Author Targetlock Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 I'm surprised they keep pestering you about it if your appear happy in your day to day life. I was skinnier than you based on your stats. My friends used to rib me a bit and I had nicknames because of it, but it was in good nature, and they didn't bang on about all the time. As I got older a couple of them would go on a bit about it. They had seen me at times with extra weight plus also could see it was not easy when it came to chatting up women plus realized my confidence was linked. They were big eaters and bigger guys and thought I should be matching them on meals, and I wasn't serious if I wasn't eating family size pizzas, 2 hamburgers, huge steaks, lots of beers, etc. then it was annoying. I had 3 women I got on well with and who I really liked offer to go out with me if I put on at least 10kg. lol. I wasn't insulted by that and at least they were upfront. It was pretty clear to me its a negative in the dating market, so I didn't complain too much, as I knew what I had to do, it was just hard work. What annoyed me the most was how women at my end of the gene pool (the ones I was most attracted to) tended to be the least friendly, which a lot of regular size people didn't get as skinny to fat men/women were pretty much the same to them. If the issue is just your friends I'd have a chat to them that you are trying and friendly support is a good thing but pestering is not. If they sense you are unhappy with your physique or it is harming your prospects with women then they could well think they are encouraging you for your benefit. Hit the gym. Try to get your anxiety/stress levels under control. Cortisol is catabolic & it negatively effects your appetite. Yeah I always get the impression my skinniness is a turn-off for women (never any compliments about my appearance just nagging and pestering )nobody ever seems to want the awkward skinny nerd, and yes i am currently on a herbal supplement for stress at the moment which does help a lot. Also i have a camping trip with friends at the beach this weekend and it is bothering me about how i will look in shorts or if i actually take my shirt off, i never normally wear shorts because of that and only today just bought some for the holiday. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Also i have a camping trip with friends at the beach this weekend and it is bothering me about how i will look in shorts or if i actually take my shirt off, i never normally wear shorts because of that and only today just bought some for the holiday. Skinny & really pale is not a good look. Skinny & tanned is much better. If you can, get some instant/self tanning lotion/spray and apply it before you go. some take a number of hours to start working. Try find someone to apply it to your back so it does not look like obvious self tanning. With self tan lotions/sprays you pay for what you get, so don't go cheap. Hope you still enjoy your trip regardless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 Skinny & really pale is not a good look. Skinny & tanned is much better. If you can, get some instant/self tanning lotion/spray and apply it before you go. some take a number of hours to start working. Try find someone to apply it to your back so it does not look like obvious self tanning. With self tan lotions/sprays you pay for what you get, so don't go cheap. Hope you still enjoy your trip regardless. good idea but probably not enough time before I go, will have to make the most of it i guess Link to post Share on other sites
jonsnuh Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 OP, In my experience, it really varies. I've found that people working in my field tend to like skinnier, more slender guys. It makes them look taller and studies have shown that preference towards these guys is positively correlated with higher raises and salaries. Even if you're not tall, the illusion of you being tall helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 OP, In my experience, it really varies. I've found that people working in my field tend to like skinnier, more slender guys. It makes them look taller and studies have shown that preference towards these guys is positively correlated with higher raises and salaries. Even if you're not tall, the illusion of you being tall helps. well its a good thing i am tall then i'm just under 6 foot (5 foot 10 1/2 inches but 5 foot 11 inches with shoes on) Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 Yeah I always get the impression my skinniness is a turn-off for women (never any compliments about my appearance just nagging and pestering )nobody ever seems to want the awkward skinny nerd, and yes i am currently on a herbal supplement for stress at the moment which does help a lot. Also i have a camping trip with friends at the beach this weekend and it is bothering me about how i will look in shorts or if i actually take my shirt off, i never normally wear shorts because of that and only today just bought some for the holiday. It doesn't matter. It's your self-consciousness and lack of confidence that will harm you most, not your lack of tan. If it really bothers you then by all means get muscles and a tan, but there's still no shortcut to working on your confidence and self-esteem. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 It doesn't matter. It's your self-consciousness and lack of confidence that will harm you most, not your lack of tan. If it really bothers you then by all means get muscles and a tan, but there's still no shortcut to working on your confidence and self-esteem. my self-esteem and poor confidence has always been my biggest problem though it is often illogical and false. