Hubby likes a certain web cam site

[Guest]

I know, yet another porn thread. Believe me I have read probably most of them on this board.

 

Here's my situation: Husband is into webcams. He watches it whenever I am not at home or have gone to bed. We have a very active sex life. As a matter of fact, I want it ALOT more than him. He said the other day that a slight breeze gets me in the mood. We watch whatever type of porn he wants, he will occasionally turn on the web cam girls, but eventually we move on to more movie types.

 

I asked him the other day if he had gone to this particular site he likes the night before and he lied. I found out he had gone to it the next day while I ran to the store and he was watching our daughter. I was gone maybe an hour. He has come home in the middle of the day, from work, when I have taken our daughter to the doctor and turned on this same site.

 

I have asked him if he chats with them or if puts himself up there. "No" was the answer to both questions.

 

So guys, what is the deal with usually really bad quality topless to nude chicks sitting in front of computer? I am beginning to think he has a "thing" for one of these girls.

 

Yes, I am checking up on him, but this is really getting to me. I really feel like he is almost cheating on me. My trust is waning and my heat is breaking on this Valentine's Day from hell.

[Bubbles]

Kick him in the ASS and remind him of WHO sleeps in his bed every night.

 

Ask him if he would like to loose that bed? If the answer is no?.........then you tell him that he is to STOP LYING to you.

 

It's the simple fact that he is doing something "Bad" and getting away with it. He's infactuated with Internet Pornography like most men become. It's free and it's available so why should'nt he look?

 

Their Mother's would NEVER allow something like this in HER house.......because you are his wife it should be any difference?

 

You tell him that he is lacking in the Respect department and to stop his lying. If he needs to see naked women you tell him that you are more than willing at ANY time to comply with this request.

 

good luck honey.........be STRONG!!!

 

 

bubbles

[classy]

The Wrong approach is to go in with guns blazing. To not allow him to look at those cams only adds to his excitement.

 

In most cases men go for the webcam sites because they think they are going to have a dirty girlfriend that will do what ever they wish at any time. What they come to find out is none of these girls work for free and if perv-hubby is going to get anything exciting out of her he will have to pay.

 

The attraction for your husband is the tease. These girls are good at that.

 

 

I know that the wrong thing to do is say - You need to be sexier - Not TRUE. But one thing you could do is gather some information about the website he is visiting and make some small adjustments.

 

 

Your husband loves you, but never forget that he is a man and will always want something new and exciting when it comes to sex.

 

Have you ever thought of watching the cam with him? You may not enjoy it, but it will open communication between you and him on common ground. Instead of fighting over it. Use this tactic to find out why he likes her.

 

The one thing that the cam girl can not do for him is touch him. Remember that.

[mymojo]

Originally posted by classy

The Wrong approach is to go in with guns blazing. To not allow him to look at those cams only adds to his excitement.

 

In most cases men go for the webcam sites because they think they are going to have a dirty girlfriend that will do what ever they wish at any time. What they come to find out is none of these girls work for free and if perv-hubby is going to get anything exciting out of her he will have to pay.

 

The attraction for your husband is the tease. These girls are good at that.

 

 

I know that the wrong thing to do is say - You need to be sexier - Not TRUE. But one thing you could do is gather some information about the website he is visiting and make some small adjustments.

 

 

Your husband loves you, but never forget that he is a man and will always want something new and exciting when it comes to sex.

 

Have you ever thought of watching the cam with him? You may not enjoy it, but it will open communication between you and him on common ground. Instead of fighting over it. Use this tactic to find out why he likes her.

 

The one thing that the cam girl can not do for him is touch him. Remember that.

 

Ah yes,there's nothing more exciting than having your husband come in and wake you to service him after he's been viewing porn,there's nothing quite as wonderful as being somebody's cum rag.

 

 

How about this then,let him play with his cam girls and then he can spend some time trying to figure out why we could care less if we ever have sex with him again ?

[joeymas]

That is not really what was said... I think the point here is learn more about your partner and instead of fighting the situation, use it to turn things in your favor.

 

Some people wake up every morning to pick battles and teach lessons. It is a very unhappy way to live. People won't change. They can suppress, hide and even lie but they have built in behavior that has been structured by events that have taken place their whole lives.

 

If a husband or wife can become the object of their spouse's fantasies they take away the need for that spouse to search outside the marriage. Thus: problem solved.

 

And please do not use terms like "cum rag" I find it very offensive.

[mymojo]

Originally posted by joeymas

That is not really what was said... I think the point here is learn more about your partner and instead of fighting the situation, use it to turn things in your favor.

