Hello All

[AngrySpider]

I decided to drop in here for a few reasons.It's been almost a year since I last logged into LS and I was curious to see if some of the same folks were in here that I remember from the time that I was making more frequent appearances as an individual who was involved in a long-distance relationship.I have so far come across some familiar names in here.

 

For me,my long-distance relationship ended over a year ago.I had started speaking to a chick in the UK on a regular basis after she and I met on a Facebook group.One thing led to another and feelings developed.For many months I had hoped and prayed that a day would come where she and I could be together in person.However,that day never came and I came to learn that she wasn't entirely honest with me,be it about herself,her intentions within our relationship,or what she was really doing.I found myself lonely,hurt,and trying to numb it all with alcohol.However,it wasn't long after when I ended up becoming reacquainted with someone else who only lived two streets over from me.I thought that I would never trust another woman again after having been burned badly by women both locally and halfway around the world.Once I started developing feelings for the girl that I had gotten reacquainted with,there was a sense that I felt which was quite foreign to me.It was one of peace and security.I did not have to worry about whether she would leave me for someone else or cheat on me.I didn't have to question whether she was "for real." She and I just recently had our one-year anniversary.

 

My LDR experience-as painful and emotional experience that it was-did not change my view of them.I did not revert back to my old way of thinking that LDR's never worked.For certain,it was a learning experience.People who live a considerable distance away from one another can love each other and their relationships can be successful if both parties share an equal willingness to make it work.One of the reasons why I am posting this is to offer support and encouragement to all of you who are loving someone from a distance.As rewarding as such a relationship can be,I also know just how much patience is required and how much emotion that one can go through to make such a relationship work.Love ignores many things and mileage is no exception to this.And,unfortunately,while the end result for some is heartbreak,there are others who get to the point where they can look back upon the time when they lived far apart from one another and can say almost triumphantly,"we made it." I'm happy for all those who have been able to succeed in their one-time LDR's or who are on the verge of closing the distance between one another.

 

I would also like to extend support and encouragement to those on here who have either had an LDR end or are in a situation where it seems likely that the LDR is heading in that direction.I know that it's a very rough space to be in.I wouldn't recommend handling it the way I did but just know that you are not alone,even though it may feel at times that you are.It's difficult to put one foot in front of the other and keep going but,in doing so,it might just lead you to that special someone that you are perhaps meant to be with.

[Snakechammah]

Thank you for this post. We appreciate it!

[umirano]

My LDR ended recently. I survived...