King Bowls Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 (edited) Every year, me, my cousin, brother, aunt, and grandparents go down to south texas on a 11,000 acre ranch for vacation. We've been doing it since 2000 and it has been something I look forward to every year. Here's my problem... First off, ill start by saying my younger brother is a pain in the rear end. He wines and complains till he gets his way, and will be nice to you when he wants something from you. He is selfish, and has a huge ego. All of this at 18 years old. He has a girlfriend he's been dating for 3 years now, and he wants her to go with us on this vacation My grandparents have said no him many times, and now he went to my dad, told him they said no, and then my dad brought it up at the table last Saturday and all of the sudden EVERYONE agreed to let his girlfriend go. Talk about a spineless bunch. Now, I'm the only one who doesn't want her to go because it's family only, and I like to be out In the south texas brush country with just my family, not having some "friend of the family". Plus, my brother and his girlfriend see each other enough. They think they are married. I'm just really mad and frustrated about this Ill add more details if needed. How should I handle this mess? Edited June 15, 2014 by King Bowls Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted June 15, 2014 Author Share Posted June 15, 2014 Has nothing to do with growing up, I'm angry about my grandparents all the sudden changing their mind. I don't want a teenage girl there who brings a bunch of gossip. You would understand if you met them in person. And I'm 20 btw, any more questions? Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 No more details are needed. Go and be the family member that will let all this roll off your back. Enjoy your other family members, be gracious to the girlfriend, and remember that dozens of years from now, you probably won't remember any of this drama. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 Every year, me, my cousin, brother, aunt, and grandparents go down to south texas on a 11,000 acre ranch for vacation. We've been doing it since 2000 and it has been something I look forward to every year. Here's my problem... First off, ill start by saying my younger brother is a pain in the rear end. He wines and complains till he gets his way, and will be nice to you when he wants something from you. He is selfish, and has a huge ego. All of this at 18 years old. He has a girlfriend he's been dating for 3 years now, and he wants her to go with us on this vacation My grandparents have said no him many times, and now he went to my dad, told him they said no, and then my dad brought it up at the table last Saturday and all of the sudden EVERYONE agreed to let his girlfriend go. Talk about a spineless bunch. Now, I'm the only one who doesn't want her to go because it's family only, and I like to be out In the south texas brush country with just my family, not having some "friend of the family". Plus, my brother and his girlfriend see each other enough. They think they are married. I'm just really mad and frustrated about this Ill add more details if needed. How should I handle this mess? they've been together for 3 years and has been around enough to be a part of your family. Not sure how old you are, but do NOT let this get in the way of going. Who cares if she is there! Just enjoy your time with the family and be happy that you are all together. It's rare that families do this and it won't last forever. One day your grandparents will be gone and you might regret not going. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 Has nothing to do with growing up, I'm angry about my grandparents all the sudden changing their mind. I don't want a teenage girl there who brings a bunch of gossip. You would understand if you met them in person. And I'm 20 btw, any more questions? This family trip isn't all about you. Your grandparents have EVERY right to change their minds! Are you actually paying your way for this trip? My guess is no... At 20 years old, you're an adult now and need to learn to let stuff go and understand the bigger picture here. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 How does your brother's girlfriend coming along 'ruin' your vacation in any way? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 easy peasy...don't talk to her while on vacation... Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 I would imagine it's incredibly annoying both that he's with someone while your single and he can get away with murder when it comes to authority figures. Not to mention the fact he's your younger sibling. My mother treats my younger half-siblings way better than she treated me and it just makes me want to smother them with a pillow. I used to have fantasies about drowning them in the bathtub while babysitting when they were younger. That being said, it doesn't sound like there's much you can do about it. I couldn't really drown them and get away with it so I feel your pain. Just gotta find a way to make the best of it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jbelle6 Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 I would imagine it's incredibly annoying both that he's with someone while your single and he can get away with murder when it comes to authority figures. Not to mention the fact he's your younger sibling. My mother treats my younger half-siblings way better than she treated me and it just makes me want to smother them with a pillow. I used to have fantasies about drowning them in the bathtub while babysitting when they were younger. That being said, it doesn't sound like there's much you can do about it. I couldn't really drown them and get away with it so I feel your pain. Just gotta find a way to make the best of it. LOL. You little ray of sunshine! OP, just ignore them and do your own thing. He's been with her for 3 years so I'm not surprised they are letting her go. I had my boyfriend from junior high all through high school, he was pretty much family at that point. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 Honestly, why does it matter that much? They have been together 3 years now. Just be courteous to the girlfriend and enjoy the vacation. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted June 16, 2014 Share Posted June 16, 2014 It sounds like the problem is your brother, not his girlfriend. It's not like they've only been together 3 weeks...they've been together for 3 years and I'm assuming they're both adults. I don't think bringing his girlfriend is the problem...it's his attitude. You don't want to confuse the two. Otherwise, people will look at you like you're the one with the problem. Just go on your vacation and enjoy it anyways. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 This family trip isn't all about you. Your grandparents have EVERY right to change their minds! Are you actually paying your way for this trip? My guess is no... At 20 years old, you're an adult now and need to learn to let stuff go and understand the bigger picture here. Well it's not a payed trip, were going down to a ranch. But you're 100% right Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 How does your brother's girlfriend coming along 'ruin' your vacation in any way? Because he always gets his way, and it's gets annoying real quick to even hear them talk to each other Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Because he always gets his way, and it's gets annoying real quick to even hear them talk to each other Do you all hang out in the same room all the time? Then bring a couple of good books and use the time to bond with your grandparents separately from them. This is a relatively easy thing to deal with and you are letting this "he always gets his way" issue stick in your craw. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author King Bowls Posted June 17, 2014 Author Share Posted June 17, 2014 Do you all hang out in the same room all the time? Then bring a couple of good books and use the time to bond with your grandparents separately from them. This is a relatively easy thing to deal with and you are letting this "he always gets his way" issue stick in your craw. If we're all lounging and on our phones or watching a movie then yes. Since this ranch is so big, ill just go on long walks and look for arrowheads and artifacts, chop cactus, look at mesquite trees, and go try to shoot hogs, even if its 110 degrees outside. Or I can sit on the front porch and read. Or shoot off the back porch. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Or shoot off the back porch. This speaks volumes... :rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 17, 2014 Share Posted June 17, 2014 Just go and have a good time. If she annoys you, go do something away from her for a while. I don't see how this is a big deal. Someday you will want to bring a girlfriend to share your family memories with too. And you will hope your family is kind and inviting toward her. Your attitude is going to determine your experience. If you go with the flow and have fun, you are going to have fun. If you focus on your brother "getting his way", you are going to be miserable. Link to post Share on other sites
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