xxhotmamaxx Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 My B/F and I broke up for 4 months and he was kinda seeing one of his coworkers and well she screwed him over and well we got back together and he wasn't talking to her because of that. Last night I was playing on his cell phone when he left it at my place and well I was curious to see what numbers were on there and there was one number that was from another coworker and so I looked in his text messages and well he text her, and wanted to talk. I don't know what I should do, should I confront him and ask him why he has that number from that other girl and why he's texting the girl that he was kinda seeing or just not see him anymore??? Or should I still be with him, but I don't think that I would be able to trust him again, I really don't know what to do HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JLove Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 I am a 20 yr old female... i know my name is pickle (i thought is was a log in name not an actual user name) Anway, i was with my boyfriend for a few years and then we broke up for 2 years (we both had long term relationships) and then eventually got back together. I am not a jealous person and am not one to snoop but I splurged one day and looked through his call log in his cell phone. Sure enough he was talking to his ex 3 times a day. Being the honest person that i am, i was so hurt. I ending up confronting him, because i couldnt hold it in any longer but he denied that there was anything out of the ordinary going on. He never really fessed up to the strangness of 3 phone callls a day but it was always in the back of my head. I constantly wondered if he was talking to her, why they talked so much, if they were seeing each other, etc. Basically what I am getting at is that it is not normal that he is calling females behind your back and texting them that he wants to talk (no matter what he tells you). If he was open about it and told you that she was a friend then it would be ok. But, because he was keeping it from you means that there is PROBABLY a good reason why he is hiding it from you. By the sounds of it, it doesnt seem like you will be able to trust him anymore. It is hard enough to get back into an old relationship after seeing other people and dealing with that factor alone, never mind dealing with him being sneaky. If i were you i would confront him, and then really think about if you willl be able to trust him and his word again.... good luck Link to post Share on other sites
ostateclarett13 Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 I would have to say if you two are honest with each other that you should just ask him. Its hard not to jump to conclusions but I see what you mean about why is this number in here, but there could be some underlying things about why its in there. Just be very carefull about how you ask him about it so he doesn't think you are accussing him. I would sit him down and even tell him, that this is just bothering you, that you feel bad that you automatically jump to conclusions about why, and that you just want to know because you care about him so much. I hope the best for you, but remember that guys are dumber than we look, we do stupid things that mean nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Feeling Lonely Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 all good advice, but make sure it doesn't turn round to you because he's going to see it as 'shes the one being sneaky by going down my phone'. I've had that before because my boyfriend worked with some good looking girls and i found one where he kept calling him baby, which is what i call him. Be careful p.s. i need of advice myself. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56861/ Link to post Share on other sites
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