ExpatInItaly Posted August 28, 2014 Share Posted August 28, 2014 Yes, he probably is. I could count around 20 women or more in this 2 years. I was one of them. He always have someone, two or three. Just make this equation: handsome guy+nice and sweet+always telling the story about his bitchy ex+ 5 different dating sites he daily visits= women and more women. He has several exes on Facebook. Plus new friends he adds all the time. He has friends on Adult Friend finder, POF, Ashley Madison, Meetme, Fling....and who knows where else. And eh always told me he had feelings for me. I don't honestly understand how he made time to reply to my texts. And we texted all the time when we were "together". He cancelled on me. Yes. He lied to me. I suppose, yes. Feeling really sad tonight. It's been 4 months since I last seen him, since I last kissed him...but still, still heartbroken. Why are you tracking him all over social media? Why do that to yourself? I know you are hurting in a huge way. I do understand how it feels. But you're contributing to the problem by monitoring his online activity. Stop that. Link to post Share on other sites
Natsu21 Posted August 28, 2014 Share Posted August 28, 2014 Why are you tracking him all over social media? Why do that to yourself? I know you are hurting in a huge way. I do understand how it feels. But you're contributing to the problem by monitoring his online activity. Stop that. For the record, Women say all the time that we like decent guys that treat us right. Yet, the simple fact that a lot of them respond to guys like THIS, then cry about where the good guys are, makes them wonder why guys turn into these a-holes? Cause sadly, it seems to be the only way to get these girls attention. You wanna contribute to that, Irresolute, keep doing what you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted August 28, 2014 Author Share Posted August 28, 2014 Why are you tracking him all over social media? Why do that to yourself? I know you are hurting in a huge way. I do understand how it feels. But you're contributing to the problem by monitoring his online activity. Stop that. You're right. I just wonder why he acts the way he does, but I guess he acts randomly because he doesn't give a s.h...it. And there I was, losing my precious time wondering why he seemed interested and then disappeared 3 days later. All right, I'm going no contact and who the he..ll cares about him anymore. His loss. A man who wants to be with you, will make the impossible. If he doesn't contact you it's because he doesn't care and because he's not into you. Horrible, but true. I'll stick to those who love me, indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted August 28, 2014 Author Share Posted August 28, 2014 I know why you're obsessing over him...he's a challenge, he's got tons of girls chasing him and you feel rejected. So what that tons of girls are messaging and want him? Do you think any girl with self worth is going to end up wantintg to be with a guy like that? Stop paying attention to social media...for all you know all the girls messaging him look like trolls and just posted fake photos. I understand that you feel burned, hurt and used. This is all normal and to be expected...but common, you are worth so much more than this loser. You deserve a guy who will drive you crazy in a good way, that will treat you with respect and you'd never worry about him being with other girls behind your back. Stop giving him all this power...he doesn't deserve it. Be happy that things are done with this guy, bc he clearly isn't someone you'd want to raise a family with. yes, I know the only women interested on him are as broken and insecure as I am. No self worth women would be interested in hanging out with that scumbag, for sure. But, easier said than done, I got hooked and Im paying the consequences. Me and who knows how many more miserable souls out there are asking him for breadcrumbs of love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted August 28, 2014 Author Share Posted August 28, 2014 I am not familiar with any of those sites but I do know about Ashley Madison because my cousin's husband cheated on her using that website. Isn't that a site for married people looking for affairs ? If he is single, what is he doing there ? Looking for married women ? Hey, this guy is scum. I am sorry to be so blunt, but if he is looking for married women, then he is looking for sex, not commitment. Plus, does he have a job ? If so, how does he have time to text all the time, that too multiple women ? And if he has a bunch of women on his FB, then doesn't everyone see that as a red flag ? Is he really such a prized catch that women are vying all over for his attention and to get together with him ? I am sorry, irresolute, you deserve better. I am going to tell you the same thing you told me a while ago (and which you were right about) : game over, sweetie, move on. You DESERVE BETTER !!!!! Hang in there. This, too, will pass. Thank you Yes, he has a job and is a good one. Yes, that's a site for married affairs and he's single. He is a troubled guy and he always told me he had issues with commitment as his ex was really bitchy with him, cheated on him and left him broken hearted. Plus his ex is now pregnant, and I do think he's still in love with her. I don't know... He has something addictive, Im not the only one. Many of us think he's a catch. But I'm done with him. I'll let someone else to catch him. As for the texting, yes, he always replied to me. Long ago, he even initiated...wow, I almost don't remember those times anymore. But yes, I guess he grew tired of me as he asked me to remain friends but nothng more and he didn't want to meet since May to July (last time we texted) He can go f...uck himself Link to post Share on other sites
OffRail Posted August 28, 2014 Share Posted August 28, 2014 Thank you Yes, he has a job and is a good one. Yes, that's a site for married affairs and he's single. He is a troubled guy and he always told me he had issues with commitment as his ex was really bitchy with him, cheated on him and left him broken hearted. Plus his ex is now pregnant, and I do think he's still in love with her. I don't know... He has something addictive, Im not the only one. Many of us think he's a catch. But I'm done with him. I'll let someone else to catch him. As for the texting, yes, he always replied to me. Long ago, he even initiated...wow, I almost don't remember those times anymore. But yes, I guess he grew tired of me as he asked me to remain friends but nothng more and he didn't want to meet since May to July (last time we texted) He can go f...uck himself These ass clowns can ALL go and f**k themselves !!!! His ex is pregnant ? It's not his child, is it ? Plus, isn't it amazing how many of these ex-es were seemingly bitchy, evil, etc etc etc, while the ass clowns were just innocent little 'uns thoroughly blind-sided and then run over by evil women ? Yeahhhhhhhhh..... Riiiiiiiiiiiight !!!! Just the fact that he is single but on Ashley Madison .... YUCK. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted August 28, 2014 Author Share Posted August 28, 2014 These ass clowns can ALL go and f**k themselves !!!! His ex is pregnant ? It's not his child, is it ? Plus, isn't it amazing how many of these ex-es were seemingly bitchy, evil, etc etc etc, while the ass clowns were just innocent little 'uns thoroughly blind-sided and then run over by evil women ? Yeahhhhhhhhh..... Riiiiiiiiiiiight !!!! Just the fact that he is single but on Ashley Madison .... YUCK. No, not his child. But i had to do some research to get to this conclusion... He's capable of everything, I know for sure. offrail, how's everything with you and your so called friend? I just realized no friendship is possible. He didn't even greet me for my birthday, his friendship, as well as him romantically, really sucks. Ugh Link to post Share on other sites
