Babolat Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 6' 3" and my weight fluctuates from 185lbs to 195lb. I literally have to force myself to eat more to keep weight on. 185 right now and I feel skinny and have been called same. I work out a lot so I do have some muscle and tone. I'd rather be called skinny, then the oppositie though so enjoy man! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 I love being skinny as well, i don`t have to worry about eating the junk i love. Sure one day it will change but while i lasts i am quite quite happy. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Yeah i used to be okay with my build but I'm getting tired of people pestering me about my weight, always saying I should eat more always etc (i do eat a lot, it really hard for me to gain weight and when i get stressed i don't eat as well so that doesn't help) and its now got to the point where my weight does bother and its ruining my confidence my confidence about my appearance was never that great anyway. What you have to realize is that people will pester you about stuff no matter WHAT you do. If you gain weight, people will tell you to lose it. If you gain muscle, they'll tell you that you are becoming obsessed with your fitness and try to make you eat cake. Everyone has an opinion, and you shouldn't let it affect your confidence. You are a tall skinny dude, and there's no reason to try to change that unless YOU want to. Dress the body you have to make the most of it, and don't worry. Plenty of girls are attracted to tall skinny guys. The ones who aren't... well, they aren't your target market anyway. But yeah i am considering working out a bit (not full on gym work out, just stuff at home) to try and maybe tone up a bit. Only if you want to do it for YOU. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
nofeelings22 Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 I used to worry about this, too, OP. Then I noticed how 99.9% of old people are fat. I immediately stopped worrying, realizing, "you have your whole life to get fat" Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 I converted the numbers to something understandable for me ;-). So you are 60 kgs and 178 cm, my height exactly. The problem really isn't that you are skinny, it is that you are very weak with these numbers. Which also really isn't a problem till you make it your problem, which you are. Thing is, you eating junk food with your metabolism might not make you gain weight on the outsight (and I seriously doubt you are looking to gain fat), but will do so on the insight, though I am not on any position to speak about diet. What you can do is go to the gym and lift heavy. I have seen quite a lot 'skinny' guys bench press a fair amount, fewer with the deadlift. But none are squatting and especially pressing a lot. What I do see all the time is skinny dudes pumping out 20 reps on some machine for years and not going anywhere. Just start a beginner strenght program like starting strength or stronglifts and do the gallon of milk a day. Read carefully and than run that program for a year or so until you are stalled out and you will be in a position to choose whatever you want to do next instead of going straight into a mass gaining program which will get you nowhere without a solid strenght base. Strenght and the results of it have very little to do with body type (up till the pros), endomorph, ectomorph whatever, you need to put the work in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Also, it is a lot less work than it sounds. 3x a week 45 min - 1 hour or so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 13, 2014 Author Share Posted June 13, 2014 thanks for the suggestions, i certainly wouldn't call myself weak as i often surprise people at work with my upper body strength i prefer being called lean rather than skinny as i have very little fat and more muscle than anything, its just a shame i look skinny, my legs especially bother me, why i don't own any shorts for example but yeah i guess i got to look at the bright side and focus on the positives. i am planning on doing some home work out stuff, but for myself and not because of other people Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 That's why I said I do see some skinny dudes bench press a decent amount but never squat a decent amount . CNS activation only goes so far, and that's when trained... Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 I converted the numbers to something understandable for me ;-). So you are 60 kgs and 178 cm, my height exactly. The problem really isn't that you are skinny, it is that you are very weak with these numbers. Not necessarily; some people can be lean but stronger (and perhaps more importantly, good at using their strength) than their bulkier peers. Jet Li, the famous martial artist, apparently used to be 66 kg and 168 cm at his peak. I frankly don't get the allure of bulk. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Priv Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 Not necessarily; some people can be lean but stronger (and perhaps more importantly, good at using their strength) than their bulkier peers. Jet Li, the famous martial artist, apparently used to be 66 kg and 168 cm at his peak. I frankly don't get the allure of bulk. True, and a lot of lower weight class olympic lifters etc. as well. But that comes with years and years of training. And noone will ever say they look skinny or that they should eat more, they look waaaay heavier than they really are. Totally the opposite of an untrained 60kg man who gets bombarded with 'you should eat more' comments. And everyone is weak who is either untrained, not playing sports or don't have a physically demanding job. They are simply very far off from their potential strenght. You can easily get 50%+ stronger in all compound moves in your first year of training. Gets harder after that. I find it amazing what the human body can accomplish with training, and I find it awesome to experience it myself. If you get pestered about being skinny and being uncomfortable in your own body I can totally understand not being happy about it. I just tried to give him some tools for it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 15, 2014 Author Share Posted June 15, 2014 Thanks for the suggestions and help, I'm am definitely tired of being pestered about it and is why I don't own any shorts or not even going to the beach for example just not happy about my appearance at the moment which is quite frustrating because I believe I'm