If a guy is interested in you for a relationship he will not really care how big or small your boobs are, or if you can fit into a size 2 dress or any BS like that.

 

Work on yourself and you will find that you will have more self-confidence and it will improve your mood. You will see those red flags and listen to their warnings. The more you love and respect yourself, the more you will be able to give the same to a boyfriend. You will also find that other people will respond to that new self-confidence in a positive way. Also I know that your hear looking for answers, so don't worry about explaining yourself. Remember that is what I suggested you to do was to figure out what made this guy so alluring. Just remember that your a good person, so you should not settle for less than what you want and need. So be good to yourself and always feel free to come here and ask the people here questions or even just complain about something. Also you can feel free to PM me if you want. Just please stay away from guys like this, trust me it will be nothing but trouble for you in the long run. Don't make the same mistakes I did when I was your age and dating. Major thing is to never settle because your lonely. Hang in their girl, your worth it.

 

Revelations you are going to end up writing a book up in here lol. Your advice is great tho from what I've read from you.

[Kelly M]

Well this is the thing that everyone has to learn and practice. Happiness comes from within. No boyfriend/girlfriend, car, stuff is going to actually make you happy. I will say that it is good you understand what is attractive about him. Truthfully everyone will have good and bad qualities about them. The real thing to figure out is which of those bad qualities are deal breakers. For me two major ones are cheating and lying. Those are just things that will cause me to walk and I will not even listen to an explanation. Now normally if you feel their is something wrong with a guy, you may want to trust your gut instinct. Sure this guy may have been funny and set you at ease, however his bad side, the cheating on his girlfriend and the jealousy are some real bad flaws. Truthfully some guys will do this, run hot and cold in order to try and control a woman. Well actually I have seen both men and women do this, so it is not just a guy thing. Like I have said before, figure out what qualities you like in a guy then figure out the ones you don't like and the deal breakers. Then the next step is to check two things. One does he do what he says, now I mean within reason. Next is to always watch his actions. If you find out that he had no trouble hitting his last girlfriend, chances are he will have no trouble hitting you. However make this check list for yourself. While your at it, you can also do something similar for yourself. Take an inventory of your own character traits that you like and don't like. Then set out to change the ones you don't like. I would not worry too much about physical appearance. If a guy is interested in you for a relationship he will not really care how big or small your boobs are, or if you can fit into a size 2 dress or any BS like that.

 

Work on yourself and you will find that you will have more self-confidence and it will improve your mood. You will see those red flags and listen to their warnings. The more you love and respect yourself, the more you will be able to give the same to a boyfriend. You will also find that other people will respond to that new self-confidence in a positive way. Also I know that your hear looking for answers, so don't worry about explaining yourself. Remember that is what I suggested you to do was to figure out what made this guy so alluring. Just remember that your a good person, so you should not settle for less than what you want and need. So be good to yourself and always feel free to come here and ask the people here questions or even just complain about something. Also you can feel free to PM me if you want. Just please stay away from guys like this, trust me it will be nothing but trouble for you in the long run. Don't make the same mistakes I did when I was your age and dating. Major thing is to never settle because your lonely. Hang in their girl, your worth it.

 

Thank you so much Revelations! You are truly a remarkable and a intelligent human being! I appreciate your advice alot. You have alot of wisdom, and I am taking it all in now, and everyone else that commented too. I am taking it all in now from everyone. I completely understand what you are saying and it makes alot of sense. Thank you so much for commenting on my post and opening my eyes to the situation

[Kelly M]

Aw, good for you for having the clarity of mind to see where you might've been emotionally vulnerable. These guys are often charismatic yet prone to explosive outbursts. I'm glad you decided to let someone else deal with the bulk of his drama.

 

Depression is a hard thing, and finding something that lifts your spirits can feel like an oasis. It sounds like you're doing better now with the depression, and that's really excellent news.

 

As a side note, I want to make a public service announcement, everyone: please treat your kids kindly. A good number of broken-hearted children grow up to have fractured personalities and trouble believing in themselves.

 

Thank you so much, dory! I am doing a little bit better. I am still kinda in my depression, but I am doing way better than I was last year that's for sure. I am set to go to college in the fall so that is a big step for me, and I am excited for it! But I do agree with you, because of my past I have severe trust issues. That is why I don't really have friends. I am afraid if I get too close that they will somehow hurt me, and that is why I keep people at arm's length. That is also why Dave is a special case cause I didn't treat him like the rest, which is keeping him at arm's length. I literally called him my friend, and I let my guard down with him in a way, cause he is the only one I would say is the closest to me out of all the people I know. He has alot of issues too cause of his parents. They were alcoholics and verbally, emotionally, and physically abused him all through his youth and then his dad died, like 4 years ago. He still struggles though, I can see it. I can see he is very insecure, jealousy, territorial type of person, and even though his personality is larger than life, I know I have to keep my distance cause he is so emotionally and mentally damaged that it's just best to keep my distance. He is kind of a lost cause in a way, I am not trying to be mean when I say that, it's just I realize my flaws, and I realize what I need to work on myself to make myself a healthier person, and that is why I have a Psychologist now. But I don't think he will ever change and realize what he needs to work on mentally, and he is not trying to better himself, like I am. I am really not trying to sound snobby about it. I'm sorry if I am. I love him alot, I understand his issues, but I am on a different path, and I can't deal with someone that is that far gone. Thank you so much dory for your kind words, and your encouragement. Sorry for the long reply, lol.

