Called my mother the C word and she freaking punched me

[drummerdude98]

Let me also add that as parents, we can lay the groundwork and TRY to make our children respectful human beings, but if they can't even SEE the fault in their own actions, you may as well be talking to a brick wall. Not all kids are going to follow the path of trying to please their parents and you can often see this in households with two children where one is never in trouble, and the other is constantly at war with their parents.

Maybe I don't see that I'm entirely in the wrong.

 

As for turning it into a physical fight after my father started pushing me first and getting in my face; maybe I don't like getting assaulted at all. The only reason he had it easy in the 1st fight is because I wasn't too much of a match to him then and didn't know too much about how to throw good hits very well till my best friend taught me some (I was 14 then too and just 5'9). Our 2nd fight occurred about 3 months ago but this time I'm already at 6'1...180 lbs (he's still bigger by 2 inches though and like 210 lbs but at least he can't win easily as before anymore).

 

I will try to get involve in math and science clubs by next year. These are actually my strongest subjects. I'm not too much of an athlete.

 

I may once in a while have an attitude and that's usually when they are really getting on my nerves. From the sound of it, I think a couple posters are saying that basically I should always be the peaceful one no where what, even if they irritating me and simply never disagree like anyone would do at some point.

Edited June 8, 2014 by drummerdude98

[drummerdude98]

Im surprised someone hasnt recommended that he retain an attorney...

Though I'm upset, this isn't really something I want to report either. We do eventually get over arguments and nothing is then said about it.

[lollipopspot]

In fact, I'll give you a classic example. The incident with my son where he almost punched me and told me F you was because I interrupted a group chat on the phone with his friends and told him to come and learn how to wash a load of clothes. He threw laundry across the livingroom and then ran out of the house cursing at me before almost punching me for grabbing his elbow. I never struck him once. I took his cell phone and computer for a month and told him he had Options A and B if he couldn't handle living under my rules. We've come a long way since then, but these teenaged attitudes can come at the drop of a hat without warning.

 

You "never struck him once."

 

But both of his parents have.

 

I don't know why you're identifying with and defending the parents. You're dealing with your teen who called you a name (almost punched you too, which this kid didn't do) without hitting him. Maybe his parents should too.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

Maybe I don't see that I'm entirely in the wrong.

 

As for turning it into a physical fight after my father started pushing me first and getting in my face; maybe I don't like getting assaulted at all. The only reason he had it easy in the 1st fight is because I wasn't too much of a match to him then and didn't know too much about how to throw good hits very well till my best friend taught me some (I was 14 then too and just 5'9). Our 2nd fight occurred about 3 months ago but this time I'm already at 6'1...180 lbs (he's still bigger by 2 inches though and like 210 lbs but at least he can't win easily as before anymore).

 

I will try to get involve in math and science clubs by next year. These are actually my strongest subjects. I'm not too much of an athlete.

 

I may once in a while have an attitude and that's usually when they are really getting on my nerves. From the sound of it, I think a couple posters are saying that basically I should always be the peaceful one no where what, even if they irritating me and simply never disagree like anyone would do at some point.

 

I never said you were entirely in the wrong. At NO POINT, should a child and parent be in a fist fight. Thats just crazy. If you feel like you can't talk to your parents, then talk to a counselor or someone at school and have them mediate between you and your parents. And at no point should you be trying to match yourself up physically with your dad over a disagreement. Irritating you is what parents do and you will miss it when you're out in the real world and the man that pays your paycheck is irritating you and there's nothing you can do about it unless you wanna eat and pay rent.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

You "never struck him once."

 

But both of his parents have.

 

I don't know why you're identifying with and defending the parents. You're dealing with your teen who called you a name (almost punched you too, which this kid didn't do) without hitting him. Maybe his parents should too.

 

Because I'm not his parents, don't know what really transpired, and maybe they feel differently than me. I wasn't kidding when I said my son would be out of my house if he ever tried that again. His parents don't and didn't and that's why it's now becoming a cycle of repetition. Now he's preparing himself to go toe-to-toe when they "irritate" him. I don't know how you can't see that there is more to this than just what this kid is saying.

[Tiger Lily]

I am simply saying that UNLESS you were there and KNOW the WHOLE story, then you can't be so quick to paint his parents as horrible people. QUOTE everything I said!! I stand behind it!! I'm dealing with a teenager so I know how quickly these situations can escalate out of control and a parent can lose sight.

