You girls should never have problem finding a BF

[Els]

I am leaner than a lot of dudes, even when i'm 13% bodyfat.

 

What?? Even professional female athletes go from 14-20%, from what I've read... anything lower than that starts chipping into your essential body fat. I suppose the remaining 1% isn't a huge deal since most BF measurements aren't all that accurate anyway, but still. Why are you keeping yourself so low by choice?

 

http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/body-fat-measurement?page=2

Edited June 10, 2014 by Elswyth

[MidwestUSA]

Nice.

 

In that case I really hope that the women who are training to get this body are doing it for themselves, not just to appear attractive. I've never found it attractive myself, but I thought it was just me.

 

WHERE did you find that picture of me and my partner? I've GOT to get that thing out of circulation!

[hotpotato]

Agree. And don't most women want their man to feel strong and needed and be "the man" in the relationship? Personally, I don't care if my partner is not as athletic as me, but I always figured that women who are fitness enthusiasts would want partners who are at least as athletic/fit, such as your semipro QB ex.

 

We were only dating casually, but yes, that was much better fit for me. My bfs were skinny guys.

 

I am a good example of why someone shouldnt settle just to have someone.

 

I promise that if you settle, someone will get tired of the situation and leave.

Edited June 10, 2014 by hotpotato

[hotpotato]

What?? Even professional female athletes go from 14-20%, from what I've read... anything lower than that starts chipping into your essential body fat. I suppose the remaining 1% isn't a huge deal since most BF measurements aren't all that accurate anyway, but still. Why are you keeping yourself so low by choice?

 

Body Fat Measurement: Percentage Vs. Body Mass

 

Fitness models are often around 12%. Its not as bad as it sounds. I prefer the look.

I think Justine Moore is about 11% bf.

[thefooloftheyear]

Fitness models are often around 12%. Its not as bad as it sounds. I prefer the look.

I think Justine Moore is about 11% bf.

 

Just looked....She looks like 14/15%

 

And ugh...horrible boob job...

 

TFY

[MidwestUSA]

Just looked....She looks like 14/15%

 

And ugh...horrible boob job...

 

TFY

 

Yow, horrible over-the-muscle saline. Why? When there are much better options?

[thefooloftheyear]

Yow, horrible over-the-muscle saline. Why? When there are much better options?

 

 

Looked again...

 

Actually ramping up my previous estimate...

 

No ab definition...some fat stores in the ass and thighs....Vascularity non existent...

 

Eh...16-18%.....

 

TFY

[hotpotato]

Just looked....She looks like 14/15%

 

And h...horrible boob job...

 

TFY

 

Well, thats what she said on fb, I think. At my lowest bf% I had definition in my abs.

 

lol Im with my grandma looking at pics of half naked women. This could get awkward!

 

I saw some pics of her with some nice definition.

Edited June 10, 2014 by hotpotato

[Badsingularity]

 

The guys who called me intimidating were not sissies, they were average guys. I would actually do better with a "sissy."

 

I've gotten around this in the past by dating men who were 200-300 lbs. One guy who was never intimidated was a 6ft5 former semipro qb and coach. The other was 6ft6 and nearly 300 lbs. I never had to deal with them calling me intimidating.

 

 

 

 

I don't think you would be happy with a wimpy guy. Do you think you would have a satisfying sex life with a guy you considered wimpy.

 

Also, there are masculine men out there who would never call or consider you or anyone else intimidating. They also don't have to be 6'5" to be that way.

[Revolver]

When a man says that you should settle, he is just saying that you should give him a chance, try him out for a couple of dates. You don't have to marry him.

 

Too many women demand instant chemistry and sparks but that stuff just isn't reasonable.

 

And no, very few men actually want a princess. We just want a sweet cute girl.

 

I've actually some seen dating coaches/advice columns for females now say just because there isn't some I wanna rip his clothes off and have sex with him right now chemistry/spark on the first date or first few interactions doesn't mean he can't be a keeper

[Imajerk17]

I've actually some seen dating coaches/advice columns for females now say just because there isn't some I wanna rip his clothes off and have sex with him right now chemistry/spark on the first date or first few interactions doesn't mean he can't be a keeper

 

Well-said. As I mentioned before, I think both genders mess themselves up.

 

Guys don't take enough initiative. And beyond that, many guys have a bad people-picker too, going for the hot messes. Fellas, there are plenty of nice, cute girls who would accept a date with you, but you have to go up and talk to them.

 

I also don't think women don't take enough responsibility either. From not taking enough responsibility in making themselves approachable to the right men, to bad people-pickers (going solely by Chemistry), and so on. Ladies, there are probably plenty of good guys who would like to connect with you, but plenty of you seem to have your walls up and the only guys who seem to be able to get through your walls are the players and douches. If you are struggling, rethink your selection strategies.

 

My turn on the soapbox.

[Els]

I've actually some seen dating coaches/advice columns for females now say just because there isn't some I wanna rip his clothes off and have sex with him right now chemistry/spark on the first date or first few interactions doesn't mean he can't be a keeper

 

Isn't this kind of common sense?

 

Chemistry/connection is important, but the important type of connection isn't the kind that you get in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone IMO...

[aussietigerwolf]

Just because a guy messages a girl on POF does not mean he is interested in being her boyfriend. I like your experiment, but don't discount the extraordinary effort that some men will put in in order to get laid.

 

I was once on there too (and quite a few others) and yeah, I did get a LOT of messages but were they interested in being potentially my bf or even going on a date??? Hell no, they were just after a free prostitute... and had no qualms about demanding (yes, actually demanding) sex.

[hotpotato]

I don't think you would be happy with a wimpy guy. Do you think you would have a satisfying sex life with a guy you considered wimpy.

