Ladiixmk Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) I met this girl my first semester of freshman year - she lived on the same floor as me. She has done a wholeee lot of messed up things to me and is very "two-faced", so I started to distance myself away from her. But it seems as though a lot of people "love" her. I just don't understand. She also has a veryy big temper (she snaps really easily), and she talks a whole lot of smack behind her close's friends back. Here's some of the things she has done to me (you don't have to read all of it): 1. Last Spring Semester, I had lost a lot of weight due to a lot of stressful things going on in my life (I weight 105, I'm 5'4"). She knew about most of the stressful stuff. I was trying to gain weight, she was trying to lose weight. I would always tell her that she looks fine, and even joke around asking if we can switch weights. But she would always call me anorexic, a twig, saying that I should watch out before I disappear, always making a comment on how loose my clothes are getting, etc. She would even compare me to other REALLY skinny girls on campus, though I knew I didn't look anything like them. I knew I was skinny, but it was annoying because she would bring it up in almost everyyy conversation. 2. I was always her shadow and she would always ditch me. One time she invited me to this party along with her friends from home. She wouldn't include me in any pictures - she had me take the pictures (the ONLY picture up of me on Instagram is when I had just woke up and looked a hot mess, I didn't even know it was up there until I made one...). I was the first to get on the bus and she and her friends didn't even sit next to me, so I sat by myself. There was even a point during the party where it was me and her alone and she goes "I'll be right back" and then walks away, leaving me by myself. I ended up meeting these two girls, staying with them, and going home with them (I tried to leave with the girl, telling her that the last bus is coming and we should go home soon, and she replies "who's "we"?" I told her us and your friends and she says "well you can leave, but I'm staying here" :mad: I just walked away) 3. So we both live in the same town, and last summer I would always see pictures of her and other mutual friends hanging out, but she would never invite me anywhere. Even one time one of our friends came down to visit her, I was working that day and they went to the mall to visit one of my other friends at her job but not me... 4. Also last year, we were both going through guy-issues. The guy was obviously no good for her, so I kept telling her to leave him and she deserved better. It took me some time but the guy I was seeing was a player, and she would always tell me to go back to him - one time she even told me that he was her "friend". Thankfully, she was the one who caught him out with another girl and even sent me pictures, but afterwards she would always ask me how he and I are doing. 5. Now to recent things - she had crossed for a sorority last fall semester. I reallyyy didn't want to go to her probate (where you see the person cross), but I did anyways, even helped set up her side of the room. When she was done doing her thing, everyone was giving her a hug. She gave all of my friends a hug (we were standing in a line), but skipped over me. I called her name out multiple times, she was still ignoring me (I was 2 feet away from her, no exaggeration). I even called her twin sister's name, whom was farther away from her, and she heard me and gave me a hug. I even TAPPED her on the shoulder. She turned the opposite way and started talking to someone. I cursed her out under my breath and left - I was soooo pissed. This was when I decided I was DONE with her. 6. So this year, spring semester. My birthday was coming up, and a week beforehand, she had asked my roommate and I to grab dinner randomly. My roommate wanted to go, and I just went to keep things cordial. We were all talking, and I mentioned that my birthday was coming up. She said she remembered because it was the day after her mom's birthday. Well, on the day of, she never said happy birthday. I posted up a picture on instagram, and literally one hour later, she posted up a picture of her and her mom, giving her a happy bday shout out, and then an extra shout out to her line sister because her birthday was that same day. She never liked my picture. Then 3 days later, it was a mutual friend of our's birthday, and I wake up and see a picture on instagram of her giving the girl a happy bday shout out. The girl couldn't even respond - she was plegding. I wasn't upset, I just thought that it was really petty... 7. Last one - to be honest, I think she is a little bit racist. I'm black (Caribbean), and she is half Filipino half Hispanic (I believe, she claims so but a close friend says she's lying lol) (yes, she's a very pretty girl). I've realized that she always distances herself from her black friends unless they're in her sorority or her sorority's brother fraternity (or whatever you call it). In our freshman year, there was a probate for a black fraternity. Everyone on our floor, including her, was excited to go. She said she was going to be with one of her friends. Once we got there, we saved a seat for both of them, but as soon as she got there and looked at the crowd, she was like "I don't think I'm going to stay, I have to study for an exam tomorrow" and then she left. Another time we were at the dining hall, and a group of black males were there. They ended up leaving around the same time that we left. She seemed to get nervous and started walking faster, even went another direction... So yeah, that's just SOME of the things she has done (I realized this was getting long). But so many people like her. I figure maybe I'm being over sensitive? I don't know. What is your advice? Edited June 7, 2014 by angelsface200 Link to post Share on other sites
Rar0 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Um she isn't your friend. You need to ditch that b!tch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladiixmk Posted June 7, 2014 Author Share Posted June 7, 2014 Um she isn't your friend. You need to ditch that b!tch. Oh yeah, I already have. It's just weird because one day she would send me a picture of both of us and say "miss you!" or text me to see how I'm doing, but then when I actually hang out with her she's like this... And I know I have to deal with her next year because my roommate, a friend of mine, and I are living in an apartment together and they're both friends with her (though one of them is starting to have a problem with her, I think)... so there's no escaping this mess. *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
