sundrop Posted February 13, 2005 Share Posted February 13, 2005 Ok, I don't want to mess this up again. I make this short...... I have been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years. He is 37 and I am 30. We had a huge fight about a 4 weeks ago. I started it over something stupid and it grew into a really bad fight, the worst we ever had. I said I was through with the relationship out of anger, but really didn't mean it in my heart, and I left for a cooling off period. Well needless to say he was really mad about the whole fight(with every right to be) and he didn't speak to me for a week. The next week he was leaving to go out of town for 4 days, and sent me an email telling me he was really upset and needed some space to figure some things out, because I had said some hurtful things in the argument. So I tried to give him his space the best I could. Finally we ended up chatting on the phone and I tried to keep it light and not bring up he fight. I called him this past Wed. and he answered the phone, real chipper and sounded like he was happy to see me. It was lunch time and he was leaving work to go home and pack, because he was leaving that night to fly out of town for 2 weeks with work. So I asked him if he needed any lunch? and he said he would invite me over if he thought it would not be hard on the both of us, and that this separation has been hard on him to..... So needless to say I went by his house and we split a sandwich, I helped him pack and we chatted a bit and he had to leave..... During the time he was out of town for four days he was in Las Vegas and brought me back some soap he had gotten from there that he knew that I liked....... I hope to try to work things out and get back together. He is under a lot of stress with work and don't wont to push the issue. He knows how I feel and that I want him back. When I was leaving the last time I saw him, he did mention that I had hurt him with the words I said during our last fight, I told him I didn't mean them and he said it sure did sound like I did. We hugged good bye and he kissed me on the cheek and gave me a peck, but he said this didn't change anything. Please help, what can I do to get his trust back...... Link to post Share on other sites
moon Posted February 14, 2005 Share Posted February 14, 2005 What did you say to make this guy so upset? Do you think he's justified in being so angry with you? Do you think he's just making excuses? What was the argument about? You don't have to go into specifics, but it's really hard to say what you should do if you don't give more details. If your argument was about his need to remain friends with an ex and you blew up over jealousy, then that's one thing. If your argument was about him always borrowing money from you, that's another thing. If you had an argument because you said you really hate his family and never want to see them again....then that's another totally different thing. What was the dispute about? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sundrop Posted February 14, 2005 Author Share Posted February 14, 2005 It's kind of hard to explain, because it was stupid, but will try...... I am currently going to school, so one night, I was at his house studying, he came home after a stressful day at work, he started watching some t.v. and it was kind of loud, so I said I'm going to go back to he bedroom and study for a few minutes, because i had a test the next day, and when I was done we would watch some movies I had picked up at blockbuster. Anyway, he started watching the movie and I came out of the bedroom and said can you wait a few minutes, I'll be done soon and I walked back into the bedroom. Well when I get done he's mad at me because he thought I was pissed because he started watching the movie, which I wasn't. So for the next little bit he didn't speak to me... So I started getting upset.... Anyway We have two different arguing styles, now I realize, His style is to walkway and cool down and mine is to get it over with, say what needs to be said and be done with it..... So he proceeded to walk way from me and it made me really upset, so he started saying he felt like he was being smothered after he had asked me to spend the weekend with him, I got all upset because he asked me to stay with him, how can you ask me to stay there and then say I was smothering you, anyway.... He tried to walk away, and I proceeded to chase after him, saying why are you being a chicken $*it and walking away, can you not fight with a girl etc......... It was bad. So he fight was really over something petty.. I should have known this is a very stressful time of year for him and let him be. We are each others best friend, and we will both admit it, we get along great but when we fight it is bad, I told him I was done, and now he is holding me to it. I know I made my bed and have to lay in it, but we are still on somewhat talking terms and he knows I want him back. I have not talked to him in three days and want to call him so bad, but also want to try to give him his space, that he asked for after our argument. I backed him into a corner one night on the phone because I so wanted to talk to him a few weeks ago and he said it was done. Now we are starting to talk again and I don't want to do anything to screw it up...... Link to post Share on other sites
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