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Strange situation with my ex's ex fling.


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ThatGirl213

Ok..This is a weird situation. Would like some input.

 

My ex and I are good friends. We live in the same apartment building. He recently told me he wants to get back with me. I haven't told him yes. The reason we broke our 3 yrs relationship last year was because he is a cheater. Anyway just before my ex asked me for another chance, he was kinda dating a cousin of his best friend. She knew about me. He had told her, he and I broke up because he cheated and that we still hang out and what not. Apparently she had liked him for awhile, so I guess she was fine with the arrangement of my ex being around me (love is blind after all) while dating her. Long story short, he told her he wants to get back with me and they stopped talking because she felt betrayed. Now I notice every time I post a picture on facebook with her cousin (my ex's best friend who is also a good friend of mine) in it, she likes it or she comments on it. One example is a picture of me trying to fight her cousin and she comments "No body touches my cousin without going through me first :P". Today I uploaded another picture with me, my ex, her cousin and some of our other friends and she likes that picture. I know she use to stalk me when they were dating because she would accidentally follow my profile. I just find it strange. What exactly is she trying to show me? That she has moved on? To actually comment on my picture speaking to me? It's just weird. I never commented back. I don't want to be her friend or feel intimated by her that my ex will go back there. I just find it so strange. Any idea :confused:

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Hmm she may be trying to get close to you or to 'show you she's cool with it all'. She's not too cool with it though or she'd just move on.

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I feel the same way. She had written a long ass letter to my ex stating how she felt betrayed that he was leading her on while he was still trying to get back with me.

 

This girl had actually ended up at my ex's door one day, knowing I live the same place and I could be at his house too. I am close to his mom. This was before he told me he wanted to get back with me. My ex told me she told him she was trying to surprise him and she is spontaneous. Whatever that meant. They weren't even talking much that time. She is weirding out. Should I message her and tell her stop doing whatever she is trying to do?

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Don't worry your little head about her. Do you really need this nonsense and stress? It takes so much energy to be bitchy. No don't message her to tell her stop what she's doing. If she's in your friends list then she's welcome to like or comment. If you don't like it, block her from seeing or doing anything. Don't play games, you are obviously putyi g these pictures up to play with her. Its really dumb and painfully time consuming. Let it go.

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She is not in my friend's list and never was. I have always posted pictures of me and my friends. When I tagged her cousin, I didn't even think it would appear on her wall or she would see it. I really have nothing against this girl. But it is getting to me a little bit.

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I think poppyolive might have bit of a point. Are your intentions innocent when you post those pictures especially the ones with your ex? I know when my ex was switching between me and this other girl I would do things to I guess be spiteful. Like whenever he would come running back to me, I would be all over his facebook liking his status' and commenting on everything. I would post when we were together and stuff like that. I wanted to show her that I had him and she didn't. Now I'm not saying my reasoning for it was wrong because she can still go jump off a cliff, but I know now that I was being silly. I should not have taken my ex back and I should not have played into the girl's little social media games.

 

So that's why I ask, but yeah I'd block her if it bothers you.

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I think poppyolive might have bit of a point. Are your intentions innocent when you post those pictures especially the ones with your ex? I know when my ex was switching between me and this other girl I would do things to I guess be spiteful. Like whenever he would come running back to me, I would be all over his facebook liking his status' and commenting on everything. I would post when we were together and stuff like that. I wanted to show her that I had him and she didn't. Now I'm not saying my reasoning for it was wrong because she can still go jump off a cliff, but I know now that I was being silly. I should not have taken my ex back and I should not have played into the girl's little social media games.

 

So that's why I ask, but yeah I'd block her if it bothers you.

 

No, I am not trying to provoke her. I have done it in the past to provoke some others. That's when my ex had other more serious flings. So I know what you mean. But not this one because he hasn't even really done anything with this girl and they were dating for a short time. She didn't even bother me that much at the time because I was on my path of trying to heal and he did not cheat on me with her. He has blocked her on his profile. So even if I do comment on his post (which I don't unless he posts something on my wall or if I just want to but definitely not to provoke anyone coz all the girls he cheated on me with are blocked on his profile), she won't see it. My pictures can only be seen by my friends. So are my statuses. I am not with my ex. So I don't post lovey-dovey statuses about him. The picture with my ex in it, is a pic that has 5 of us. My ex and I are not holding hands or doing anything displaying affection in that pic. The only way she would see anything is if her cousin is tagged I believe but she likes and comments one to two or even three days later after I post it. So I dont know how it appears on her wall just like that.

 

I am honestly considering blocking her but I don't want to make her think she is getting to me.

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