He went from texting everyday to nothing?

[amyO]

I hooked up with this guy the last week of school and he actually ended up being a real sweetheart. The last month he texted me every day since we had been home from school. He then started a full-time job and became a little busier. However, even at work he would text me. He was also always the one to start the conversation, but i would make sure to text him sometimes first as well. In the past week, he hasn't texted me and i've been the one to talk to him first. I texted him twice to start talking and his initial responses were fine. He would text back right away and say "heyyy! Sorry for being the worst texter lately-i've been very busy!"

 

I'm just a little confused as he made texting like a priority between us and even joked that i was the worst texter.(i get distracted easily haha) I thought it meant a lot to him. I don't understand how he could text me every day and then not anymore? We haven't seen one another since we live over an hour away from each other. Our conversations did get repetitive, but he was always the one to initiate conversations and ask me questions.

 

Based on his responses, do you think he's still interested or kind of over talking to me all the time? :/

[Michelle ma Belle]

I think you already know the answer to your own question sweets.

 

You're not officially dating or in any kind of relationship with him. You hooked up, you had a few good chats and now it sounds like he's over you.

 

Sorry but sh*t like happens all the time.

 

What were you hoping would happen with this guy?

[mortensorchid]

Some get into texting and things and then suddenly *poof* they vanish or never respond again. It happens.

 

 

I went on an Internet date on Tuesday and I never heard from him again. It happens. Move on.

[RachR]

It's really so hard to tell with text kind of things. Do you ever talk on the phone and actually hear each other's voices much? He may truly be a lot busier. He might be getting bored. Who knows. I don't recommend using texting as a main form of conversation. You can't tell inflection, can't tell if the person is actually willing to set aside time to talk to you because most people just text as they go along when it's convenient and it's not as dedicated as taking time to make a phone call. Personally, I find texting gets old and boring fast as a main mode of conversation. And it's a neverending kind of thing. With phone calls and webcam chats, it's a conversation that has a beginning and ending and it's better that way I think. I like texting mostly as for random comments to one another or to touch base. But not everyone is me.

 

All that said, it would seem he's losing interest in at least some way because a really interested guy will stay in touch more than what it's coming down to, in my experience.

 

Sort of off point, but I've even had someone text and we set up a date, him say he's looking forward to it, and never heard from him again after he flaked. It just happens and it's pointless to overanalyze.

 

Why haven't you seen eachother in over a month? And with only living an hour away?

Edited June 14, 2014 by RachR

[todreaminblue]

text t me is an icebreaker...if there is too much ice you dont break through...and i normally give up..its nto worth it honestly caring fro someone who can be bothered to reply....i much prefer face to face over an electronic device ir even a phone, i swear once when was abtou to go on an online date the guy has a voce changer..threw me because hsi voice changed and he hung up its creepy.....i have to knwo a guy honestly and i use texts to break ice not that i need it for conversation but that they need it i feel a commincation problem adn or shyness might be there and so i make them as confortable as i can with texts first so they dotn have to feel anything liek pressure to communicate oen word two word whatever ...ignorance i cant handle....goes nowhere fast no ice broken................deb

[amyO]

It's really so hard to tell with text kind of things. Do you ever talk on the phone and actually hear each other's voices much? He may truly be a lot busier. He might be getting bored. Who knows. I don't recommend using texting as a main form of conversation. You can't tell inflection, can't tell if the person is actually willing to set aside time to talk to you because most people just text as they go along when it's convenient and it's not as dedicated as taking time to make a phone call. Personally, I find texting gets old and boring fast as a main mode of conversation. And it's a neverending kind of thing. With phone calls and webcam chats, it's a conversation that has a beginning and ending and it's better that way I think. I like texting mostly as for random comments to one another or to touch base. But not everyone is me.

 

All that said, it would seem he's losing interest in at least some way because a really interested guy will stay in touch more than what it's coming down to, in my experience.

 

Sort of off point, but I've even had someone text and we set up a date, him say he's looking forward to it, and never heard from him again after he flaked. It just happens and it's pointless to overanalyze.