OffRail Posted August 28, 2014 Share Posted August 28, 2014 No, not his child. But i had to do some research to get to this conclusion... He's capable of everything, I know for sure. offrail, how's everything with you and your so called friend? I just realized no friendship is possible. He didn't even greet me for my birthday, his friendship, as well as him romantically, really sucks. Ugh After feeling really strong for a couple of days, I am feeling weak again. I need a kick in the pants, girl ! Not a word from my so-called friend. None. Going strong at close to 2 weeks of NC. F**k him. But I really want to call him and chew him out. Help ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted August 28, 2014 Author Share Posted August 28, 2014 After feeling really strong for a couple of days, I am feeling weak again. I need a kick in the pants, girl ! Not a word from my so-called friend. None. Going strong at close to 2 weeks of NC. F**k him. But I really want to call him and chew him out. Help ! Humm.. do not. But this book instead: why men loves bitches. do yourself a favor and stop chasing him. Link to post Share on other sites
Natsu21 Posted August 29, 2014 Share Posted August 29, 2014 ^Why is it for women who say they wanna move on to actually block their exes like they do guys they aren't interested in? Link to post Share on other sites
emotionalMess Posted September 1, 2014 Share Posted September 1, 2014 OP, It's been a while since I have posted here and I wanted to check in on some of the good people who have helped me along with sound advice as you have for me. I have not been on a date since my split which is perfectly okay. I am happy to report that I have made great progress towards indifference. I may be there already. Here is a story from earlier this week that may help you. I've had a crush on a girl at my gym who is way younger than me and very attractive. I have had numerous fantasies about her over the last few years. I caught up with her after the gym closed and we chatted for a bit. Turns out, she is into me. So much so, she even asked me out for a drink. During our chat, she started going into detail about her situation which is somewhat unstable and I sensed some insecurity. Guess what? I don't have a crush on her now and I don't really wan't to have that drink. My message to you is; keep working on yourself. People want what they can't have. You want what you cant have - him. He doesn't want you because he can have you anytime. I know the above is stating the obvious, but I thought it would be a good real-world reminder for you. Take Care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted September 3, 2014 Author Share Posted September 3, 2014 We want what we cannot have....so true. As far as myself, I'm soooo sad and depressed. Coming to terms he is not interested at all even to say hello. I guess he liked the pic because he hit the button by mistake. Whatever. This is never gonna change and he is fu..vk..ING boring. I want him because he's unavailable but he is plain boring and stupid. He knows nothing and all he's been doing all his boring life is hooking and flirting with woman. That's his only talent. I'm depressed I'm realizing what a scumbag he is and I've lost my precious time on him. Can't believe it. Now I feel empty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted September 7, 2014 Author Share Posted September 7, 2014 (edited) saturday... all my life without John. How I'm gonna cope? I miss him. He's not missing me. He's not looking for me. How I'm gonna do? Why I'm still pinning for this guy? I got a new job, I'm finishing my bachelor, I have friends and people who d care for me,... why I am still sad all the time because this guy rejected me???? I just don't understand. I could have any guy /i want yet I want him, a loser, a forty something troubled guy who doesn't give a s...h...it about me or my life. Please help me understand why this is happening because I'm sick of feeling this way. Way too much time, two years of misery for what... God I'm suffering right now I have an oppressing feeling. That's what I'm feeling. Like I'm trapped and cannot move on from this nightmare. I know the guy is not right for me yet I keep hoping...hoping what for gods sake??? Im conscious but I can't move on. The guy is not into me why I'm still hoping he will magically fall in love with me and my Facebook profile??? It's been more than 2 months since last time we spoke but feelings are the same. I still love him like the first day Edited September 7, 2014 by irresolute Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 You're hurting because you got rejected. Period. He's way too old for you and you say he's troubled and say he's basically a player. You served a purpose to him, and once he was done with you he rejected you. The rejection is the only reason you're hurting. I've figured out the same as I've been in the same boat. My ex is the opposite of good for me, but my heart WAS hurting and I couldn't figure out why until a few weeks later. It was the rejection, plain and simple. You feel you never meant anything to them. That, and that alone, is the reason for the heartbreak. You have to get past this, and you will if you realize some simple things and move on living your life. You WILL get past the hurt. Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irresolute Posted September 7, 2014 Author Share Posted September 7, 2014 Yes. Rejection us hard to handle. I just can't believe I'm insignificant for him. Honestly. I can't stand this feeling. I'll never be ok. I've lost hope. Two years already and still feeling crappy because I love him. Link to post Share on other sites
letmoc Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 Yes. Rejection us hard to handle. I just can't believe I'm insignificant for him. Honestly. I can't stand this feeling. I'll never be ok. I've lost hope. Two years already and still feeling crappy because I love him. I say this gently, but you really need to try to get some help from a professional on this. This is not the least bit rational at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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