BornToDie Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I'm usually the friend that has answers to most problems. When my best friend told me about this situation she's in, though, I was a little baffled and figured I'd take it to the forum to get opinions. My friend has recently been hanging out with a guy that she hasn't thought of in a romantic way until very recently. This guy is somewhat of a loner who usually doesn't ask to hang out with people, but personality wise, he and my friend are extremely alike. Since the two are friends, they sometimes talk about whom they're talking to or going out on dates with at the time. The other night, after a date my friend on that went badly, she and this male friend of hers came back to our place to hang out. She told me that they talked from probably 3-7 AM, and after she mentioned her date gone wrong, he told her that she "needed to find someone who was just like her." She told him that she "just wanted a relationship that was easy," and he agreed that he wanted the same thing. After they got done talking, she told him that he could sleep on the bed while she slept on the couch or vice versa. He responded with the "I think the bed's big enough for the both of us" line, so she got ready for bed, and when she came back, he was completely naked in the bed. He said, "you know I sleep naked, right?" to which she replied yes, that she sometimes did too, and he told her that she was welcome to do that if she liked. She took her shirt off, and they slept in bed completely naked together, but nothing physical happened at all. She told me that he occasionally made comments that alluded to the fact that he wanted to do something, for example, "you know you don't have to sleep all the way on the edge." So is this guy into her or no? I know that it can be good when sex doesn't immediately happen, but from experience, when a guy wants to, he's going to try. This guy doesn't want to hang out with many people, but he's continuously texting my friend to ask to hang out with her. So is it just a comfortable friendship or more? What would be a good way to find out? Thanks.
Mrin Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I'm waiting for the "and then he got a tattoo of her face on his chest". Yes. The guy is into her. He's just trying to be passive agressive in his courtship looking for some signal from her. The naked thing was kinda creepy IMHO though. His "you don't have to sleep on the edge of the bed" which was an invitation to snuggle. If she is into him she should have scooted over to snuggle. But that would have probably lead to sex. That's why the naked thing is so wierd. Dude should have kept his boxers on and she would have been more likely to snuggle. 3
Assasda Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Hahaha the guy is into her, but I think you still have a chance if you play it cool. He was kind of a pansy not sleeping with her.
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 That's just bonkers to me. I can't imagine a guy or girl getting naked in a bed with a member of the opposite sex they weren't into. Somebody misread a cue somewhere. 4
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Guy is kind of an oddball and has the wrong kind of balls. He probably figured that seeing him naked would get the girl riled like when he looks at porn when keeping his boxers on would have probably turned her on more. Guy has weak game. If she's into him, she needs to help him along and give him the signal that its OK to be affectionate, kiss him or something. 3
PegNosePete Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Guy wants to boink her but is a wuss. Whether he is "into" her in other ways, there's not enough info to say. Best way to find out... umm... maybe ask him? Totally out of the box suggestion I know 2
BradJacobs Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Guy wants to boink her but is a wuss. Whether he is "into" her in other ways, there's not enough info to say. Best way to find out... umm... maybe ask him? Totally out of the box suggestion I know Agree with this. Sex != interested in anything other than sex. If she wants to know whether there's a chance for something more from this guy she's going to have to wear the pants initially and make a move. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 First rule of cuddle club, if there's no sex, you're out of cuddle club. He wanted sex. This isn't rocket science people. If he was forced to share a bed with a male buddy, you think he'd have crawled in a$$ out?
Grumpybutfun Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) I haven't stopped laughing since I started reading this thread....wtf? The dude shared her bed and sleeps in the nude so he invites her to do the same probably while discussing the weather or maybe an older episode of Game of Thrones...then she pulls her clothes off too and they are laying there in the bed together completely naked and she is falling off the bed because she doesn't know what to think about his and her nudity. Is anyone else just thinking of old Marx Brothers slapstick comedy reading this? I am dying here. G OP, in answer to your question, he likes her as a friend whom he feels comfortable with imho. Edited June 14, 2014 by Grumpybutfun 1
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Ha! Sounds like a total "nice guy." To him, he made a balsy move, but he really had no idea at all what he was doing.
todreaminblue Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I haven't stopped laughing since I started reading this thread....wtf? The dude shared her bed and sleeps in the nude so he invites her to do the same probably while discussing the weather or maybe an older episode of Game of Thrones...then she pulls her clothes off too and they are laying there in the bed together completely naked and she is falling off the bed because she doesn't know what to think about his and her nudity. Is anyone else just thinking of old Marx Brothers slapstick comedy reading this? I am dying here. G OP, in answer to your question, he likes her as a friend whom he feels comfortable with imho. sleepin neekid with friends just seems to have ummmmm no written all over ....guys find ti funny i have a shower and come out more dressed than before i had a shower.......over shirt long dress tights underneath its all abtou layers and i look liek a homeless hermit..... lol...ahem lucky i dotn wear boots they would suffer a bit if i did.....but i dotn wake up often with blankets.....and i feel the cold...thats my excuse..........
RachR Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 This is just bizarre and awkward to me. And the comments and actions together indicate he wanted to sleep with her but went about it in an awkward and what I'd consider a very unappealing way. (It seems weasely.) 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I think he likes her. When you don't like someone you don't allow them to sleep in a bed with you naked! I had a male friend stay over a few months ago when he and I were both single as he was in a bad situation and needed a place to stay (and shared house so sofa outta the question), I made it clear beforehand it was just as friends, made a joke about not trying anything on, wore SO many pyjamas it was from a roll up around my neck down to thick fluffy socks and kept as far to my side of the bed as possible. And it was still weird. On the other hand when I've liked someone I've invited them to share a bed before, and they've agreed but not really gotten the message that I'm into them so I've had to make the first move with a bit of snuggling, usually once someone has the green light and isn't afraid of wrecking the friendship by making a potentially awkward and unwanted move they are a lot more affectionate. He sounds awkward, but maybe that's not unusual with the social loner thing. If she likes him, tell her to hang out with him again and invite him to stay, but keep underwear or pyjamas on. Then if she's interested, tell her to snuggle into him. If he likes her back he'll probably take it from there. And I don't see how it's even possible he doesn't at least fancy her and want sex.
jbelle6 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I think he likes her. When you don't like someone you don't allow them to sleep in a bed with you naked! I had a male friend stay over a few months ago when he and I were both single as he was in a bad situation and needed a place to stay (and shared house so sofa outta the question), I made it clear beforehand it was just as friends, made a joke about not trying anything on, wore SO many pyjamas it was from a roll up around my neck down to thick fluffy socks and kept as far to my side of the bed as possible. And it was still weird. On the other hand when I've liked someone I've invited them to share a bed before, and they've agreed but not really gotten the message that I'm into them so I've had to make the first move with a bit of snuggling, usually once someone has the green light and isn't afraid of wrecking the friendship by making a potentially awkward and unwanted move they are a lot more affectionate. He sounds awkward, but maybe that's not unusual with the social loner thing. If she likes him, tell her to hang out with him again and invite him to stay, but keep underwear or pyjamas on. Then if she's interested, tell her to snuggle into him. If he likes her back he'll probably take it from there. And I don't see how it's even possible he doesn't at least fancy her and want sex. LULZ, he can despise you and still want to put his P in your V and hate F you. These forums are REALLY making me finally understand how those guys who follow PUA's manage to bag ladies.
DArtagnan2 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 LULZ, he can despise you and still want to put his P in your V and hate F you. These forums are REALLY making me finally understand how those guys who follow PUA's manage to bag ladies. what does PUA mean?
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