 

They're not horrible people. They need to learn to deal with their emotions. Everyone has problems, and the parents should strive for a better way of dealing with their son. Unfortunately, I doubt they ever will.

 

Maybe I don't see that I'm entirely in the wrong.

 

I will try to get involve in math and science clubs by next year. These are actually my strongest subjects. I'm not too much of an athlete.

 

I may once in a while have an attitude and that's usually when they are really getting on my nerves. From the sound of it, I think a couple posters are saying that basically I should always be the peaceful one no where what, even if they irritating me and simply never disagree like anyone would do at some point.

 

OP, I'm glad to see you might be getting out of the house a little more.

 

Though I'm upset, this isn't really something I want to report either. We do eventually get over arguments and nothing is then said about it.

 

While I consider you to be the ultimate victim in this situation, it doesn't seem like you will be making any sort of official reports about abuse. It's an option, and I don't think you would be removed from the home or anything. I think your parents would probably just be offered some anger management courses, which I think they need.

 

Anyway, moving forward from here, I don't think that you have to keep silent if you're irritated. I think you should just come up with some different ways you can express your frustrations. You also need to make some changes, as being verbally abusive definitely isn't OK, either.

 

So, you could also talk with a counselor about learning how to expressive yourself a little better in the future.

 

Best of luck, OP!

[crude]

Your mother is a c*** for punching you, and she belongs behind bars like the animal that she is. People who applaud a woman who assaults a man but go ballistic when a man does the same to a woman are sick. It's more than a double standard, it's a mental illness.

[lollipopspot]

Your mother is a c*** for punching you, and she belongs behind bars like the animal that she is. People who applaud a woman who assaults a man but go ballistic when a man does the same to a woman are sick. It's more than a double standard, it's a mental illness.

 

You are so far off. No one here has made it a gender issue and we'd give the same advice regardless of gender. This is a parents/child dynamic, not a gender one. Guess what: the dad hit him too - harder, and when he was even younger - same advice.

 

Also, using that word shows you have no class or self control. It shows your hatred of women, while you're complaining about how unfair the world is to you. So unconscious.

[Bonnie Potter]

Dude, you have issues. So does your mom apparently. You all need to seek family counseling.

[spiderowl]

I'm not surprised she reacted like that to such an insult. What a thing to call your mother! You crossed a major line and she reacted by crossing one too. It sounds like an apology is due from you and possibly from her. I know it's not considered appropriate to hit a child these days but sometimes they need to know they've done something terrible.

 

Why were you being so abusive to your mother? Is it something in the family that is bothering you or something unconnected? You lost control and need to learn from this about where your anger is coming from.

 

I doubt your mother is feeling proud of herself, but I can see where she's coming from (and I'm not normally a violent person).

[janedoe67]

Funny...it would be interesting to know the ages of the people thinking what he said to his mother was bad and the people completely glossing over his use of that word and calling his mother a monster.

 

IF you believe in personal responsibility at all, OP, then you SHOULD apologize for calling the woman who carried and raised you such a horrible name. SHE is responsible or her choices.

 

When did you get the idea it was okay to talk to your parents like that, even if they are "getting on your nerves"?

[MuddyFootprints]

If I were your mother and you were within reach, I'd probably have decked you too. What kind of response did you expect using such language when speaking to your mother? You are 16 not 8 and you know exactly where her lava buttons are. The *c* word is the ultimate word of disrespect to hear from the mouth of one's child. You know that. Honestly, what other reaction you were looking for?

[serial muse]

It's like we're always in the wrong. Not fair.

 

Who's "we"?

[whichwayisup]

It was a stupid argument yesterday and yes I did called her a stupid c***. Thing is she didn't slap me but actually freaking punched me. As a result, it drew a bit of blood on my mouth. I swear had it been a guy friend or my older brother, I would have punch him back hard and wrestle him to the ground. I ain't afraid of my father either. I have gotten into two physical fights with him and my mother had to separate us.

 

I immediately told her how I hated her and went to my room sulking. 16 year-old boy here. I just don't hit girls nor women but I'm soooo upset. I don't think it was right what she did either. Isn't she also in the wrong?

 

At 16 years old you shouldn't be calling your mom the C word, that's rude and so disrespectful. You're living in your parents house, so really if you don't like their rules, deal with it! This is your life, you're young and cocky. She was wrong to punch you, I don't advocate violence at all.

 

Maybe it's time for you to seek anger management and get counseling. 16 year old's shouldn't be fighting physically with their fathers!! WTF is that? Talk about disrespect overall.

