How to make new friends / Potentially start dating?

[DanielStone]

So, long story short.

 

I've been suffering with mental problems for a fair few years (Nothing been diagnosed, currently going through Health clinics as I write this) And was bullied for a very long time, barely had any friends going through high school.

 

A little less than a month ago I cut my neck open in an attempt to commit suicide and all my "friends" started to cancel plans with me and stop talking to me. It has now been 13 days with no contact from any of them. The only people I talk to are colleagues at work who I wouldn't even consider friends as they're all 10+ years older than I am and are always doing things without me.

 

I'm lonely. I'm really really lonely with barely anyone to talk too and with 0 self confidence.

 

I want to go out and meet new people and ask a girl for her number or whatever but I just don't know how... I have bad social anxiety issues and my psychologist wants to go through some schizophrenia sessions with me to determine if I have it. I don't know what to do anymore. People of Loveshack... Any help?

[R3d]

 

Really, it's what you're looking for.

[todreaminblue]

Hey, i am glad you are typing here today, i feel for you,and the loss of your friends...

 

 

I would question the loyalty of said friends, what i do know is that when people have mental illness a lot of people or friends will back away because they just don't know how to deal with mental illness there's a stigma, an uncertainty with being friends with someone who has tried to commit suicide....

 

 

I find that true friends are only happy you didn't succeed and a bit of underlying anger that you would want to desert them as a friend.....

 

 

I cant say if you are ready to face disappointment and not regress Take it easy friend because it is easy to regress with disappointment.....and rejection...had something similar happen last year or the year before to me

 

i wasn't ready to be out there and i pushed myself past my limits thinking hey i am alright now i can do this ended up back in hospital my family were wary of me moving to fast and they were right...i wasn't ready but i am convincing and they faithfully believed in me and supported me .....and i fell....just from one rejection and ridicule.....please be ready first for rejection heartache and successes too.....sometimes they can be as scary as failure....i am actually at success stage now......and it is still scary.....

 

 

 

 

i don't want to be with wrong people only right for me and i am attracting others, so i have retreated a a little and concentrating on who and what is right for me for a change.....i am right for everyone because i can be a friend for anyone i am forgiving and i am a good friend to those who get to know me....not everyone is right for me and can be a friend for me or a partner...that is a part of who i am as a multiple personality i relate to all types of people.....i dont have filters i can turn off and on in any given meeting they come or they dont come ill vague out and some other part tunes in.....these are the filters i mean...i was diagnosed as schizo affective ....i am not schizo affective when i am paranoid i need to trust it.....

 

 

do some group therapy, meet others whop have similar life experiences, similar goals, similar values about life and love........and think about a church ...follow your heart to find the one that is your church .....because people who have faith....have faith in others mostly..... i have found this to be true...because i found the right church for me...followed my heart so i found people who i know ....can be my friends and i can have a huge extended family.......smiling...best of luck....consider group therapy it is really helpful....deb

[StalwartMind]

Most people are terrified of things that are different and talking about mental issues is something that makes even more people feel uncomfortable. While I'm in no way am qualified to advice someone in your situation, I do wonder a couple of things.

 

You said it's almost less than a month since you tried to commit suicide. How are you feeling these days, besides "really lonely". Do you feel you are ready for trying new friendships already? I'm not trying to tell you that you shouldn't be attempting to make new friends/attempt to date, however always having the best interest in other humans well being, I'm wondering if you've asked yourself if you truly are ready for this or perhaps taking on a bit too much too fast.

 

I've no clue what the recovery time is of people whom have attempted to commit suicide, although I'm sure it'll vary by a lot. For whatever it's worth I think it's great that you at the very least have the desire to create new friendships/wanting to date. I hope that your psychologist can give you some good advice that will help you to continue along a good path.

 

I've said it before but you are literally able to start friendships anywhere, the only real limit is yourself. If you can communicate your message through any means, even on a forum like this, you have the potential to reach someone.

 

All depending on what you seek and expect of others, you should start things out with simple expectations and build on from there. Your interests/hobbies will determine to a degree what you can do and where you can look for inspiration and pursuit of something satisfactory.