 

Some people wake up every morning to pick battles and teach lessons. It is a very unhappy way to live. People won't change. They can suppress, hide and even lie but they have built in behavior that has been structured by events that have taken place their whole lives.

 

If a husband or wife can become the object of their spouse's fantasies they take away the need for that spouse to search outside the marriage. Thus: problem solved.

 

And please do not use terms like "cum rag" I find it very offensive.

 

Why ? does the truth bother you ? when somebody comes to you after they've excited themselves viewing porn and expects you to relieve them without much if any actual interaction with you, then you are in fact a cum rag.

 

I believe in not mincing words, as far as the rest goes, I tire of the notion that it's entirely my responsibility to bend over backwards to accomodate, to express gratitude for sex as if I was some second rate human being and a man is doing me some sort of favor.

 

If he gets his stiffie in front of his computer monitor he can also take care of it there, I don't wanna watch web cam girls, I don't wanna lay there while he screws me whispering in my ear about the hot chickie he wishes he was boning, in short, I'm not that hard up,if he wants to get his sexual satisfaction elsewhere he's more than welcome to do so..

[joeymas]

You are focusing on the wrong part of the story for some reason.

 

If you consider learning about your partner and finding out what drives him sexually "bending over backwards" It would seem that you will be spending many nights alone.

 

Forget webcams. It does not matter what he is looking at. You have the power to make him never need to turn the PC on.

 

You can't tell me your pissed that he looks at other women and in the same message tell me you won't do anything extra to attract him to you.

 

NO, you can't look at them, and I won't do anything on my part either... (good luck with that)

 

My wife and I date once a week. No matter where we are going, she goes out of her way to look hot for me. I dress as well. Sometime we just go get ice cream, other times maybe dinner and a movie. You know... sometimes we stay home

 

I look forward to that night every week.

 

Face it, the blue sweat pants with the white stripes are just not sexy.

 

 

And no, the term "c** rag" will never be acceptable to me to describe something as soft and wonderful as a a man's wife. Never. It's a disgrace. By using it you show a lack of respect for yourself and others that have to read it. I am in the "adult" industry and still find it offensive because it is out of context in this forum.

[mymojo]

Originally posted by joeymas

You are focusing on the wrong part of the story for some reason.

 

If you consider learning about your partner and finding out what drives him sexually "bending over backwards" It would seem that you will be spending many nights alone.

 

Forget webcams. It does not matter what he is looking at. You have the power to make him never need to turn the PC on.

 

You can't tell me your pissed that he looks at other women and in the same message tell me you won't do anything extra to attract him to you.

 

NO, you can't look at them, and I won't do anything on my part either... (good luck with that)

 

My wife and I date once a week. No matter where we are going, she goes out of her way to look hot for me. I dress as well. Sometime we just go get ice cream, other times maybe dinner and a movie. You know... sometimes we stay home

 

I look forward to that night every week.

 

Face it, the blue sweat pants with the white stripes are just not sexy.

 

 

And no, the term "c** rag" will never be acceptable to me to describe something as soft and wonderful as a a man's wife. Never. It's a disgrace. By using it you show a lack of respect for yourself and others that have to read it. I am in the "adult" industry and still find it offensive because it is out of context in this forum.

 

When a man who hasn't spoken to you all evening enters your bed with an erection and proceeds to satisfy himself with you while thinking of the porn model he was just viewing... you are not a soft and wonderful wife, you are a convient cum rag plain and simple ,sorry I'm not going to sugar coat the truth !

 

 

Btw, I am slim and trim and reasonably well dressed,no nasty fat rolls hanging above stained sweat pants here I'd love to have some plastic surgery,I'd also like to have the money to go out places, unfortunately I'm the only one here working and my earnings support him fully... how much further should I bend do you think?

 

 

I have never told him what he can/cannot look at, what I have told him is that I feel used and disrespected when he comes into our bedroom after being visually stimulated by porn and proceeds to awaken me for sex that has absoultely nothing to do with me or in meeting any of my needs and basically involves him using me as a blowup doll when he furiously pumps away imaging he's screwing somebody else.

[Bubbles]

I DARE you to get on the computer this week-end and pull up some pictures of naked men and pleasure yourself with him sitting only feet away.

 

It will send him over the edge. One of two things will happen. Either he will be totally turned on and excited because he has NEVER seen this side of you..........or he will be challenged and possibly will experience all of the negative emotions that you feel.

 

My guess? He'll feel what you feel. Don't let him fool you.........men get more jealous than we do - expecially if the guy has a big winkie!!!

 

 

bubbles