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 (edited) will have to tell what if anything happens on my camping trip, my friend has got a single friend for me to meet as well bring it on!! Edited June 20, 2014 by Targetlock mistake Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 will have to tell what if anything happens on my camping trip, my friend has got a single friend for me to meet as well bring it on!! Awesome hope you have fun Target..and good luck.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 Well i went for my camping trip and had a great time managed to talk myself into wearing shorts for the first time in years! still couldn't get myself to take my shirt off when i was down at the beach ended up in the sea with it on lol. As for the friend sadly she wasn't single and had just started seeing someone, nice for her though. but even if she was single I doubt she would have shown any interest anyway, had the impression I wasn't her type plus she was a few years older, and me often getting mistaken for someone younger probably made her think I was too young (i'm 28 shes' 34). never mind one must keep on looking I guess! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Well i went for my camping trip and had a great time managed to talk myself into wearing shorts for the first time in years! still couldn't get myself to take my shirt off when i was down at the beach ended up in the sea with it on lol. Every little bit of progress is good. But seriously, there are even dudes with beer bellies walking around shirtless. And many of them have girlfriends/wives! Don't worry about going shirtless at the beach. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 Every little bit of progress is good. But seriously, there are even dudes with beer bellies walking around shirtless. And many of them have girlfriends/wives! Don't worry about going shirtless at the beach. Yeah just me being silly, must be a self esteem issue or something and what i think of myself, would have been fine normally its just those friends and colleagues badgering me about my weight making me feel bad. funnily enough not one comment about my weight this week though just about everyone guessed my age wrong and thought I was younger (i'm 28 most thought i was early 20's) which must be a good thing i guess? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Yeah just me being silly, must be a self esteem issue or something and what i think of myself, would have been fine normally its just those friends and colleagues badgering me about my weight making me feel bad. funnily enough not one comment about my weight this week though just about everyone guessed my age wrong and thought I was younger (i'm 28 most thought i was early 20's) which must be a good thing i guess? Yeah, I get what you mean. Lots of us women suffer from this too (probably worse since women's choice of dress is criticized more). I sometimes do myself. It's not gonna be easy but you gotta persevere. Early 20s is a good age. Young, but not too young to drink or have sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 yep that is the key, got to keep on trying and leap screaming out of the comfort zone! never know where i might land 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 Trust me when you hit your 30s you will be loving it when they mistake you for a younger person most of the time..Well err unless your trying to buy booze and you get into a argument over your ID with the clerk that was fun..lol but yeah back on track glad to hear you had a good weekend target.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 22, 2014 Share Posted June 22, 2014 I know this guy he is five foot nothing my ex actually has bony legs and has lost a lot of weight lately....but he can fly...literally.....once i saw him fly...... protecting a mate from a six and a half foot bruiser of a sailor.............did this sprint and lanched like a rocket..poetry in motion.....also a martial artist taught by a 3 dan karate expert who taught him for free because he seen that heart in him and encouraged him ..................that five footer made people stop and stare.....including massive bouncers..... launched and knocked that guy clean out because he has this huge heart.......i am his frend now never wouldnt be..just not partner material he is however the best friend anyone could have...loyal to the core..very annoying at times though....lol...would die for them.........if people judge you target by your legs they are the ones who need help not you.....be you be proud of who you are and dont let no one tell you otherwise brother........stuff them....just be you adn wear those damn shorts........and if peopel judge you by your skin that you are in and how big you are in a pair of shorts.......its their loss and thei ignorance they need help with......deb 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 22, 2014 Author Share Posted June 22, 2014 Trust me when you hit your 30s you will be loving it when they mistake you for a younger person most of the time..Well err unless your trying to buy booze and you get into a argument over your ID with the clerk that was fun..lol but yeah back on track glad to hear you had a good weekend target.. Funnily enough, i did get asked for ID earlier this year sadly I didn't have my ID at the time (only proper ID I have is my passport so I don't often carry it around with me) luckily a friend vouched for me as I was at a party. