I need to get rid of my boring boyfriend

[Sweetheartt]

UGHH he's boring me now! I'm serious about this. We've been dating since the beginning of the school year but now I'm so SICK OF HIM!

 

In case u guys wanna know why its because he's gotten so clingy since we had SEX! All of a ****ing sudden he loves me now & he keeps checking up on me & he wont go away.

 

I lost interest in him after sex because he hardly did anything so Idk why he feels so ****ing hot for me? IMHO I shouldn't gone out with him but he was so cool at first but now....just UGGHHH! Been going NC for 5 days so far.

 

TBH I'm kinda talking to this cute bartender that works in Bridgeport where I go sometimes with my friend & cousin. Idk if I wanna date him but I do wanna mess with him & he gets me free drinks so I know he's into ME!

 

But how do I get rid of this guy I'm with? My friend thinks I should just go pazzesco on his ass & be done LOL. But my cousin think I'm being a bitch in dropping him. I'm thinking **** it.

[Eivuwan]

Why don't you just tell him you want to break up? This is so strange.

[Itspointless]

Apparently you are very young as you sound immature to me. So you lost your interest after the sex, yes that can happen. I guess you weren't that interest in him than as a person. Perhaps the guy had little experience or you were his first? I do not understand why you did not talk with him about what you liked in bed.

 

About breaking of with him, do it in a decent way, break up face to face. As for that bartender, I guess you are the next one to be played.

[marcjb]

UGHH he's boring me now! I'm serious about this. We've been dating since the beginning of the school year but now I'm so SICK OF HIM!

 

In case u guys wanna know why its because he's gotten so clingy since we had SEX! All of a ****ing sudden he loves me now & he keeps checking up on me & he wont go away.

 

I lost interest in him after sex because he hardly did anything so Idk why he feels so ****ing hot for me? IMHO I shouldn't gone out with him but he was so cool at first but now....just UGGHHH! Been going NC for 5 days so far.

 

TBH I'm kinda talking to this cute bartender that works in Bridgeport where I go sometimes with my friend & cousin. Idk if I wanna date him but I do wanna mess with him & he gets me free drinks so I know he's into ME!

 

But how do I get rid of this guy I'm with? My friend thinks I should just go pazzesco on his ass & be done LOL. But my cousin think I'm being a bitch in dropping him. I'm thinking **** it.

I feel sorry for this guy, you sound pretty shallow and superficial.

[BradJacobs]

Tell him that you want to mess around with the bartender.

 

That should do it for most men.

[Sweetheartt]

Apparently you are very young as you sound immature to me. So you lost your interest after the sex, yes that can happen. I guess you weren't that interest in him than as a person. Perhaps the guy had little experience or you were his first? I do not understand why you did not talk with him about what you liked in bed.

 

About breaking of with him, do it in a decent way, break up face to face. As for that bartender, I guess you are the next one to be played.

 

 

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

Why should I have to explain to him about what I like? IMO he should do what's good for both of us. He did ok in other stuff but his libidos weak LOL.

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

[Potz4prez]

I feel sorry for this guy, you sound pretty shallow and superficial.

 

Location: Connecticut.

[sillybint]

Wow, you sound like a real lady, NOT.

 

Jeez, just put the guy out of his misery and BE NICE about it. You sound like a frickin 12 year old right now.

[marcjb]

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

Why should I have to explain to him about what I like? IMO he should do what's good for both of us. He did ok in other stuff but his libidos weak LOL.

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

 

You are immature because you don't even know how to communicate with someone that you just had sex with. You rely on playing games and "hints".

[Zahara]

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

Immature is going NC on a guy without being fortright in your intent to end contact with him due to your disinterest. It strikes me that you have not been upfront with him because you like him chasing you -- it gives you a huge ego boost, you love the attention of having someone fall at your feet, how great you feel that he's so enamored by you -- that is why you are leaving him in the dark with NC.

 

There's nothing mature about how you are treating this guy. The kind and mature thing to do would be to tell him it isn't working out and let him go, instead of letting him pine, worry and chase you.

 

It's cruel and unkind.

