NYC-BigKat Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 Ok ok ok damn! I'm going NC on him because I let a guy down nicely in the past & he couldn't stop asking me why why why & I HATE that ****! Guys never just go away. They just don't do it & I don't know why. Least not w/ me anyways. The last guy I dated before him kept trying so hard to convince me that I was making a mistake. I HATE THAT! How am I making a mistake if I don't wanna keep dating U! I'm just saying. @macrjb, If u wanna think I'm playing games fine then w/e but I know its gonna end stupidly with him getting on my nerves & he knows I gonna go ape **** on his ass if he starts WHINING. I'm trying to be nice here. He hasn't called me today so maybe he'll go away. There's other girls so maybe he'll try someone else IDC. This is what I always mean about how girls just don't appreciate when a guy is nice to them & wants to spend time with them. They get bored & blame us for why they don't wanna be with us anymore . Its so so wrong & u act like u doing him a favor by ignoring his calls. When u get older & having lots of trouble finding a husband u will know how it felt watch & wait. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 Yikes. One day, when you get pumped and dumped by the guy of your dreams, you'll understand. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetheartt Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 Have a conversation with him! Sheez, it's not asking too much to communicate directly with him - and be honest. Ignoring him now is just being cruel. Be mature enough to talk about it. Show some compassion. The guy has feelings too. He deserves your explanation. I saw him & he beeped at me while he drove pass me so we talked & I told him I needed to be alone & its not his fault so there I let him down nicely & guess what??? HE STARTED WHINING! I knew he was gonna do this stupid ****. I knew it I knew it I knew it! Now he's all up my ass texting me & trying to convince me that we could work things out when we cant! I tried to be nice now he's forcing me to turn into a BITCH. Going NC 4ever now. Link to post Share on other sites
Hoosfoos Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Losing you will be the best thing that ever happened to him. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) No, you quit whining and making it into such a big deal. If it's such a big deal, block his number and move on. Grow up. You act like it's such a burden to be chased and wanted..poor you. In actual fact it seems you like the attention and your boastfulness is very apparent and indicative of your character. Block him and go NC. It's not that difficult. The only one that's whining and making a stink is you. The man is just hurt and feeling rejected. It's normal behavior. Yours, isn't. Edited June 12, 2014 by Zahara 2 Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Tell him that you want to mess around with the bartender. That should do it for most men. Lol! Love your answer Brad! Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron005 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 When things get boring is when the real relationship begins. It might be a good idea to read others' posts here in the breakup section, they can be informative and enlightening. Over time you do learn that people's feelings are not just things you toss around to chase that next excitement, that next thrill. They hold much deeper meaning and should be handled with care. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweetheartt Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) No, you quit whining and making it into such a big deal. If it's such a big deal, block his number and move on. What did I just say?? Aren't u a NASTY JERK! If u don't like me don't read my threads. Problem solved. I did the best I could by saying its not him its me so he doesn't think he did something wrong. He still thinks he did something & he thinks I'm depressed over something. He's got no clue. It doesn't matter anyway. He's the one that changed NOT ME FYI. I was always like this & he wanted me. He used to be fun, go joyriding & all that good stuff but then he became clingy & boring & predictable. I had the right to end it but people in here putting me down for it. W/E! I'm still young why should I stick with guys like that? I know what I want & its not him anymore. Staying NC! Edited June 12, 2014 by Sweetheartt error Link to post Share on other sites
sooshi Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) And a guy who doesn't drink is LAME? Personally, I think that abstinence from alcohol is really attractive. Never drank in my life. I must be really, really, REALLY lame and boring! Well, have fun being young and reckless, and heartless. You're very likely going to get really hurt eventually if you continue with this lifestyle. Edited June 12, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 5 Link to post Share on other sites
sly_fly1 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 aha just dump him. if he wants a relationship with a real woman let him go do better. you are still immature and if you are thinking about jumping on another guy think again. if your bf is boring you and clingy, talk to him about it. get him to give you space, if you just move on to the next everytime. you will never learn how to make a relationship work, if you can leave him so easily, then you never really liked or loved him in the first place. and he would be better off not waisting his time 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 You have every right to not want to be with him. However, when he wakes up and realizes who you are, cuts you off and starts dating other women who are hotter, smarter, and better then you, I can see you getting so jealous after the a few guys use you and throw you to the curb. Then you can look back at how horrible of a person you were with him. The least you could have done is handled this situation with a little bit more class and respect to someone who loves you. But I get it, you think you are entitled and nothing bad will come back around to you. I seriously hope you never put another guy through this and that this never happens to you either. No one deserves to be treated like a piece of trash like this. I would do things right, politely and with class. Live life how you want it...but remember that the past doesn't always go away. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