Rar0 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Oh yeah, I already have. It's just weird because one day she would send me a picture of both of us and say "miss you!" or text me to see how I'm doing, but then when I actually hang out with her she's like this... And I know I have to deal with her next year because my roommate, a friend of mine, and I are living in an apartment together and they're both friends with her (though one of them is starting to have a problem with her, I think)... so there's no escaping this mess. *sigh* When she tries to contact you ignore her , Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 She doesn't like you but when she is bored and the friends she actually likes are busy she talks to you. She doesn't hate you and can tolerate talking to you bbut she doesn't like you enough to really invest time talking to you much in person. I only spend time with people who really like me. It looks like you have learnt to be the same. She doesn't sound like a very nice person either. I would never just ditch another girl at a party. Nor would I say "brb" and then leave you alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Rar0 Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 The feeling should be mutual she doesn't like you so you shouldn't like her. Nexxxxxxxxxxxxxt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladiixmk Posted July 2, 2014 Author Share Posted July 2, 2014 Sorry for the late reply, but thank you guys, I figured. I don't know WHY she wouldn't like me... I have done N.O.T.H.I.N.G. to her. I don't brag, I don't gossip. I was always there for her, shoo even one night when she was completely drunk I helped her get water and get her to her room ASAP. Same with her twin sister - her sister got really sick one night from drinking too much, I decided to stay in that night. So they had me watch over her just in case something happened to her while they went back out to the party, which I did. And recently she's been retweeting most of my tweets. I haven't heard from her since about a month after the whole birthday thing, which was about 3 months ago. Her birthday is coming up too, in about 4 days, I don't know if I should even wish her a happy birthday or just stay silent (which I know would cause drama, because she has a temper like that, but hey she never said happy birthday to me either....). Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 (edited) ,you are her underling, she sees you like i get seen sometimes, but i learned to say no which is when they try very hard to get you back in thier lives see, they lose a lot when you do not play thier game they might have flaws of thier own and you might be great (prettier, kinder, richer, cleverer whatever) meaning they are underlings really...and note too that they can be perfectly capable of grovelling to thier boss, while giving you attitude sometime, you might even meet other people who seek out underlings just so they can feel good/better than you, just say no to them too and run the ignoring your birthday while you have to faff about hers is all part of the/her game, her temper likewise, you sound sensible anyway... Edited July 3, 2014 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 3, 2014 Share Posted July 3, 2014 (edited) you are her underling, she sees you like i get seen sometimes, but i learned to say no which is when they try very hard to get you back in thier lives see, they lose a lot when you do not play thier game they might have flaws of thier own and you might be great (prettier, kinder, richer cleverer whatever) meaning they are underlings really who like to feel superior...and note too that they can be perfectly capable of grovelling to thier boss, while giving you attitude, so let her go sometime, you might even meet others who seek out underlings, just say no to them too and run Edited July 3, 2014 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladiixmk Posted July 6, 2014 Author Share Posted July 6, 2014 Yea I figure... she would always compare herself to Kim Kardashian, or talk about how fabulous she is. I remember one time she wanted to come over to my room just to solely talk about her life, when I had class in an hour. But yeah, her birthday is today, and I'm just going to keep my mouth shut, and whatever drama happens as a result happens. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) I guess your main concern is that your two room mates will invite this girl over to your place. That would suck, but it's a while away still. Maybe this girl will move onto a different circle of people by then. She might have to if she's starting to have problems with your friends already. And I agree with the others, this chick isn't your friend. Don't wish her a happy birthday, just don't contact her. Edited July 6, 2014 by SpiralOut Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted July 6, 2014 Share Posted July 6, 2014 I used to excuse major gaffs with people who i thought were my friends.....i put myself aside from my heart and how hurt i got ...i would just ignore it...and go yeah to sensitive......its my fault i should toughen up.....i shouldnt have...my heart was right there were major problems there....i ended up getting mickeyed as a "joke" by so called friends i was considered boring because i didn't drink and get wasted.....they much preferred to see me out of it....so they did it..and i thought wow they really like me i have friends at last..and i nearly got ran over by a tram ......i was also cautioned because i was in full naval uniform at the time......wasted.......not good......luckily the chief petty officer knew me and what i was like and realized i wasnt drunk...i refused to tell him who did it..... i isolated myself after that until i was eventually given an honorable discharge ........when you have friends like that ......its better you go fight a war against enemies.....at least you see them coming ....i am glad to hear you are dropping contact......you dont need friends like that who dont respect you enough to answer you when you call out to them or show no concern for you or your heart...trust your intuition .....always...i think intuition comes from the heart.....not the gut..honesty comes from the gut......so be honest wiht yourself and recognize your intuition next time ...you will waste less time.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Theory816 Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 She sounds like a total b from the way you describe it. Also you sound like a total pushover also. Have some respect for yourself. Once you do, you start to see the bull**** people do and you you realize you don't deserve it and you avoid them. Thing is though you cannot always escape what you don't want. Even the bestest of friends will pick and have fights with each other from time to time. Link to post Share on other sites
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