quite healthy. It is definitely something I'm going to work on though, try and do some working out at home, might do me some me good and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 (edited) hey target lock, we all have imperfections most of the time the imperfections keep us humble.......being o rhaving humility is an admirable trait....it brings in acceptance of others and a nature that is a delight to be around.....on agood day ...i am decent looking....i am not attractive .....what attracts others to me and sometimes they cant figure out why i am attractive to them, i am no ones type or every persons type..and i am not a first choice option i seem to always be coming in second best in the sprint when i was a teen one of exes....was attracted to my gorgeous petite friend....i am goofy.....he ended up with me and cried when he told me that i was not his first choice. he didnt want to lie to me....i did dump him after that...lol.....adn he tried to jump off a roof.....so i went back out with him...no joke its true.....could give his name i wont..... ...i always win the marathon instead..........because I am actually confident i am humble i can laugh at myself...and yes i can laugh with people too...so easily...... i can be sweet and i can sting....... and i know i am flawed so i am forgiving of others flaws...... people are attracted to me because flaws are actually beautiful ...they make you approachable and even when you dont knwo why you are attracted to somone....it doesnt seem to matter anymore once you know who they really are beyond the flaws....thoe flaws just then become part fo their charm.....wear shorts more often tarjaylock.................deb Edited June 15, 2014 by todreaminblue 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 16, 2014 Author Share Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) Thanks for that and yeah you need to be able to laugh out yourself sometimes and no I'm certainly not perfect and don't want the perfect woman just the Right one for me, yeah i might be skinny, a bit nerdy and awkward but i have many good qualities as well. also beauty is very much subjective and in the eye of the beholder. And you should never go out with someone who thinks of you as the consolation prize but rather as the gold medal Reminds of this movie quote: My uncle used to say that we like people for their qualities but we love them for their defects. Edited June 16, 2014 by Targetlock more info 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 Thanks for that and yeah you need to be able to laugh out yourself sometimes and no I'm certainly not perfect and don't want the perfect woman just the Right one for me, yeah i might be skinny, a bit nerdy and awkward but i have many good qualities as well. also beauty is very much subjective and in the eye of the beholder. And you should never go out with someone who thinks of you as the consolation prize but rather as the gold medal Reminds of this movie quote: My uncle used to say that we like people for their qualities but we love them for their defects. so when are you donning shorts my friend tarjay and saying hey yeah ...take me as i am ...or you dont git this.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 it doesnt seem to matter anymore once you know who they really are beyond the flaws....thoe flaws just then become part fo their charm.....wear shorts more often tarjaylock.................deb Physical appearance though is a big part of attraction. If you don't register with that then the other person really doesn't have high interest to want to know who you really are. Sure there are exceptions when attraction can sneak up on you when you are around a person a fair bit and get to know them, but you are much better off having immediate appeal to increase your available pool of options. The essence of masculinity is a strong attractor even though the guy might not be handsome. Skinny legs doesn't convey that for majority of women. I used to love going to the beach (still do) and was not that self conscious there, but used to avoid shorts any where else when I was skinny. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 True, and a lot of lower weight class olympic lifters etc. as well. But that comes with years and years of training. And noone will ever say they look skinny or that they should eat more, they look waaaay heavier than they really are. Totally the opposite of an untrained 60kg man who gets bombarded with 'you should eat more' comments. And everyone is weak who is either untrained, not playing sports or don't have a physically demanding job. They are simply very far off from their potential strenght. You can easily get 50%+ stronger in all compound moves in your first year of training. Gets harder after that. I find it amazing what the human body can accomplish with training, and I find it awesome to experience it myself. If you get pestered about being skinny and being uncomfortable in your own body I can totally understand not being happy about it. I just tried to give him some tools for it. Oh, I don't think there's anything wrong with the suggestion you made, for sure. I was responding to the 'with those numbers you are very weak' part. Also saying that, if bulking isn't his cup of tea, that's not necessarily a bad thing because not all women find bulk attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 (edited) Physical appearance though is a big part of attraction. If you don't register with that then the other person really doesn't have high interest to want to know who you really are. Sure there are exceptions when attraction can sneak up on you when you are around a person a fair bit and get to know them, but you are much better off having immediate appeal to increase your available pool of options. The essence of masculinity is a strong attractor even though the guy might not be handsome. Skinny legs doesn't convey that for majority of women. I used to love going to the beach (still do) and was not that self conscious there, but used to avoid shorts any where else when I was skinny. would not it be fickleness to a high order to judge a guy as datable or not datable on a pair of shorts....dont quite get it? i would probably not date guy if he were to wear his underwear on the outside of his shorts and that underwear was super tight....skinny legs dont bother me...underwear on the outside slight issue.i think statistically if you were to do a case study the guy who wore shorts normally and had skinny legs would get the dates...have to test that out...dont think ill find the guinea pigs though to actually do the test study....you up?... i was on the beach once when i ws youngr ....adn this guy stood over me with dick stickers on and asked me for a date after a conversation we had........i declined not because his legs were skinny...but because when i looked up and shielded my eyes from a bright sun...i could see his penis....if he had boardshorts on it might have been a different matter....deb Edited June 16, 2014 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 16, 2014 Author Share Posted June 16, 2014 so when are you donning shorts my friend tarjay and saying hey yeah ...take me as i am ...or you dont git this.....deb Well do i have a camping trip near the beach with friends at the weekend, so you never know also one of my friends has a single friend they want me to meet! Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Targetlock, I am the exact same H/W body type as you naturally. Today I'm 5'10 154 lbs. Took me 3 years in High School to go from 123 to 150 (granted I wasn't 5'10 yet at 123). Its doable. It feels like a drag to be a "hard gainer". But one big blessing? When you finally do manage to build mass, you won't have to put much effort into cutting. Your crazy metabolism will have taken care of that for you. Meanwhile, the guys who spend half the time you do bulking, spend twice the time cutting. Do it for yourself, as other posters have suggested. But man does it feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
DarkKnight1 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 Have You Been Tested For Hyperthyroidism Or Any Other Medical Imbalance? Could Be Worth Looking Into. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted June 18, 2014 Share Posted June 18, 2014 yeah still bothers me though and now made me think not so great about my appearance i used to be okay with it but now the nagging and pestering has made me thinking that my skinnyness isn't okay just sucks thats all Target its a catch 22 if your too skinny people will harass you if your to fat people will harass you if your the perfect weight people will harass you about some other random imperfection! Theirs nothing wrong with you its sociatys prob we have all been brain washed for so long about perfection that nothing will ever live up to it. I've seen truly beautiful women getting picked apart cause of some minor flaw its crazy! the only way to be happy with your self these days is to truly realize that at the end of the day people are eahter going to accept you as you are or there not the ones who do are genuine the ones who don't really don't matter anyways.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 18, 2014 Author Share Posted June 18, 2014 That is very true just annoying when friends and colleagues keep pestering me about it had a friend recently tell me to go see a doctor about my weight 'problem' which kind of sucked. but yeah I am going to try and not let people get to me and concentrate on what I think about my appearance, but yeah i am going to try and work at it and see what happens Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 That is very true just annoying when friends and colleagues keep pestering me about it had a friend recently tell me to go see a doctor about my weight 'problem' which kind of sucked. but yeah I am going to try and not let people get to me and concentrate on what I think about my appearance, but yeah i am going to try and work at it and see what happens Meh, they're just being excessive. Your weight and height puts you in the 'slightly underweight' range, that's all. If you're getting enough calories, nutrition and exercise, then it doesn't matter one jot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 That is very true just annoying when friends and colleagues keep pestering me about it had a friend recently tell me to go see a doctor about my weight 'problem' which kind of sucked. but yeah I am going to try and not let people get to me and concentrate on what I think about my appearance, but yeah i am going to try and work at it and see what happens Next time some one says something like that just turn to them and say na im good just as I am and walk away.. Cause people can only bother you if you give them the power to do so..what they say you cant control you can only control how it affects you.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 (edited) That is very true just annoying when friends and colleagues keep pestering me about it had a friend recently tell me to go see a doctor about my weight 'problem' which kind of sucked. but yeah I am going to try and not let people get to me and concentrate on what I think about my appearance, but yeah i am going to try and work at it and see what happens I'm surprised they keep pestering you about it if your appear happy in your day to day life. I was skinnier than you based on your stats. My friends used to rib me a bit and I had nicknames because of it, but it was in good nature, and they didn't bang on about all the time. As I got older a couple of them would go on a bit about it. They had seen me at times with extra weight plus also could see it was not easy when it came to chatting up women plus realized my confidence was linked. They were big eaters and bigger guys and thought I should be matching them on meals, and I wasn't serious if I wasn't eating family size pizzas, 2 hamburgers, huge steaks, lots of beers, etc. then it was annoying. I had 3 women I got on well with and who I really liked offer to go out with me if I put on at least 10kg. lol. I wasn't insulted by that and at least they were upfront. It was pretty clear to me its a negative in the dating market, so I didn't complain too much, as I knew what I had to do, it was just hard work. What annoyed me the most was how women at my end of the gene pool (the ones I was most attracted to) tended to be the least friendly, which a lot of regular size people didn't get as skinny to fat men/women were pretty much the same to them. If the issue is just your friends I'd have a chat to them that you are trying and friendly support is a good thing but pestering is not. If they sense you are unhappy with your physique or it is harming your prospects with women then they could well think they are encouraging you for your benefit. Hit the gym. Try to get your anxiety/stress levels under control. Cortisol is catabolic & it negatively effects your appetite. Edited June 19, 2014 by ascendotum Link to post Share on other sites
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