 

Also, there are masculine men out there who would never call or consider you or anyone else intimidating. They also don't have to be 6'5" to be that way.

Nope,, I don't think I would be happy.

You're right, they don't have to be so large, but there has to be some kind of contrast.

 

 

I've actually some seen dating coaches/advice columns for females now say just because there isn't some I wanna rip his clothes off and have sex with him right now chemistry/spark on the first date or first few interactions doesn't mean he can't be a keeper

 

I've read that from gurus as well.

 

I used to be guilty of hooking up with the hot mess type girl. I still have a strong instinct to take care of women, so I can be drawn to the ones with a messed up life.

 

 

I think a lot of people know this, and those people are in happy relationships.

And that's what a woman can take away from a man if she becomes too strong willed and capable. I've been left for hot mess girls. They seem to be very appealing. They need someone to come and save them, which is very attractive to some men.

 

 

I was once on there too (and quite a few others) and yeah, I did get a LOT of messages but were they interested in being potentially my bf or even going on a date??? Hell no, they were just after a free prostitute... and had no qualms about demanding (yes, actually demanding) sex.

Ditto here. POF might be slightly better for finding a bf than CL

 

 

Have we established that plenty of women have problems finding bfs?

Edited August 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[the tank]

I stop my OLD experience. For guy who are serious, it take lot of time to read the profil and writing a message. I would prefer receive one hundred messages than write those one.

[mattny]

I personally haven't experienced that.

 

 

I lift about 4 times a week. I have a little more fat on me though, maybe about 19%, because I have no desire for cardio and like my food haha. So I'm definitely muscular but not hard. I have a little bit of soft padding over my muscles. 5'8 140 lbs.

 

 

I've never dated a man who goes to the gym. Most of my exes were shorter and skinnier than me. My current boyfriend is just slightly bigger than me.

 

 

For the most part there were never any problems with my previous setups, but sometimes I would be told I should stop working out so much, my exes feared I would get buff and look manly

 

Being nice, cute, and having things in common with a man can easily turn a woman into one of the boys. I have a lot of traditionally male interests, it is not always a plus as far as dating.

 

 

Id tell you right now id date both of you. I love me a woman who lifts My ex is strong willed and assertive and I love the fact we challenged each other both in and out of the gym.

 

I would consider myself average, but Im fit, smile, and generally have a good sense of humor. I have had no issues asking girls out, some have said no, some have said ok. I dont really sweat it. Women seem to be attracted more to my confidence and me just being myself. Its what attracted my ex to me. I was a bit cocky and assertive in what I wanted, and she loved that. She was a looker in my eyes, cooked a mean dish, knew how to dress and always surprised me with little notes and presents (likewise I did the same for her).

 

After being in relationships for the last 7 years and a few short flings before, I decided to take a break and focus on me, make myself better for the next time I meet someone. I like being single, and I dont NEED someone. I dont NEED to date. Hanging out with friends (male and female) coming home at 4am after cleaning off 6 bottles of wine at a friends place or out in the city, I like it. My career pays me plenty, lots of OT to store away, and I can always move around in the company.

 

But Im not like everyone else I guess lol

[No Limit]

I thought this was a serious discussion until I read "online dating".

 

Finding a good boyfriend is a challenge. Finding flings on the other hand, easier than getting out of bed. And probably 95% of the messages you received on your fake profile were just that.

[guest572]

When I see some comments here from men who will only accept a woman who is in between a certain weight and height (a very small margin too) I can understand why a lot of men are ruled out in our search!

 

One thing I have been thinking a lot about after being dumped again, is that we do "settle" in that we overlook certain things that after a breakup, we can't believe we put up with. Love really blinds you from things that could or should be deal breakers.

[Yur]

I thought this was a serious discussion until I read "online dating".

 

Finding a good boyfriend is a challenge. Finding flings on the other hand, easier than getting out of bed. And probably 95% of the messages you received on your fake profile were just that.

 

And the other 5% are probably decent messages, from decent guys looking for a fulfilling relationship. Men on OLD would love that 5%.

[somedude81]

When I see some comments here from men who will only accept a woman who is in between a certain weight and height (a very small margin too) I can understand why a lot of men are ruled out in our search!

 

One thing I have been thinking a lot about after being dumped again, is that we do "settle" in that we overlook certain things that after a breakup, we can't believe we put up with. Love really blinds you from things that could or should be deal breakers.

 

My margin is from 5'0 to 5'9.

 

And not heavier than I am.

 

That's basically 90% of women in my preferred age range.

[Glinda.Good]

Do you guys think that just because a guy is not abusive, filthy and / or obese, a girl should be happy to have him for her boyfriend?

 

You know … she has to LIKE him, too. A lot.

[somedude81]

Do you guys think that just because a guy is not abusive, filthy and / or obese, a girl should be happy to have him for her boyfriend?

Those things should be the base requirement for a BF.

 

 

And it's really frustrating when guys who are abusive, manipulating and rude do have girlfriends.

[MidwestUSA]

Those things should be the base requirement for a BF.

 

 

And it's really frustrating when guys who are abusive, manipulating and rude do have girlfriends.

 

But you wouldn't want the damaged or doormat type of girl that gravitates toward those guys, no matter how hot or boob endowed. So be glad they're being taken out of your potential pool by these dudes.

 

Ignore those couples, and emulate what you see going on in happy, healthy relationships.

[Under The Radar]

My only rule is no fake boobs ...... I'm sorry ladies - LOL.

[hasaquestion]

The problem with most self-proclaimed "nice guys" is 99% of the time they aren't even nice.

 

How many hours a week do you spend volunteering? What do you give to your community? How do you go out of your way to enrich the lives of others? Most "nice guys" are the same as the so-called "jerks" they love to complain about, just minus the options.