Questions...

[YongukShinsa]

I have some questions of a general nature and wonder if anyone on here knows of any psychological reasons for these actions:-

 

1 People who are in a committed relationship calling their ex bf / gf s when they are drunk and sometimes when they are sober. Is this because they feel sorry for their exes or do they still have feelings for their ex or are they unhappy with their new boyfriend??

 

2. Boyfriends calling their girlfriend's ex-boyfriends after the above has happened and trying to find out why their gf always wants to call their ex-boyfriend(to me this takes a lot of guts... I could never do it)

 

Anyway, these things have been happening to me and now it is driving me crazy. However, understanding why may help me to forget about it.

[YongukShinsa]

Just to fill you in on the situation...

 

Last night I got a call from my ex. I answered and she just hung up, I left it 5 minutes and then sent a message "Are you ok? Remember I am always there if you need me" 3 or 4 minutes later she calls me again and I answer. Once again she listens to my voice and then hangs up.

 

10 minutes later she calls again, this time however, it was her boyfriend. I guess he had seen my message and was concerned, but if I had been him I would have asked her about it and not call the guy who sent it. But then he spent the next 30 minutes telling me how she always talks about me and how nice and good to her I was. He was trying to find out what our relationship was. I did not tell him, I just told him he needs to ask her about that.

 

Now I wonder, if I have inadvertently caused her trouble and if so do you guys think she will hate me for it??

 

Damn I feel so bad right now because I di not know if I have done to right thing. I never want to her to hate me, I just want her back. I am doing NC in the belief that one day she will realise that I am the one for her.