Edited June 11, 2014 by Zahara

[clia]

UGHH he's boring me now! I'm serious about this. We've been dating since the beginning of the school year but now I'm so SICK OF HIM!

 

You've been dating him since last August/September and you just poofed on him? Wow. I hate to tell you, but it is "stringing him all over" just to disappear without a word given the length of time you've been together. My guess is that he contacted your cousin because he was worried about you.

 

Just tell him you want to break up. What is the big deal?

[Michelle ma Belle]

Sorry sweetie but reading your initial post had me cringing all the way through it.

 

I agree with everyone on here who are telling you that you are being extremely immature and quite frankly you sound like a spoiled brat.

 

You don't want to date him? Then let him know you don't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend anymore. Simple. No one is holding a gun to your head to be with this guy for heaven's sake BUT there IS a respectful and mature way to handle this and then there is YOUR way.

 

Going NC with your BOYFRIEND is just insanely cold and heartless.

 

In the end, I suspect you'll end up choosing the path of least resistance regardless of the great advise given to you which is unanimous by the way but whatever...

 

Just remember one thing...Karma is a bitch and she's got your address.

 

Good luck.

[giblesp]

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

 

To be honest you're the one who is lame. You're a bullet to be dodged. Dump him, you'd be like totally OMG doing him a favor.

[somedude81]

And the award for most inappropriate forum name goes to Sweetheartt.

 

Breaking up with your boyfriend by ignoring him is the most immature thing you can possibly do.

 

How would you feel if you were dating a guy that you were in love with, and he suddenly decided to stop talking to you?

[preraph]

Easy. If you don't want to be with him anymore, break up with him. Don't be nasty about it and hurt his feelings. Just tell him you need to move on and just aren't that into the relationship.

 

As for knowing the bartender likes you because he gives you free drinks, reality alert: Bartenders comp young women free drinks who they think will be picking up a lot of guys so there will be plenty of girls for their male customers to sleep with.

[Sweetheartt]

Immature is going NC on a guy without being fortright in your intent to end contact with him due to your disinterest. It strikes me that you have not been upfront with him because you like him chasing you -- it gives you a huge ego boost, you love the attention of having someone fall at your feet, how great you feel that he's so enamored by you -- that is why you are leaving him in the dark with NC.

 

There's nothing mature about how you are treating this guy. The kind and mature thing to do would be to tell him it isn't working out and let him go, instead of letting him pine, worry and chase you.

 

It's cruel and unkind.

 

 

Ok ok ok damn! I'm going NC on him because I let a guy down nicely in the past & he couldn't stop asking me why why why & I HATE that ****!

 

 

Guys never just go away. They just don't do it & I don't know why. Least not w/ me anyways. The last guy I dated before him kept trying so hard to convince me that I was making a mistake. I HATE THAT! How am I making a mistake if I don't wanna keep dating U! I'm just saying.

 

 

@macrjb, If u wanna think I'm playing games fine then w/e but I know its gonna end stupidly with him getting on my nerves & he knows I gonna go ape **** on his ass if he starts WHINING. I'm trying to be nice here.

 

 

He hasn't called me today so maybe he'll go away. There's other girls so maybe he'll try someone else IDC.

[beach]

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

Why should I have to explain to him about what I like? IMO he should do what's good for both of us. He did ok in other stuff but his libidos weak LOL.

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

 

Have a conversation with him! Sheez, it's not asking too much to communicate directly with him - and be honest.

 

Ignoring him now is just being cruel.

 

Be mature enough to talk about it. Show some compassion. The guy has feelings too. He deserves your explanation.

[stillafool]

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

Why should I have to explain to him about what I like? IMO he should do what's good for both of us. He did ok in other stuff but his libidos weak LOL.

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

 

Why should he take a hint or how does he even know it's a hint? He is not a mind reader. Yes you are very immature because if you were a mature person you would tell him the relationship is not working for you anymore and you want to stop seeing him. Simple as that. I agree with others - please break up with him so he can get a better girl.

[d0nnivain]

You are allowed to stop liking & or dating someone. Your post comes across as very crass & unfeeling however.

