TroubleMe Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) I guess this is the end for me and my current boyfriend. Omg, I so love him dearly... But going out w/ him is always a pain. I try to be understanding... As I date a very negative and grumpy person. I mean, all the time he has something bad to speak about someone, anyone... Nobody is good enough. Then, to add a plus, we can't enjoy drinks together as he drinks too much. He left rehab before and I try my best o keep him in shape, to drink little or nothing, but nobody can stop him at all. Nothing can make him stop. I did a bad thing, as he left me tonight, which was supposed to be our night together as he was promising me for two months now... Left me alone in the car for 40 minutes, saying he was just going to buy cigarettes. Went there and he was drinking with an unknown man. Got pissed and kicked his car panel and broke something. He left me there and I got a cab, still when I arrived home accused me of sleeping with the taxi driver! I heard a lot... That I was a piece of **** and I said it too. Nobody abuses me verbally anymore without hearing it back. I can't sleep. I moved here from so far away just to be with him. Now I'm truly lost. I always have heard that love is built and kept over respect. Right now I have zero respect for him. Afraid of seeing the love fading. Thanks for reading, too much pain and nobody to talk to, needed a vent. Edited June 7, 2014 by TroubleMe Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 This is as toxic as they come. 1. HE has severe issues. Low self-esteem and a very critical, negative view of himself, you and others. He uses alcohol to self medicate. He needs to want to work on this or he will never improve. Sounds like he doesn't really care. 2. YOU have even more alarming issues as to why you would even spend 2 minutes with this person. You both need help and to be away from each other indefinitely!! Link to post Share on other sites
Schooner Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 While he is drinking, the relationship (and your general situation) will only get worse. Walk away now. If he loves you more than he loves the alcohol, and if it isn't already too late, maybe he will seek help, and when he has been completely sober for a few months maybe you could consider a relationship with him again. Doubt it will happen though - he doesn't sound ready to stop drinking yet (if ever). Save yourself a heap of grief from whatever worse things are going to come, be brave and walk away. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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