 

Why haven't you seen eachother in over a month? And with only living an hour away?

 

 

 

 

I should have added in that a month before we hooked up, he broke up with his girlfriend of little less than a year. In a sense, I was definitely a rebound. I honestly didn't care though because I was getting over another guy as well. I didn't think much of this new guy, but we talked a lot and had common interests so i decided to give him more of a chance.

 

We tried hanging out about two weeks ago, but he's trying to get into the police academy and he had a physical the day we were both free. I also want to believe he doesn't want to bring me to his town or anything for the fact that he just broke up with someone. It would be strange if we hung-out at his house or for him to bring someone new home right away.

 

I guess i wasn't expecting much from this guy, but he was pursuing me so hard and was saying how happy he was that he met me this year that I guess I was excited and wanted to see what could happen between us.

 

I havent had the best luck with relationships and guys- i seem to get burned a lot. It's definitely partly my own fault, but it sucks to get attention and then have it stop suddenly.

 

I've been thinking a lot lately and i think i liked the attention from him more than actually liking him. I guess it's all a part of the experience and hopefully i'll find someone soon that really cares for me.

[amyO]

I just find it so strange that someone can text you literally every day and then suddenly stop. I've never had this experience with another guy where they want to talk to you all the time and then not anymore. I thought it was weird how much he texted me- it was almost too much, but it was nice to see that he was interested in what I was up to during the day and asking how i was. I've usually only had guys text here and there - definitely not every single day.

[J21]

For whatever the reason, his interest in you has fled. If he was interested he'd still be texting no?

[Dallers]

Too much texting and not enough happening.

 

I get bored of texting V.quickly. I need to move to first date or contact otherwise I get bored and move on. It also means that I do not waste time on a lot of people who are just after a buddy to give them attention there a lot of those.

 

He probably just had someone come along that he could be with in person and that is why he has gone quiet.

[nofeelings22]

I just find it so strange that someone can text you literally every day and then suddenly stop. I've never had this experience with another guy where they want to talk to you all the time and then not anymore. I thought it was weird how much he texted me- it was almost too much, but it was nice to see that he was interested in what I was up to during the day and asking how i was. I've usually only had guys text here and there - definitely not every single day.

 

Exact same thing just happened to me.

 

When you get this mystery solved, I'd love to hear the answer.

[ExpatInItaly]

I just find it so strange that someone can text you literally every day and then suddenly stop. I've never had this experience with another guy where they want to talk to you all the time and then not anymore. I thought it was weird how much he texted me- it was almost too much, but it was nice to see that he was interested in what I was up to during the day and asking how i was. I've usually only had guys text here and there - definitely not every single day.

 

He could've met someone else, hooked back up with the ex, any number of things. It sucks and it will sting for a little while. But eventually you'll move past it too!

[aprilisi]

I hate texting. I think it kills attraction, hard to get to know someone with a sentence here and there. I've decided to tell the next guy I don't text and to call me. If he puts in an effort to call I will know he's somewhat intersted.

 

Now, if you're already an item or just setting up a booty call its great to have....

[deathandtaxes]

Usually two reasons. 1)Met somebody else. 2)Not interested any longer.

 

 

The best way is just to follow their lead. If they don't respond, don't keep sending texts just to keep something going. Follow a 1-1 ratio in texting. If he stopped, there's nothing you can do, it's just not meant to be.

[KatZee]

I had a guy talk to me EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. for three months straight.

 

We would talk on the phone for hours, he would text me when he woke up, when he got to work, when he got home, when he had dinner, when he went to bed. We literally talked ALL the freaking time.

 

We went out on dates, and then one day, poof. Gone. Not so much as a grunt in my direction. Just gone.

 

He was off the grid for 2 weeks. In that time I deleted his number, deleted him off FB and just chalked it up to another coward pulling the "ghost" game. Then one day bam, there he is texting me.

 

We're like in casual contact now, although I never initiate at all. It's always him. Turns out he wasn't ready for a relationship, didn't want to date, just wanted to "do him" and that was that.