 

You have a roof over your head, food on the table and probably have chores to do. Normal stuff for teens.

 

why are you so angry and calling your mom rude names anyway?

[whichwayisup]

 

I may once in a while have an attitude and that's usually when they are really getting on my nerves. From the sound of it, I think a couple posters are saying that basically I should always be the peaceful one no where what, even if they irritating me and simply never disagree like anyone would do at some point.

Just learn to control your anger and what comes out of your mouth. Express how you feel but don't get pissy or rude with your parents. It's one thing to stand up for yourself calmly and maturely, it's another to go off half cocked and swear at your mom.

 

Apologize to her for calling her the C word and let her know that she is never to lay a hand on you again. She may apologize..I hope she does.

[drummerdude98]

Oh man now I can't even have my cell phone back nor go out to one my friend's older cousin's wedding, which is going to be held by Wednesday.

 

She won't give me back my cell phone. Sucks

[drummerdude98]

Who's "we"?

I meant that we as the child is always in the wrong for getting upset. That's what I think it's not fair.

[MuddyFootprints]

The child is not wrong for getting upset. The child is wrong for using hateful language to knowingly upset and get a reaction from mom. That is not fair, either.

[M30USA]

It is illegal for an adult to punch a minor. She could go to jail for that. And so could your father for punching you.

 

You and your parents are all out of control. And you all need help.

 

At one point in my life I would have disagreed with you. But after being assaulted by my ex wife and also having been accused to child abuse (legally disproven as false), I now believe in complete 100% legal equality. If a father punched his child, the mother would call CPS. The same should go for mothers. Sorry, ladies, I'm done with the double standards.

Edited June 9, 2014 by M30USA

[drummerdude98]

Ok if anyone is wondering about the argument, the reason I said it was stupid (probably the stupidest one ever) it's because it was really about me playing video games and just as I was about to win, she turns it off. Then she starts nagging endlessly how I should be helping out more, that I'm going out too much with my friends, keeps mentioning about the SAT exam, etc. I was going to help out anyways but I just needed to finish that final last level.

 

I got upset and that's when I said ''I only needed just one level to finish it'' and she wouldn't stop nagging. Then I was like ''You stupid c***'' and that's how it happened.

 

Now because of this stupid argument, I can't go to that special wedding reunion my friend is having this Wednesday and I can't use my cell phone. I've been searching for it but can't find it.

[MuddyFootprints]

Suck it up, princess.

 

Love, Mom.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

Ok if anyone is wondering about the argument, the reason I said it was stupid (probably the stupidest one ever) it's because it was really about me playing video games and just as I was about to win, she turns it off. Then she starts nagging endlessly how I should be helping out more, that I'm going out too much with my friends, keeps mentioning about the SAT exam, etc. I was going to help out anyways but I just needed to finish that final last level.

 

I got upset and that's when I said ''I only needed just one level to finish it'' and she wouldn't stop nagging. Then I was like ''You stupid c***'' and that's how it happened.

 

Now because of this stupid argument, I can't go to that special wedding reunion my friend is having this Wednesday and I can't use my cell phone. I've been searching for it but can't find it.

 

See people???? I knew it!! Good grief kid. WAKE UP.

[drummerdude98]

IF you believe in personal responsibility at all, OP, then you SHOULD apologize for calling the woman who carried and raised you such a horrible name.

I will. Honestly, this is my first time I've called her that word. I was frustrated over only being seconds from winning a game (I would now have to start all over from 2 levels behind).

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

I will. Honestly, this is my first time I've called her that word. I was frustrated over only being seconds from winning a game (I would now have to start all over from 2 levels behind).

 

Awwwe, your breaking my heart. If it was me, I would've smashed your game, turned off your cell phone and you definitely wouldn't have access to the internet right now.

[drummerdude98]

At one point in my life I would have disagreed with you. But after being assaulted by my ex wife and also having been accused to child abuse (legally disproven as false), I now believe in complete 100% legal equality. If a father punched his child, the mother would call CPS. The same should go for mothers. Sorry, ladies, I'm done with the double standards.

Wow sorry to hear about your situation with your ex wife. Crazy woman indeed. My dumb ex gf from my HS slapped me when I told her way back towards the beginning of Dec that I wanted to break up and that we should see other people. Certain classmates saw it and thought it was funny. I think this is becoming common now with some girls and women.

 

As for CPS, I honestly think I would be wasting the cops' time on this, esp if I were telling them about the argument. And well I don't hate my mother. I was just angry at that moment.