 

 

Be mature & break up with your BF by telling him that you no longer want to date him. The nice polite thing to do is let him down gently. How would you feel if somebody you liked just disappeared on you after sex? You'd be on here screaming that he's a no-good player. Don't inflict that level of doubt on this person you used to care about. Just end it cleanly, then move on to whomever you chose.

[Zahara]

Ok ok ok damn! I'm going NC on him because I let a guy down nicely in the past & he couldn't stop asking me why why why & I HATE that ****!

 

It doesn't matter how they behave after you have expressed your need to end it. What's important that you do your part in treating the relationship and your boyfriend with respect by communicating your decision, the rest then has nothing to do with you. If you don't want to be bombarded, then block their number. In time they will accept it and move on.

 

Guys never just go away. They just don't do it & I don't know why. Least not w/ me anyways. The last guy I dated before him kept trying so hard to convince me that I was making a mistake. I HATE THAT! How am I making a mistake if I don't wanna keep dating U! I'm just saying.;

 

What you are doing now isn't making him go away either. Why not do the right thing by letting him know, that way you are in no way responsible anymore for his behavior. When people are hurt and emotional, they will beg and plead. It's common. The best you can do is block them, and you will be then doing them a favor by ignoring further contact.

 

I'm trying to be nice here.

 

You're not being nice. Ignoring someone that you are in a relationship with is cruel and unkind. Accept that he may whine and beg when you end it with him, but you can avoid that by blocking him.

 

He hasn't called me today so maybe he'll go away. There's other girls so maybe he'll try someone else IDC.

 

OP, there's going to come a day when you fall hopelessly in love with a man, and god forbid he ignores you because he doesn't want to deal with the fallout -- you'll look back and understand how painful and hurtful it is to have someone treat you that way. It will always come back to haunt you. Treat others as how you would like them to treat you.

[beach]

Why aren't you willing to be decent by talking with him about ending it?

[giblesp]

 

 

Guys never just go away. They just don't do it & I don't know why.

 

 

I speak for many men when I say, I wouldn't be there in the first place.

[Glinda.Good]

But how do I get rid of this guy I'm with?

 

Text or call him, ask him to meet you for coffee, and when you meet IN PERSON, tell him that you no longer feel like this relationship is working for you, you do not think the two of you are compatible, and you want to break up. You are interested in dating others.

 

Then say something kind to him and "good bye."

 

Isn't that simple?

[Zahara]

Why aren't you willing to be decent by talking with him about ending it?

 

"I'm going NC on him because I let a guy down nicely in the past & he couldn't stop asking me why why why & I HATE that ****!

 

Guys never just go away. They just don't do it & I don't know why. Least not w/ me anyways. The last guy I dated before him kept trying so hard to convince me that I was making a mistake. I HATE THAT! How am I making a mistake if I don't wanna keep dating U! I'm just saying."

 

All that can be avoided by making a clean break and removing him from communication. Me thinks it could be one or all of these reasons as to why she won't give him the decency of a proper break-up -- 1) ego boost 2) coward 3) mean.

[normal person]

Losing interest in a guy because he's changed doesn't make me immature. I don't feel like stringing him all over so I went NC on him but he's not getting the hint. He thinks my phone is dead because he called my cousin.

 

You're right, losing interest in a guy doesn't make you immature. However abruptly cutting off all contact with him, denying him an explanation, any sort of closure, and laughing about it most certainly does make you immature.

 

 

@marcjb, If u wanna think I'm superficial w/e but its not my fault if he's boring me now. He doesn't even DRINK! How lame is that?

 

So break up with him if he's so supposedly boring and horrible. It isn't your fault if you think he's boring now but the way you're handling it is a huge fault of its own. The answer is pretty simple.

 

Location: Connecticut.

 

Funny. Being from Connecticut myself I can assure you that you can find shallow, superficial people in any other state too. This girl even said she went out in Bridgeport which is frequently considered one of the most downtrodden, dangerous cities in America. Hardly the blue-blooded croquet court I'm sure you're imagining.