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 23, 2014 Author Share Posted June 23, 2014 (edited) I know this guy he is five foot nothing my ex actually has bony legs and has lost a lot of weight lately....but he can fly...literally.....once i saw him fly...... protecting a mate from a six and a half foot bruiser of a sailor.............did this sprint and lanched like a rocket..poetry in motion.....also a martial artist taught by a 3 dan karate expert who taught him for free because he seen that heart in him and encouraged him ..................that five footer made people stop and stare.....including massive bouncers..... launched and knocked that guy clean out because he has this huge heart.......i am his frend now never wouldnt be..just not partner material he is however the best friend anyone could have...loyal to the core..very annoying at times though....lol...would die for them.........if people judge you target by your legs they are the ones who need help not you.....be you be proud of who you are and dont let no one tell you otherwise brother........stuff them....just be you adn wear those damn shorts........and if peopel judge you by your skin that you are in and how big you are in a pair of shorts.......its their loss and thei ignorance they need help with......deb Very true, is okay to have a slight crush on you Edited June 23, 2014 by Targetlock wrong quote! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 Well after the holiday I've decided to work on my physique and see if I can bulk up, and will start simple with push-ups, sit ups and stretches, see if i can do anything with my skinny arms and legs. wish me luck 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Well after the holiday I've decided to work on my physique and see if I can bulk up, and will start simple with push-ups, sit ups and stretches, see if i can do anything with my skinny arms and legs. wish me luck I'm sure if you created a new thread asking about bulking/gaining muscle there would be lots of posters able to help. Unfortunately, if you don't do the correct things you can actually end up leaner than ever!! My H is naturally very thin, so I have to feed him a lot of fatty (good fat) foods, then his strenuous job does the rest of the work. It's resulted in him having gorgeous arms, back, abs, and glutes, but still has his long chicken legs. Which.I find sexy!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 Well i guess all i need is for that one special person to find me attractive i guess which would make a nice change as i'm often ignored and personally i don't like my skinny chicken legs (why i don't wear shorts often) yeah maybe i will start on that thread idea. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Apologies as I have only had a very quick read of this thread. An old friend of mine was very skinny. He was at his doctor's about something unrelated - he had had a burn. His doc commented on his weight and asked if he had recently lost weight or had he always been skinny. The doc did some tests and it turned out he had a yeast infection in his stomach. From memory he got some tablets for the infection and I think he cut way down on yeast (possibly even cut it out of his diet for a while) and instantly began to gain weight. I think he put on about a stone in a month. He didn't have any other symptoms, the only symptom was his inability to gain weight and he always ate loads! Also, Ceoliac disease can also stop weight gain but tends to come along with more and quite varied symptoms. Both restrict nutrients being digested. It might be worth looking into and asking your Doc about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) Apologies as I have only had a very quick read of this thread. An old friend of mine was very skinny. He was at his doctor's about something unrelated - he had had a burn. His doc commented on his weight and asked if he had recently lost weight or had he always been skinny. The doc did some tests and it turned out he had a yeast infection in his stomach. From memory he got some tablets for the infection and I think he cut way down on yeast (possibly even cut it out of his diet for a while) and instantly began to gain weight. I think he put on about a stone in a month. He didn't have any other symptoms, the only symptom was his inability to gain weight and he always ate loads! Also, Ceoliac disease can also stop weight gain but tends to come along with more and quite varied symptoms. Both restrict nutrients being digested. It might be worth looking into and asking your Doc about. Thanks for that it might be useful, i always suspected it might be a high metabolism or something, my dad is of a very similar size and has similar issues. i did recently get pestered by friend about seeing the doctor about it. Edited June 24, 2014 by Targetlock Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) I am getting tired of being pestered about my Skinnyness and for myself I have decided to do something about it and starting doing some workouts at home to hopefully tone up a bit. I've never seem to be able to put on any weight most of my life. I would really like to do something about my skinny arms and legs. any advice, ideas or suggestions would be helpful is it worthwhile seeing a doctor to see if you if there is any underlying health issues? the idea of seeing the doctor does make me feel like I'm giving in to pressure or something though. Edited June 25, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) How old are you? I'm 33 and only now starting to appreciate being skinny because as everyone else is fattening up I'm looking "normal". Just wait a while. Edited June 25, 2014 by M30USA Link to post Share on other sites
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