cosmonerd21 Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Ok so today is officially one week of no contact with my ex and i have to admit I've gone through every emotion known to the human race. But I'm feeling much better. My ex decided that after two years of dating he no longer wanted to be with me and wanted to date and be free.i was shocked and totally blinded sided about the whole thing. But i decided that if that's what he wanted to do it was fine i wasn't going to beg him to be with me.so after that night i completely dropped off the face of the earth to him no Facebook, no texts, no calling no email.but that still doesn't keep me from missing him. Am i crazy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
marcjb Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Am i crazy? Of course not! You are experiencing extremely valid emotions that just about everyone goes through, especially for being blindsided. It also sounds like you did the right thing not begging once he dropped that bomb on you. Just stick with it, don't fall for any breadcrumbs that he might give you. The only thing you should reply to is if he specifically says he wants you back, and that is only if you actually want him back. Always remember YOUR value. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted June 12, 2014 Author Share Posted June 12, 2014 thank you so much its just hard to not love that person you dedicated two years of your life to just for them to leave you for somebody else. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
marcjb Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Just know that so many of us here know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately, once someone does this to you, there is nothing you can really do besides let them go. My ex fiancé did this to me six months ago, except she wasn't as sure as your parter. We ended up taking a break for a week or so, and I made the mistake of being too eager and accommodating for her. At the time she had me convinced that it was pretty much my fault that she felt the way she did, but now I realize that I should not have gone back to her until she admitted her faults as well and truly came back to me. We were together until the end of April, when I could just not deal with all of the red flags, and she would not compromise on anything. You're welcome to read the full story in my previous posts if you like. Anyway, I'm sure others will chime in. Again, you are doing great so far. Post here instead of contacting him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted June 20, 2014 Author Share Posted June 20, 2014 OK so its been roughly two weeks and he's messaged me twice!!! but I've held strong and didn't reply to any of his messages even though it was tough.these two weeks have given me so much clearance on my emotions and the way i feel about things.i love him but hes not the one. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted July 1, 2014 Author Share Posted July 1, 2014 Well last night he contacted me once again and i still held strong even though im a few days shy of making a month.his texts are so casual like nothing ever happen between us. idk if the reality of situation has dawned on him yet but im sticking to my guns. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
AnneT1985 Posted July 2, 2014 Share Posted July 2, 2014 rock on! good for you xx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted July 4, 2014 Author Share Posted July 4, 2014 Today is officially one month no contact yes i still think of him but not like i did four weeks ago.Everyday things get easier with time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted July 14, 2014 Author Share Posted July 14, 2014 One month and fourteen days no contact... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jphcbpa Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 awesome! I did the same thing as you when my ex ended it. I did not beg and just left. going on 7 months 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TXGuy Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Congrats. You have gotten through the hard part. But can you block him on your phone? The most recent version of iOS finally allows that. It might minimize the chance that he catches you in a weak moment. Good for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WTF000 Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 One month and fourteen days no contact... Very, very, very proud of you and happy for you ! Way to go ! Glad it is all working out. Your ex did you a favor by leaving you, didn't he ? Maybe he will realize what he gave up soon. "Revenge" is sweet, even if you don't intend to play one-upmanship games with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted July 15, 2014 Author Share Posted July 15, 2014 I have to much respect for myself to beg someone to be with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted July 23, 2014 Author Share Posted July 23, 2014 First date with a new guy tonight since breakup!!!..Few days shy of two months no contact. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted August 5, 2014 Author Share Posted August 5, 2014 Today is Officially two months of no contact and things couldn't be better I've started dating a new guy,I have a job interview tomorrow and I'm Starting school again all this free time and healing time has really paid off.I'm back to the person i was before we dated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aprilisi Posted August 5, 2014 Share Posted August 5, 2014 almost 4 months here. The hardest part was runnning into him when I was on a date. He went in for a friggin hug and all the feelings came rushing back. But we must hang strong! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted August 6, 2014 Author Share Posted August 6, 2014 I haven't ran into him yet but i know it's coming eventually since we live close. But i will remain strong. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted August 19, 2014 Author Share Posted August 19, 2014 I'm a few weeks shy of three months no contact and Iv'e been thinking of him a lot lately,I haven't heard from him and the texts have stopped.i can't lie i miss him but i can't reach out for fear of messing things up more.Does this get easier with time?Any tips? Link to post Share on other sites
Always Pondering Posted August 20, 2014 Share Posted August 20, 2014 I'm a few weeks shy of three months no contact and Iv'e been thinking of him a lot lately,I haven't heard from him and the texts have stopped.i can't lie i miss him but i can't reach out for fear of messing things up more.Does this get easier with time?Any tips? Yes it does get easier with time and acceptance. Much easier. When you have the cravings for breaking no-contact, try to spend time with a friend or distract yourself (through working out, etc). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted August 20, 2014 Author Share Posted August 20, 2014 Well that's the thing I deleted all ways and forms of contacting him so that times like this i wouldn't Mess up by possibly contacting him.So even if i really wanted to I can't he would have to text me first. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Share Posted August 29, 2014 Another bad day of thinking of him.....Some days are easier and others..I can't wait to be over this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted September 4, 2014 Author Share Posted September 4, 2014 i bet this time of night you're still up. I bet you're tired from a long hard week. I bet you're sitting in your chair by the window looking out at the city. And I bet sometimes you wonder about me. And I just wanna tell you It takes everything in me not to call you. And I wish I could run to you. And I hope you know that every time I don't I almost do, I almost do. I bet you think I either moved on or hate you 'Cause each time you reach out there's no reply. I bet it never ever occurred to you that I can't say "Hello" to you And risk another goodbye. And I just wanna tell you It takes everything in me not to call you. And I wish I could run to you. And I hope you know that every time I don't I almost do, I almost do. Oh, we made quite a mess, babe. It's probably better off this way. And I confess, babe, In my dreams you're touching my face And asking me if I wanna try again with you. And I almost do. And I just wanna tell you It takes everything in me not to call you. And I wish I could run to you. And I hope you know that every time I don't I almost do, I almost do. I bet this time of night you're still up. I bet you're tired from a long hard week. I bet you're sitting in your chair by the window looking out at the city. And I hope sometimes you wonder about me. -Taylor swift Everything i feel right now is in this song. Link to post Share on other sites
Apaige Posted September 5, 2014 Share Posted September 5, 2014 I really wish I could have been as strong as you!! : ( you did great, and keep up the good work!! I was to blame for our break up, I came out of a very bad divorce when I met my ex. I caved, I begged, ( well sort of) it only confused me more!! He told me that he loved me, and missed me, and I just melted, and fell for it! And then I just stopped. I stopped responding, and he came back with open arms! He told me that he missed me, and that I was an amazing person....we've since seen each other a few times, it's very different now, but I am still so confused! Keep doing what you're doing, don't get caught up like me! Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted September 8, 2014 Share Posted September 8, 2014 ur only missing him cos he dumped you. if you dumped him he wouldnt be feeling like this. its ur ego thats hurting nothing else. we guys feel the same as you wen we get rejected or dumped but 99 percent of the time the girl doesnt even care about us haha. thats life Link to post Share on other sites
Author cosmonerd21 Posted September 8, 2014 Author Share Posted September 8, 2014 No ego here just hurt that this guy i gave my everything to for almost two years left me for somebody else.That's a big slap in the face no matter the sex...Being left hurts.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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