marcjb Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 But I get it, you think you are entitled and nothing bad will come back around to you. I seriously hope you never put another guy through this and that this never happens to you either. No one deserves to be treated like a piece of trash like this. I would do things right, politely and with class. Live life how you want it...but remember that the past doesn't always go away. Karma is going to have its way with her in about 10 years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Wow. After everything I read, all I have to say is this guy is so lucky that he doesn't have someone like you in his life anymore. He deserves a real woman in his life I'm sure and not a girl like you. So everyone who doesn't go to bars, parties, and drinks is automatically labeled as lame? I mean, are you even serious? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun-Dro Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 What did I just say?? Aren't u a NASTY JERK! If u don't like me don't read my threads. Problem solved. I did the best I could by saying its not him its me so he doesn't think he did something wrong. He still thinks he did something & he thinks I'm depressed over something. He's got no clue. It doesn't matter anyway. He's the one that changed NOT ME FYI. I was always like this & he wanted me. He used to be fun, go joyriding & all that good stuff but then he became clingy & boring & predictable. I had the right to end it but people in here putting me down for it. W/E! I'm still young why should I stick with guys like that? I know what I want & its not him anymore. Staying NC! So you want to party it up with a lowlife bartender that gets you free drinks instead of sitting down and evaluating your relationship with your boyfriend who happens to have your best interest at heart? I understand that you're young but this selfishness really speaks volumes about your character. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
April Moon Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 This thread need to be read by the people who always talk about the dumper having feeling and not being cold and heartless. No, they are not all bad. However, some are and here is proof.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 I would like to say this post and poster are fake and putting on an act, but there are really a lot of spoiled brats like this in the world. If karma is a real thing, this poster will have a pretty rocky romantic history. Just a total lack of class and maturity. It's all right to dump people. It's not all right to be cruel and go NC on them without dumping them. Maybe the OP will realize it once she's been tossed in the scrap heap a couple of times, which is bound to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Um... OP... I think it's quite common knowledge amongst men that women dont want to be treated as sluts and ho-bags and are fearful that once a guy lands them in the sack they are afraid that they will move on and go NC. You on the other hand seem to want him to do so. Read between the lines. Hes trying to be a stand up guy and not treat you like a ho. The bartender will. Pick your choice. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) What did I just say?? Aren't u a NASTY JERK! If u don't like me don't read my threads. Problem solved. I'm still young why should I stick with guys like that? I know what I want & its not him anymore. Staying NC! Sweetheart, the nastiness is well presented on your part, a fact supported by the majority that has read your posts. You present yourself poorly, lacking maturity and compassion in how you treat others. I'm a nasty jerk because you hate hearing the truth in how bad you handle yourself. You should never stick to a guy that isn't making you happy. But that doesn't mean you should treat them poorly. That's the point you seem to be unable to grasp. The basic concept of dealing and understanding human emotions. He's hurt and rejected. Probably likes you a lot. His reaction is normal. Yours is egotistical and mean. You come off entitled, self-absorbed and grandiose and there's nothing classy or attractive in the way you've behaved with this guy and the way you've presented yourself on here. Grow up. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. Most importantly, foster empathy, humility and compassion. Edited June 12, 2014 by Zahara 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) Hi Sweetheartt, I just wonder, have you ever been dumped? (Writing your name feels like I am writing to a girlfriend ...). Edited June 12, 2014 by Itspointless Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) I sincerely hope this is all BS just to get us riled up but if it's not, as a parent, it makes me wonder what kind of upbringing the OP had that would have taught her that her behavior was even remotely acceptable. I can't imagine you're making your mama proud by the way you conduct yourself. Shame. Edited June 12, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Sorry folks! OP probably isn't coming back. People are calling her out on her bad behavior and she's proven she runs from conflict. I just take solace in the fact that one day she's going to meet a guy that is going to rock her world and she's going to fall head over heels for him and he's going cheat on her, treat her like sh*t and dump her. THEN, hopefully, she'll open her eyes to her own behavior and understand the kind of pain she inflicts on guys. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Well, that was 20 minutes of my life I'd like to get back. Members, you can post anything you wish but the arbiters of the sandbox control the content and your privilege of posting here. Expect, if using the word 'troll' on-forum, to be sanctioned, moderated or banned. Use it in a private report to moderation, thanks! After pruning nearly half the thread of guideline violations and reducing the membership a bit, I'll consider this thread to have served its purpose and thank those who posted within our guidelines for their participation! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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