[revelations]

Kelly M and Keke1,

 

Thank you both for your kind words. However I would be being less than honest if I did not tell you that I actually tick off more people on here than anything else, especially women. Feel free to check some of my posts and you will see. The reason this happens is because most people will conflate me not liking current laws in my area with hating women. The truth is that I just call it like I see it. Kelly is in a risky situation because the guy she likes has a high probability of taking advantage of her. So of course I will advise to stay away from him based on the information given to me. However a lot of other posts I read, it is actually the woman that is taking advantage of the man and using the laws to do this. So when you come right down to it, I just don't want to see anyone hurt and I don't care if you have twig and giggle berries in your pants or a tuna taco.

 

Everyone likes to say equal rights, however equal rights does not mean that we have equal abilities. Men and women are different aside from just the plumbing. Now this does not mean that women or less than or that men or less than. Is what it means is that men have strengths in areas that women generally do not. Likewise women have strengths in areas that men generally do not. We are built that way for a reason, that is to complement each other. Think about it ladies, you want your men to be big and strong and be able to protect you from danger right? However most men do not want to be the first in line for danger, we would rather be fishing. Now I can write out a few lists on were women are better with things than men and likewise were men are better than women. The thing is that if you know yourself, both good and bad, then your better able to protect yourself or be a mate to someone else.

 

A lot of people will talk on here about men abusing women. However is what they seem to leave out is when women abuse men. Now normally women do not abuse men by hitting them or something like that. Women will abuse men emotionally. I read about this and see it a lot in my life, so of course I call it out. Reading the OP here is a totally different situation, Kelly M is actually trying to be a good person. So of course I like seeing that and I'll encourage it. Kelly M can possibly be a women that most men dream of being married to. The reason why I say that is because she looks for ways not to hurt others.

 

Okay I may be writing another short book here again. However that is just me. If you have not guessed it by now, I actually do read a lot. Most of my background has been in electronics and physics and thanks to a drunken mistake and 23yrs of child support I drive a truck now. However one of my hobbies is to study psychology on the side. Truthfully psychology is one of those areas of study that I can see women better suited for. Mainly because women see 50 shades of grey a lot better than men do. However if you take someone like me that has a lot of information in their head, is not afraid to speak his mind and can actually type fast. The end result is what you have here, a damn book written. However whatever I do write down here is sincere and I try to give an honest suggestion based on the information I have. So again I would like to thank both of you for your kind words. However I will tell you that most would say that I am a misogynistic pig.

[Kelly M]

Kelly M and Keke1,

 

Thank you both for your kind words. However I would be being less than honest if I did not tell you that I actually tick off more people on here than anything else, especially women. Feel free to check some of my posts and you will see. The reason this happens is because most people will conflate me not liking current laws in my area with hating women. The truth is that I just call it like I see it. Kelly is in a risky situation because the guy she likes has a high probability of taking advantage of her. So of course I will advise to stay away from him based on the information given to me. However a lot of other posts I read, it is actually the woman that is taking advantage of the man and using the laws to do this. So when you come right down to it, I just don't want to see anyone hurt and I don't care if you have twig and giggle berries in your pants or a tuna taco.

 

Everyone likes to say equal rights, however equal rights does not mean that we have equal abilities. Men and women are different aside from just the plumbing. Now this does not mean that women or less than or that men or less than. Is what it means is that men have strengths in areas that women generally do not. Likewise women have strengths in areas that men generally do not. We are built that way for a reason, that is to complement each other. Think about it ladies, you want your men to be big and strong and be able to protect you from danger right? However most men do not want to be the first in line for danger, we would rather be fishing. Now I can write out a few lists on were women are better with things than men and likewise were men are better than women. The thing is that if you know yourself, both good and bad, then your better able to protect yourself or be a mate to someone else.

 

A lot of people will talk on here about men abusing women. However is what they seem to leave out is when women abuse men. Now normally women do not abuse men by hitting them or something like that. Women will abuse men emotionally. I read about this and see it a lot in my life, so of course I call it out. Reading the OP here is a totally different situation, Kelly M is actually trying to be a good person. So of course I like seeing that and I'll encourage it. Kelly M can possibly be a women that most men dream of being married to. The reason why I say that is because she looks for ways not to hurt others.

 

Okay I may be writing another short book here again. However that is just me. If you have not guessed it by now, I actually do read a lot. Most of my background has been in electronics and physics and thanks to a drunken mistake and 23yrs of child support I drive a truck now. However one of my hobbies is to study psychology on the side. Truthfully psychology is one of those areas of study that I can see women better suited for. Mainly because women see 50 shades of grey a lot better than men do. However if you take someone like me that has a lot of information in their head, is not afraid to speak his mind and can actually type fast. The end result is what you have here, a damn book written. However whatever I do write down here is sincere and I try to give an honest suggestion based on the information I have. So again I would like to thank both of you for your kind words. However I will tell you that most would say that I am a misogynistic pig.

 

LOL! Well you are real! And if people can't handle your straight forward/real attitude, then they suck, haha. I think you should get into Psychology! You have alot of wisdom, and you are very understanding I appreciate your response so much, and I think you should write a book, just because of your knowledge on dating/relationships/jealousy etc. Thank you so much!