BrokenPrincess Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Don't contact again & find someone else (single) to have fun sex with! I'd leave his # in your phone though so you know who it is if he resurfaces. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sunshine2345 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Share Posted June 13, 2014 Thank you for your support and advice! This feeling sucks. I feel used, angry, hurt and horrible. Nothing would make me happier than to see a message from him pop up on my phone. That isn't going to happen thou. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sunshine2345 Posted June 13, 2014 Author Share Posted June 13, 2014 I guess I need to join a "How to get over him quick" forum before I go bonkers 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 It's was purely sex and fun! But still I dunno. Do I contact or delate his number? Do you realize how easy it is for a woman to find sex and fun???? Forget this man, he's not your's to worry about. Find another willing guy to have fun with- one without a wife. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Storm Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Thank you for your support and advice! This feeling sucks. I feel used, angry, hurt and horrible. Nothing would make me happier than to see a message from him pop up on my phone. That isn't going to happen thou. But isnt sex & fun just a mutual agreement to use each other for entertainment and pleasure? It sounds like you emotionally invested in him, which isn't surprising since sex releases bonding hormones. It's natural, but can make things a lot more complicated. Maybe he sensed you were getting too attached. Focus on the character of this guy, and tell yourself that the only reason you are feeling so upset is because the bonding hormones (oxytocin) are doing what they are supposed to do. It's not because you had an amazing and true connection with him. You are sad because you valued him (or his attention) and now you are feeling that loss. In reality, he is not valuable (as he's a cheater, liar, inconsiderate) and you did not lose anything. He may feel like a benefit, but he is a liability- especially to your sense of self worth. If you adjust your thinking, maybe you can see this as a bullet dodged instead of a lost love. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 It's was purely sex and fun! But still I dunno. Do I contact or delate his number? No. Leave him alone. He knows how to find you when he is ready to resume the affair. To vent your frustration, write him an email, but don't send it. Don't you deserve better than this? Don't you want better than this? Seems like he is taking up so much of your head space and he has other things to do than contact you. Anyone can send a text - takes 15 seconds. The fact that he hasn't is a sign to you that you are more invested than he is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 Perhaps it's been low self-esteem over the years but I accepted this treatment and let a friend/eap back into my life many times after periods of him just completely going silent, twice for months at a time with no warning. Who wouldn't want friends like us huh? I just wanna assure u he will be back and that this pattern will continue over and over. If your gonna let him back in, least do it with your eyes wide open and don't plan on thinking your the exception or that this time will be different. I fully vote for block him from text and email and you will never even give him the chance to drop back in when it's convenient to use him again. Silence speaks loudest. Link to post Share on other sites
herself Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 I meant to say above when he is ready to use you again Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedMarriedOW Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 I also got silent treatment and I finally had enough. I blocked my xMM everywhere and I am already healing. Within days I can't even imagine ever being with him, he disgusts me. You need real seperation and a solid cut off to really see someone clearly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sunshine2345 Posted June 14, 2014 Author Share Posted June 14, 2014 Do you think he will get back in contact one day? I'm not convinced, something inside tells me otherwise. However I would like closure to this in a mature way Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 He's obviously made his decision. Unfortunately, whether or not he contacts you again to end things officially or not is not up to you so you'll have to give yourself closure instead. Consider it over and begin healing. Also remember how this feels if and when he does contact you. Hopefully it'll help stop you from getting caught up in it again. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SunshineToday Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 I'm hoping that he does eventually contact me so that I can vent my fustration and put him in his place!! I will not be used, picked up and dropped when it suits him! You already were used when it suited him, can you see? Don't cling to hope that he pops back in. Don't cling to the hope that you will get some proper goodbye. It rarely happens. You are already on the path to healing by not having contact. Talking to him will just set you back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedMarriedOW Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 Take it in your own hands and don't give him the choice. Believe me, this works, it will help your self esteem enormously. Do the following; Send a text or email that says: "our connection was extremely unhealthy, I do not want to chance you ever contacting me again so I am blocking you everywhere, anything you send will not be received, I wish you well" Then, proceed to block him in every location you can think of. Link to post Share on other sites
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